we love each other to death, although i believe she deserve something better and i wish her every good things, but i feel she is not open to me. in the other side I have a close relative, old man, who I loved but now i just have fear feling toward him, i told him that, but he haven't reply yet... any suggestion plz?
2007-12-24 02:18:19 · 7 answers · asked by saned 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
jazzy l
thank u for ur answer, i have been trying to avoid talking with my old relative about this, i sent him a long messege explaining my feelings and still didn't get any reply. my gf is my life, and she is the only one i pray to have in both lives, i trust in her more than truting y self, she is a big mercifull angel, i just wish she trust me enough back.
Caitlin
your answer is a bless, thank you, I've just talked with my gf for 3 hours. i always asjed her to share her fears and problems with me, this time she explained again for me that its not because of me that she can't be open enough with me, she have a bad family history in relationships and marriage. i wish she let me more in, all what i can do is offering her my love and trust, and wish the time will come that she have more trust and can open up more and share to let me help.
2007-12-24 05:05:21 · update #1
my dear friend alexandriaferrari1,
thank you a lot for your valueable advices.. i assure u that im an open sheet for her, and she is also sharing but she feel that no one can be trusted enough even me to take the barriers with her, to help solving her problems, her zodiac is virgo and she is so realistic and pragmatic in planing her life and future, more details: her parents got divorced lately, her sister and sister in low too, her aunt and other close relatives and friends lately or before have been got divorced , she told me she believe it's a curse in her family , i wish i can make she trust that i will never leave her and i will do my best to serve and help her out in her brilliant future. she is my paradise and my life and more but nothing less... i believe by time and offering my continouse true love and trust she will understand how much i care and love her, enshallah. and will try to not talking about marriage till she is ready....
2007-12-24 05:11:54 · update #2
although a few days ago she told me that she had a dream about us getting married, but she stopped talking, i could feel happiness in her eys but also a great sad too... I will keep praying to deserve being with her, she is more than a sweet angel.
2007-12-24 05:12:44 · update #3
in the other hand dear alexandr.. my old relative has always been a rule model for me, he is a successfull surgen, and i loved him as a father, just tow days ago i spent nice time with his family who i love and they love me back, but i noticed as before that he is not happy for this relation between me and them. thats why i feel scared of him, because i believe now he have never love me before specialy when i rememebr the time we had together, maybe he can't show his love, that's why i sent him a long messege this morning but still haven't get any responese yet... what is ur advice to do now, should i set up a meeting instead of messeging him? or try to contact him, or just forget about him?
2007-12-24 05:22:50 · update #4
Dears Sakura & prahlad d,
thanks for passing by and commenting, I appreciate it.
2007-12-24 05:25:49 · update #5
Dear pharaoh_102, thank you i pray for the best of all, alhamdulelah its much more better now with both sides.
and enshallah our destiny be for the best, amen.
2007-12-25 03:42:45 · update #6
Create TRUST among both the parties, ur g/f and ur old relative and they will accept u as their special person.
2007-12-24 02:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by prahlad d 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your GF a sweet card and write your heartfelt emotions in it. This may seem hard to do at first but once you start you will find yourself explaining your feelings much easier then face to face where you might get feel akward and not get out all the things you want to say. Tell her you love her but wish she could be more open with you because you are also her best friend.
Same thing with your older relative but be more simple and direct write a letter to him and just explain why you are feeling like that...for whatever reason you have for feeling fear. If it isn't something terribly bad to you..and I hope not..then explain what a wonderful person he has been in his life. Sometimes old people can be a bit crabby and stubborn so don't expect a miracle. Do you feel fear because you might lose him or his behavior lately..whatever post these letters to these individuals. YOU will feel better knowing they know how you have been feeling and it will be a burden off your chest even if they don't respond exactly how you want.
2007-12-24 03:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course we like the attention of other men. Its nice to feel attractive. But it is a different story if your girlfriend encourages the attention and plays on it for some time. A second glance is always flattering, but mutual flirting is something else. Naturally, a girl can't just shut down a guy right away, but after a few minutes of conversation, she should have mentioned her boyfriend. I don't know what this all means for your relationship, but I would be a bit apprehensive if I were you. Hope this helps.
2016-05-26 03:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by machelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for your girlfriend you should come out and say that you would like some more attention. The best advice I can say is make a plan with her. The plan needs to be based on your individual relationship with her. I know for me and my boyfriend I felt he was not giving me as much attention as I would have liked from him and we worked out an agreement and ever since we put the agreement in place it has worked. I did the same thing with someone close to me. We have an agreement and then if something comes up then it does but we both move on. Well, in order for her to be open with you she needs to trust you. I know that in some circumstances trust is very hard but trust is one of the things needed in a relationship. My boyfriend goes first and shares things and is open with me and I go after him and share things with him. I am very open with him. I truly love him and I trust that he has my best intentions at heart. Trust can always be fixed. It just takes time. You have to work on it.
2007-12-24 03:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you afraid to be open with others? why do you fear this old man? if you told him you are afraid of him and he has not responded perhaps you need to open up about what he does that scares you. as far as the girl friend maybe you are just being overly cautious about her? trust is a beautiful thing and in order to develop and maintain a relationship....you have to learn to trust.
2007-12-24 03:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by jazzy l 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no other way but to tell them, but this may mean pressuring or demanding from them and the more they tend to flee. If you are compatible to each other, based on zodiac and birtdates, even if you don;t say a word, you 're destined for each other.
2007-12-24 19:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by 36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm having the same problems with my bf. >.< i don't know how to fix it either, so when you find out please tell me =[
2007-12-24 02:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by Sakura 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋