Hi all. okay so about 1 week ago I found out i was pregnant. But this is a huge situation! im 25 and my boyfriend (who i have known for some time but we only went out for about 3 months and we werent too serious) was 26. The situation is, is about 1 month ago (he travels alot for work) he was in a car accident, had to go to the er and died in surgery. It was very upsetting and i cant even imagin how it was for his family. Now i dont know what to do. How do i tell his family im pregnant?? We only really met once. Please Please help!! Thankyou
Ps. I am also 100% sure it is his baby.
2007-12-24 04:18:49 · 8 answers · asked by Stephanie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The family should know - send a card to the mother letting her know that she is to be a grandmother and if she wants to be a part of the child's life you welcome her. You know this is a difficult time for her but hope that her knowing a part of her son is still here will give her comfort.
A heartfelt note is a great way to break the ice and put the ball in her court. Don't be hurt if it takes her and the rest of his family a while to come around and if they don't respond be sure to send a picture of the baby when it arrives.
They may be doubtful and even leery of your intentions (they may think you are looking for money). Just be clear you thought they might like to know and that you would like the baby to know it's whole family.
Good Luck!
2007-12-24 04:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, im very sorry to hear about your situation. And, first off before I give you any advice, I wish you a ton of luck!
I think that you should call them and say that you need to get together with them for dinner or something, because it's very important.
You have to tell them as honest as you can, when you first walk in don't just say it aloud, you should talk to them for a little while, and make sure that you say that you are very upset about the loss (even if you didn't date him for a very long time) and tell them that you really miss him, but you are in fact pregnant with his child. And, you thought they had a right to know.
Im very sorry, and I hope everything gets better for you.
Best of luck !!
2007-12-24 12:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by brittany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they will acctually like the idea of how their son will live forward in yours. Just go to them and talk a bit about him, then when you think they are ready you tell them. Don't say it just like that, just talk a bit about their son before telling it. It will be quite a shock but I'm sure they will be supportive since this baby is most probably the most valuable thing they have left from their son. Just let them have the joy of getting to know their grandson.
2007-12-24 12:32:28 · answer #3 · answered by Marlieke89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As honestly as you can,I suspect they would be happy that a little of their son is still alive,may be not right away as they may be still in shock from the death of their son,may be once the baby is born,and with paternity test in your hand you can take the baby to visit and go on from there, good luck
2007-12-24 12:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by Loretta M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an ultrasound and put in frame and wrap it up. Ta DA Christmas present for cheap 2 for 1
2007-12-24 16:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you met once - what was their reaction to you? If it was welcoming, they will probably feel that an extension of their lost family member will be welcome (not always the case).
However, if they were very stiff toward you, perhaps it would be better to get to know what they are like before you tell them.
2007-12-24 12:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by csi_2_be 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You go and just tell them. The guys parents will be very happy because they'll have a part of their son.
2007-12-24 13:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by debbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They`ll probably be happy about it as it`ll be like a part of him lives on through his child.
2007-12-24 12:34:45 · answer #8 · answered by onlyme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋