I am 21 years old. Just turned 21 in September. Anyway, my parents don't get a long. My mom went out and bought a dinky Christmas tree that her and my brother could handle according to them because she said my father doesn't put up the tree. You see, they haven't been speaking to each other for a real long time because they're not getting a long, so she said she didn't want to ask him to put it up and put it up herself the week before last. My father actually put up are actual big artificial tree just yesterday because my mom through down the other one after a family fight we had last Monday in which I insulted the small dinky tree because she was nagging at me and my brother. My brother just turned 27 and recently moved back in so she was fighting with him and me. Anyway last year, my dad put up the real tree real late, like on Christmas eve or something, and my mom got all mad at him. Anyway who's side are u on?
2007-12-24 05:03:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
NEITHER I DONT HAVE TO LIVE WITH THEM THANK GOD
2007-12-24 05:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think if the family is fighting about a Christmas tree then there are other underlying issues that need to be confronted before Mom and Dad can agree on anything as simple as a Christmas tree. Your Mom was being passive aggressive by going out and buying a "dinky" tree that she could handle, implying that since your Dad wasn't doing his job in putting up the already owned artificial tree within a reasonable time period of Christmas Day she would make it painfully obvious that he was lacking. No one is right and everyone is a little wrong, or went about a solution in an untactful way. Dad is either too self-involved to realize his family might enjoy the Christmas tree being up at least in time to decorate it and enjoy its festiveness a couple of weeks or he does this on purpose because it is always Mom nagging him to put it up. So he considers not putting up the tree an action against her and not the family. Since the sons seem to be capable enough, next year they should try putting up the tree for Mom and maybe circumvent the whole belatedly erected Christmas tree (and by whom) argument, though it seems doubtful. If that seems too unrealistic maybe someone other than Mom should ask Dad to put it up since communication between the two is lacking.
2007-12-24 05:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad. If she doesnt ask, how he is going to put the tree up? And your brother is big enough to handle the tree. Try not to be in anyone's side, is going to be worst.
2007-12-24 05:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im on both sides, after all it is the trees fault... every year there are different ''theorys'' on where the tree should go, what color lights, what size should it be... i have to admit the christmas tree is always a hassle. best of luck and merry christmas =)
2007-12-24 10:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by el_taco_con_queso 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In cases like these you can really make a world of difference by showing love to both of your parents. In a love relationship one who is hurt has to forgive the other. Perhaps you may try to tell both of your parents that it might not be a bad idea to forgive each other and start afresh.
2007-12-24 05:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by Uber Faith 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one. Why don't you and your brother grow up and start helping out. You guys are a little too old to be acting like children. Quit complaining
2007-12-24 05:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by Alissa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart you and your brother are old enough to be living out on your own.
There is right side in this thing. It's all dysfunctional.
Your parents are behaving childishly and you and your brother need to get out of the house and get job, live on your own.
2007-12-24 05:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I would have to say with your mom on this one. It sounds like they fight a lot, they really should try to work it out, and you should help.
It's always hard to get in between them, but I wouldn't tell you to choose one and be on their sides. You need to tell them that your not choosing, and Christmas just wouldn't be a good one with them like this..
Happy Holidays !
2007-12-24 05:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by brittany 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Neither! I would tell them both to grow up and to shut the f up. I tell my parents that all the time. Well i dont say the F word but i do shut them up
2007-12-24 05:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by sourgirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it takes two to argue. sounds as if they both need to sit down and do some serious talking as to what the problems are
2007-12-24 05:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by wolfe0312 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its never good to be on one person's side. it just leads to more conflict. they really need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk. No yelling and no damage.
2007-12-24 05:15:59 · answer #11 · answered by The Heartbreak Kid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋