My fiance and I are barely making it financially right now. We have a 7 mos. old and he just started a job Friday. He's been out of work for over 30 days and I only work part-time. I bought our son a ceramic stocking for $1.00 and painted it for Christmas, that is all we could afford. My fiance keeps joking (I hope) that he is excited about his gift from me on Christmas. I've tried telling him I have no money and no way to buy him a gift but he acts as though I'm just building to a great surprise tomorrow morning. Any suggestions for a money free gift? I feel terrible but it's just not possible to buy anything. I think he knows this, but I know his mother will buy something for me and say it's from him, making me look even worse.
2007-12-24 03:56:25 · 25 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm WORKING today, we can't afford internet access at home and our computer blew up this weekend while trying to type a letter.
2007-12-24 04:03:19 · update #1
Do you know the story "Tale of the Magi"? The story is about a young poor couple. The girl cuts her hair and sells it to buy a watch chain for her husband. He sells his watch to buy her combs for her hair. They give each other the gifts at Christmas, and they are both happy for they realize the greatest gift is love. What greater gift can you give? Write him a letter telling him why you love him. Perhaps it will mean more than a gift that will only wear out or break.
2007-12-24 04:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by Ell 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband, above all people should be aware of your financial situation. He's more than likely just playing around. Guys can be that way. Remember... Christmas isn't about the gifts. Anything you give him, he should be grateful for.. especially where you're at a life right now too. It's the thought that counts.
I say you should try and get your mother or father, brother, sister... someone who is willing sometime during the day (of course not all of it since they need to have their fun too) to watch your son. You could make a nice dinner, breakfast, lunch... according to when your son isn't home... and maybe watch a movie together. Maybe you could be romantic and do something sexy, which i'm sure you could come with ideas of your own on that one. I personally, did not have any money for my parents gift this year so i just made them a card. My dad who didn't really buy my mom anything, last year drew "I love you honey" in the snow. My mom went wild.
Money and materialistics aren't everything. Be creative!
2007-12-24 12:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by Goose Feet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have the money then you don't have it i didn't get my husband any thing for christmas because we didn't have the money to but i made sure that my kids had atleast one gift to open and thats all the matter and if he thinks you got him something and you really didn't then just tell him that you didn't get him nothing becasue you didn't have the money thats what i told my husband i told when i get my next pay check then i will get him some things and he said that was fine so maybe you just have to talk with him becuase either way the baby will get gift from other people so don;t feel bad that you didn't get him you know in your heart that you tryed and thats all that matters or hope you have a merry Christmas.
2007-12-24 12:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by ga_el_mi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At that age the stocking will become a keepsake and that will matter more. Your baby won't remember but will always have something from his first Christmas. Right now you are making memories for him so that is a wonderful gift from the love of his mommy that will last for years to come, can't say that for some toy. He is your gift. Happy first Christmas little one.
2007-12-24 12:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by luv_doesnt_hurt_lies_do 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a Christmas basket fund in your neck of the woods? Maybe you can sign up for it.
Also, your son is just seven months old and will probably not know what is going on anyway.
Have you ever made a sock puppet? He might find that fun, especially if the puppet is funny!
2007-12-24 12:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by suigeneris-impetus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have each other. You (hopefully) have a roof over your head and a warm meal every day. Remember what Christmas is really about, not the presents, but about each other (and celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ).
Tell your man that and I'm sure he will understand.
I hope all this works out.
Merry Christmas.
2007-12-24 12:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard, my wife and I just got on our feet after struggling for what seemed like ever, hang in there the holidays seem like the loony time of year. Just wake up in the morning and give him a big squeeze tell him you love him and that is all I can come up with, It is what I gave my wife one year it was a mutual thing that was hers to me too. *hang in there* and Congrats on your health, child, and a man that loves you for who you are. Keep smiling and it will work out eventually ,you just gotta have that attitude every day. Things will start.
2007-12-24 12:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by TIMM M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may be hokey, but you could make little "coupons" for him. Like "redeemable for a free backrub" and other things that are free but thoughtful. That way he knows you're thinking about him, and will be pleased with your creativity during a financially tight time.
Merry Christmas to you & your family.
2007-12-24 12:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by Pooty Pootwell 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope your fiance is joking or he's just being a jerk. I'm sure he knows the financial situation you guys have and knows that it won't be possible this year. One free gift that is popular is a 'coupon book' that you make with coupons like 'one free backrub' and stuff like that.
2007-12-24 12:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by nietzsche_thinks 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure your fiance will understand your difficulties... There are alternatives but I guess it's too late to do by now.
Couple years back I used my origami skills and made a glass full of stars (I'd say about 1000 pcs.). When I gave it to her she's sooo happy that she cried hard. It wasted me no money (I cut my own paper strips) but it took me almost a month of free time to prepare it... secretly...
Good luck!!
2007-12-24 12:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by BBQ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋