What should I do???

Question

I have done literally EVERYTHING for christmas. I did the shopping, I cleaned the house for realatives visting on Christmas day (husbands) I've wrapped all the presents, etc.. All I have asked of my husband is that he come home today from work during his 2 hour lunch break (works 5 mins away) so I can shower before we go out tonight to visit family. We were suppose to go to his aunt and uncles (last minute plans made yesterday without me knowing) and then to my moms to celebrate christmas tonight (have had the plans for monthes!!!) We have 2 kids one is going through the terrible 2's and the other has SERVE behavior problems that we are currently working with a doctor with. I literally cant shower to go out with out my daughter getting into god knows what with her disorders and he chose not to come home during lunch because they had a nice christmas lunch there. I ready to pack up my kids and go to my moms and blow off the aunt and uncle thing because MY family is willing to help

Answer 1

That was wrong of him if he was able to get his lunch break and come home he should have. Honestly I would just go and do that why should his family be more important then yours anyway. Are his parents bothersome if not maybe you should invite them to yours and your parents christmas it would be wrong for them to miss out on seeing your kids for the holidays just because your husband was being inconsiderate.

Answer 2

I can totally understand your situation, but don't do anything rash...especially today. My Daughter has a similar situation with her Husband...he works all the time - goes to work before the kids get up and doesn't come home until well after they've all gone to bed (and none of them are disabled either) - I think he does it to escape from his responsibilities of parenting. Do you ever get the feeling that you're taking care of 3 kids and not just 2? (One being him) You're right to be mad, he is showing you no consideration or respect at all.
If he's usually a good husband and father then you might want to cut him some slack though at this time of year, but take your time getting ready to go out tonight after he's gotten home for the day....take a long hot shower - and then take...say...two hours to put your makeup and clothes on...that'll teach him!

Answer 3

That really sucks that he won't see that you need help with your children. I know it gets really hectic during the holidays. Marriage should be a great compromise especially with children with special needs. He needs to be much more sympathetic to your feelings and understand that you do a big job and he needs to contribute with his support to his family because its hard when its just you. Good luck and hopefully you guys work things out and let him know that it is really a big issue to you so he can do better next time around

Answer 4

sounds like you need to take your kids with you, go to your parents house and leave him. get somewhere nice where someone will let you take a shower at least!!! that was not responcible or respectful of your husband. i say leave him at home for the rest of the holidays to spend it alone. and then have a good chat with him about how rude, unsupportive and mean that was.

Answer 5

that's selfish of him but dont make it worse by retaliating. You should talk to him again in a calm way and let him know that you are ticked off and ask him again to come home during his break.....it's not going to take you TWO hours to shower! try to make the holidays a really good memory.

Answer 6

I'd be telling him he better get his *** home and help take care of these kids. And if he didn't, the first chance I got I'd leave and he can stay home all day and take care of the kids.

Answer 7

I'd say bring them to your families, who knows maybe your hubby is out getting you something special

Answer 8

Don't take a shower or clean up. when he complains that you smell, tell him you couldn't clean up because he didn't help you.