Ok! I am confused by yahoo answers! Am I too old to be living at home and what is the appropriate age to move?

Question

Ok, I turned 21 in Sept and I am confused and it is mainly because of yahoo answerers. Last year, I was concerned that I was too old to be living at home, but the majority answers 20 is not too old to be living at home and I have until I am about 24 before it's considered inappropriate to live at home with my parents. But it's ok until then, but that I should be working or at college while I live here. So I felt comfortable with that. Anyway, I recently asked a question and I added that my 27 year old brother who never went to college recently moved back in. He was living here for a few months earlier this year but got a girlfriend and moved in with her. Anyway, they apparently got in a fight and she kicked him out. He ended up in jail and my father got him out. Nothing like that has ever happened to me. Anyway, now whenever I speak of this situation on yahoo answerers, now the majority is saying we're both too old to be living at home and need to move out. ) : / so I am confused 21

Answer 1

I think it all depends on your situation and if your parents don't mind having you there.

Answer 2

You don't need to listen to what people on Y!A say, it's just a suggestion or an opinion. When you ask a question, you have to realize that some people are going to answer back with things that hurt, or don't make sense to you. Almost every question has an answer like this. But you also have to realize that when you asked the questions, you didn't ask for specific answers, therefore you cannot get angry because somebody didn't answer the way you wanted them to. You shouldn't be hurt by this-you're the one in the sticky situation, and you're the only one who knows the complete story. These people are just trying to help, without realizing what they're saying is confusing you.
What I think, though, is that there isn't a certain age that's inappropriate to live with your parents. It's your life-not the people on Y!A-and you have to decide for yourself when you think it's an appropriate time to move out. I don't think that either of you are "too old" to be living with your parents. When your parents have had enough of you or you're READY to move out, then THAT is the appropriate time for you to move out. When you or your parents are ready for you to go. You're not too old to be living with them unless you think you are. And the people who answered the last question have no idea what they're talking about. You are never going to be too old. But about your brother-he's just lucky that your parents took him back in. If he's not ready to go away from your parents after all he's been through yet, then that's okay. If you move out when you're positive you're ready, then kudos to you! And if you decide to stay because you aren't ready, then kudos to you again! ;)
-Claire ;)

Answer 3

Whether you live at home or not is a specific circumstance depending on what your living situation is and what your parent's financial situation is.

Are your parents rich? If they are, and they don't mind you living at home - then you are not being a burden and it is okay for you to live at home.

Are your parents middle class? If they are, then these are the factors you need to decide whether to move out or not:
1. Do your parents want you there? If no, then you need to leave.

2. Are you in school full time and under 21 years old - if yes then you can stay until you graduate and/or turn 21 (whichever occurs sooner)

3. If you are not in school, are you paying your parents at least $600 a month in rent? If not, then you need to move out or start paying them $600 a month. The reason you have to pay rent is because you are being a financial burden on your parents. It is costing them an extra $600 a month to feed you, laundry, give you shelter, etc... As a good son, you wouldn't want to put that burden on them - would you???

Also, if you are not in school, then you are a full fledged adult and should be living on your own. There is no reason for you to stay living with your parents and a lot of your peers will think less of you for staying at mommy and daddy's house (unless you are in college of course).

I hope this helps your confusion. You can't compare yourself to your older brother because his circumstances may be different. It sounds like he needed temporary help - and sometimes kids move back home TEMPORARILY (under 3 months) get get back onto their feet after a "fall" in life.

Answer 4

Well it is nice that you can live at home until you are on your way in life. I moved out when I was 16, its not a easy world. However I think that if you are attending school, and your parents are ok with you living there it is ok that you reside there. But it also is important for you to learn responsibility and get a job, also since you don't have bills of your own at your age my best advice would be to build up your credit so that when you do move out you are set to go, credit is a big deal when you are out on your own! Best of luck to you! And time will tell you when it is right. It may not be a bad idea to voice this concern with your parents and ask what steps you should take to be ready to go out on your own. Happy Holidays!

Answer 5

Well, hispanics stay home until married and no one thinks anything of it. I think any age is ok depending on circumstances, for instance, an older person in their thirties if they just got divorced. It depends on why you are at home...are you in college? Working? Saving money? Or just leeching off your parents? After 18, you'd better have a game plan or you are just being lazy. But really, who cares what yahoo answers has to say? Only you know what is right for you. The fact you think about it so much means that you feel you should move out, IMO.

Answer 6

I think both of you are old enough to be out on your own now, your parents have raised and supported you for 21 and 27 years, it is time to give them a break, time for you to stand on your own 2 feet.Every body needs a little help now and then and may have to move back home until they get financially independent,I'm talking a couple months, not indefinite, you have to start being a man now and not depend on your parents. Hope this doesn't sound mean, I was not trying too be mean, just honest.

Answer 7

Everyone has a different opinion. If you ask 100 people this you might get a 50/50 response. Quit worrying about it.
At your age you should be contributing rent, or to bills, and helping with chores, have a job or going to school. If all youre doing is laying around or partying then you are a leech. Only you can decide the answer because we dont know your total situation.

Answer 8

It's a personal choice and really up to your parents or whoever you live with. I moved out at 20. I had a good job where I was able to pay bills and still have the extras. Don't worry about what other people say. When it's time to fly the coop, you'll be ready. Happy Holidays!

Answer 9

If you are going to school or saving to move out its OK, the age of 24 is about the age when you should have a degree.
The reason to live at home, is to cut costs of going to school.
Its never OK to take advantage of your parents by not contributing, either with paying for food and rent or helping around house and yard.

Answer 10

i gotta good idea!

why dont u ask the Munsters? Your life seems to be very similar to theirs.

and look at cousin it. He is so old and still living at home. Not to mention the ghosts living under the stairs. What a liberty. I bet they dont even pay council tax.

mmm...

Now im confused. If the ghost of Munster can live in house without paying council tax.. then why should I?

OH MY GOD! Yahoo answers has made me confused also. I tell you what, lets all boycott yahoo answers cus cousin it is so usless and cannot make any decisions that even a five year old can. move in.. move out!? who cares?

get a life.

Answer 11

I don't see how it's that weird. Your brother should probably move out, but if you are in college and living at home is more convenient for you, then I don't think there is anything wrong with that. If you can afford an apartment though, you might want to look into moving out.