Family - December 2007

Okay, my brother has anger issues!
This is long, if you don’t like reading that much then don’t read it & blame me for wasting your time please. Sorry if I sound rude, I’m just rlly mad.
He has anger management just like my dad so whenever we play a game like arm wrestling & I win he takes his hand & slaps me across the face & kicks & punches me! WTF is his problem? One time, he got soooo mad at me he grabbed a pair of scissors and started walking toward me holding the pair of scissors like that crazy Chucky doll & my mom was right there with her eyeballs glued to the computer screen & when I couldn't back away any longer, I got shocked until I moved the other way & then I started screaming, crying, & yelling at the top of my lungs because my mom didn't go anything then she told me to go to MY room & that everything was my fault & because I was screaming, yelling, & crying....she thought  I  had anger management. Isn’t anger management when you can't control your anger? I can control mine deffinently but Alex & stupid dad can't! Since I’m the older one, I’m the one who gets in trouble & yelled at most of the time, gosh. He even throws things & knocks things down. I’ve been fed up so many times, I’ve always gotten the feeling about reporting this to the counselor but whenever I’m about to [when mom & Alex finds out] Alex starts burst out crying, screaming & throwing a tantrum & mom says all these really mean harsh things to me saying that she doesn’t want to live with me anymore, she just wants to runaway from me, why am I chosen to be her child, I never cause any happiness, that I’m never nice, & says all this crap even though I always help her & tries to cheer her up when she’s down most of the time. And whenever we get in a fight, & only a few of the times, he gets in trouble & then when my dad is lecturing him, my mom’s giving me this evil glare at me saying that I’m the child of the devil. Wth? Something seriously is wrong in my family & I’m sick of it! Why is my mom doing this to me? And one time, my dad abused me leaving me with marks, head damage with blood dripping from my head, muscle/bone aches, & all these harsh remarks & he’s been doing that to me until I told in him & I’ve been having flashbacks ever since I was 3 yrs old when that crazy bastard humped me with clothes on & I was really depressed at that time & I’ve been holding a grudge at him for so long & I still do b/c he got away with it & made me look bad instead saying that I lied because my mom told me to [there’s more to it but that’s not what the main problem is right now]! I have no idea what to do! I can’t ******* live like this nomore! So anyone, help? I would love to run away & start a fresh new life in 2 years when I turn 16 yrs old!

2007-12-24 01:04:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

since my sisters husband touched me i feel uncomfortable around him, i am not sure if it was on purpose or an accident (he may have thought i was my sister). i am 17 years old and he is 35 years old. i don't want to cause problems but i haven't told my sister about it yet and not sure i should. also i don't want my actions to say something gone on if there are not anything to actually done. i am so confused over this because i also have other pressing issues with my boyfriend. i don't want to deal with this also. any help is welcomed, IM's or emails are also welcomed that can help.

2007-12-24 00:41:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My dad left me when i were 2 because he didnt want to pay for me. Well my boyfriend and me have been arguing and he said your just like your dad i never new him, OH neither did you! he left you to i wonder why he left you! and i cant believe he said it. Why did he say this? To hurt me? Im 14

2007-12-23 23:02:51 · 12 answers · asked by ILoveYouLewis [: 1

They have told me that her mother has every right to see her, and by law she is aloud a minum of 3 weekdays and 2 nights per week, since she hasnt done anthing illegal. do you think this is corect or should i be calling a different lawyer. my daughter is 15, and even though she refuses to see her mother, (kye has no respect for the women that abonded her when she was 1 month old, and i dont blame her, but i have never influnced her choice about this, i have never ever spoken a single bad word about her.) my lawer said that if i do not allow her mother, and force my daughter to see each other, that lana could sue me. any help please??

2007-12-23 22:57:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My name is Jennifer and I am 14 years old. I think there is something wrong with me. I hate going out and partying and I don`t care for other teenagers my age. I stay home and study all the time, I make perfect straight As. I am in the ninth grade but I may be skipping up to eleventh grade next year. People tell me I am dependable, smart, and responsible. They also always tell me what I should be doing, things that don`t intrest me. Like going out and that type of thing. I`m not into that. However, I have this obsession with becoming a mother. I know it is crazy, that`s what they all tell me. Every time I see a woman with a baby I go nuts, I just want my own so badly. I have babysitted but it isn`t the same. I have OCD, if that makes it worse. I`m worried because people have told me how hard of work babies are. I have seen the shows on tv where they make them care for the baby for a week and they have a hard time. Won`t change my mind. You will all probably call me crazy, but ok.

2007-12-23 22:52:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

family treats me like I am invisible again even though I nearly died a month ago and I want them to care but no they will not for if they did they would have called me and seen how I was when I was in hospital etc.

I may go-- maybe in error --but want to not let them upset me like I usually do,..how can I anticipate and head off their hurtful behavior and no one giving a darn which is quite apparent to me or how can I let a tiny concern they might show for a second be enough and get out of their before I cry for the 8th Christmas in a row,,if I decided not to go, how could I not offend my sister and how could I get out of it. (that is a reasonable excuse)

2007-12-23 22:33:35 · 9 answers · asked by janie 7

My dads cousin is about 45 or so. I'm 23 anyway he has cruelly picked on me since i was 8 or so. Everytime i see him the attacks get more & more intense. Now he yells at me, says horrible things about my mother and threatens me. I get so scared by being around him. I seriously haven't done anything to offend him, I like darker music and that's a major problem with him. HE's a super christian and anybody who doesn't beleive the way he does is evil. I'm a nice person and try to always be one. He's a heavy drinker and a serious momma's boy and he's always mean.

2007-12-23 21:55:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I split up with his mom when he was 3 years old I have always been a good father and spent as much time as I was allowed by the court. I owe a little back child support. If I have him live with me I told his mom I don't want her money for child support. I just want my son to be happy. hes doing bad in school under his moms roof. she say im not responsible and that is not true what so ever. I used to drink a lot when I was younger I made my mistakes in life. I have a good job and a nice place to live on the Lake. Im sure his mom is going to bring up the past 13 years ago, Im a loving father and always have been there for my son. I did get a couple of DUIs over ten years ago. does the judge look that far back. I dont even have a speeding ticket in the last 10 years. His mom is threatening me with the past. his mom does not work and wont drive him anywhere becouse she says she has a medical problem with her eyes or somthing. his step dad is gone at work most nights. help

2007-12-23 21:19:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I feel like I'm screw up. I try to do everything right, but I don't and I get yelled at. I try my hardest but I guess I just can't do it. And I try to say the right thing but it never comes out the way I want it to. My parents are always yelling at me because I 'screwed' something up. So is there anything I can do make me better? Or is there something I can say to my parents?

2007-12-23 21:07:00 · 15 answers · asked by Eugene's Girl 2

July 07 my mom and dad got drunk and blasted on my husband in front of our daughter who got soo upset that she was literally sick. This has happened to me before in past with promises that will never happen again. My dad starts drinking and all out of no where will become crazy voilent and start yelling and cutting down the person who hes with at the time... even wanting to get physical!! since my mom to whom i was very close with has never stood up to him and then always blames something else for his actions she is just as bad!! well i am having my sis niece and other family over christmas eve and now she starts calling my sis for a guilt trip.. she is only 5 min away from me and this will be their 1st christmas alone and YES i do feel horrible but they have caused so much hurt in my life and my childs that why should i even feel sorry for them!! maybe if they would have gotten help over summer and realize how truley hurtful my dads words r then it would b different.IS THIS WRONG OF M

2007-12-23 21:02:15 · 7 answers · asked by Hope h 1

Hey everyone. My story with my sibling is a really long one so I'll try to shorten it. My sister is nineteen and still acts like she's 5. When we were kids, she treated me terribly and beat the crap out of me all the time. She gave me two concussions and my parents just don't seem to give a damn. :| Now we go to the present, she gets pregnant and has a baby.

She couldn't go to school so she comes back and moves in with us because my parents are too 'nice' or something. They didn't think about me and what she used to do with me. At the most random times when I'm trying to be the nicest, she turns into a complete biatch and makes me want to knock her lights out. I might seem like an asshole, but really I'm not. She's ALWAYS giving me reasons to hate her! I've even told my parents upfront that they need to kick her out before I try moving out, but they just told me: "She's our daughter why do we have to kick her out." Uh, they have another one too! That person's me!

What do I do..?

2007-12-23 20:48:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I cant tell if my mom is suicidal.she is on oxycotin and they our now taking her off becuz she took 2 entire bottles and almost died.they say she didnt no what she was doing bcuz of anoda drug(my mom is and ill woman)but i think she was in the right mind since i had talked to her minutes before she took the drug.I went to bed and wook to find my grandparents taking her to the hospital and the pumped her stomach.About half an hour ago i started getting curious so i searched the play room where she spends most of her time and found a plastic bug with a prescription drug in it..I searched the web and found the name of the drug(Taztia).So now i am even more worried.
And before this she called me and my brother out to the playroom at 1 in the morn to tell us she loved us.happened(we did not no what she had done at the time)but idk if she was truly in the right mind,She wanted me to wake my father so he could lay by her in the playroom but change her mind.
I am going insane so plz help me.

2007-12-23 20:45:56 · 8 answers · asked by robmasta11 1

too little to sit on his own and eat then. I'm really worried she's going to do it again this year, since she's bought an even smaller table than she had last year. I don't understand WHY she did that since she has 4 kids who are all married and she has 8 grandkids. I'm NOT allowing my kid to eat on the floor, especially HERS because she is a terrible housekeeper. I want to say, "Oh, NO! MY kid is not a dog and can sit in a chair." What should I say so that I don't offend anyone and start WW3?

2007-12-23 20:19:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK, I and my bf have been together for two years. Every xmas day, in those two years, we always spent it at his mom's to have dinner and little party and such (his parents divorced but still are good friends). and every thanksgiving we spent it at his dad's. He always spent it that way before he is with me. On xmas, he goes with me and my parents to church in the morning. I was just thinking about celebrating xmas with him and my parents a whole day long on a trip or something, but I was worried that his mom would freak out and think that I steal her xmas thing with her son. My bf is fine, he is more than willing to do it, but i just dont want to make his mom sad and think that way. but i also think that if she freaks out and gets upset, it would be very selfish of her since my parents never really had a chance to have a good time together with both of us. what do you guys think?

2007-12-23 20:04:38 · 9 answers · asked by ViTheDuck 2

i have to drive from providence, ri, to new britain, ct, tonight for the get together, but i dont want to. what excuse can i make?

i dont want to buy gifts, i dont like long drives, and i did not buy anything to wear. i'll just go on new years eve.

2007-12-23 19:58:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Its christmas eve 2nite and for my 10month old sons first xmas me and my partner decided that we would spend it at my parents house to save us from having to save my son from the xmas tree. My parents house is 1hrs drive from here and tis now nearly 8pm. I asked my partner to tell his work that he needed to be home early because we had a long trip. He is suppose to finish work at 6ish but never does because his work asks so much of him and i have never complained and this is the one night I wanted him to be home because we never see him and now cause we are going to be so late I told him we cant go to my parents house. The worst thing is my son has nothing here now cause all his presents were picked up today by my stepdad to make my partners life easier. Now my familys christmas is runied and its like my partner doesnt care. Do i have the right to be mad?

2007-12-23 19:56:24 · 7 answers · asked by Jemjems_Mummy 3

I met my father twhen I was 14 . I'm now 27 . I was wondering should I reach out to him in the spirit of forgiveness? I have 2 sons of my own and they have enough grandparents. I would be doing this for me not them...

2007-12-23 19:42:22 · 15 answers · asked by m t 3

My daughter-in-law and I would like to contact my sons (her husbands) father, they've never met, My son was raised by another man, but is still curious about his biological parent and we believe my son would like to have a relationship with him. We do have his address, we're just not sure what to say when we contact him. He ( the bio parent) is married with two other children, both grown. He paid child support for my son, so the wife does know about my son. Any suggestions?

2007-12-23 19:42:13 · 4 answers · asked by michelleann49684 1

I'm in a tough situation. I had been struggling since 2004. I had a horrible job with a horrible boss. I left the job to then be by my parent’s side. Dad passed away and I remained by mom's side and my granny's side. Both have health problem. After 3 years without working, I’m back on the workforce. I’m working part time. Not the best job but still close enough in my field, Marketing.

I’m still living with mom and helping her out. But it’s out of control. I am flat out used. I barely have time for myself. Just this Sunday, I woke up went shopping with mom. We came back cooked the Christmas meal for the 24th. By the time we were done it was 1am and so I went to feed granny and she was giving me a hard time and didn’t want to be changed. I figured I would take a break, sit down and eat (2:30 am) and then go back finish up with granny.

Mom gets pissed and she is telling to go now take care of granny. Mind you haven’t eaten since i woke up! So i throw my food in the garbage ( I’m to mad to eat). I try to take care of granny she still giving me a hard time and so i go to mom for help. She refuses to come and help me. I'm so pissed and tired of this situation. During the week I work late hours. Mon-Fri I come home at midnight. Only to find no one took care of granny, no one feed her, no one cooked anything for her. But everyone is sitting and chilling.

Am I crazy??? Why is this happening to me? I’m trying not to snap. But a part of me just wants to throw the towel and just jump off some bridge. I’m currently trying to move out. My ticket is an MBA, I pray to go I get accepted because I don’t know what I’m going to do to myself if it doesn't happen. Any advice please?

2007-12-23 19:25:23 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

so my mom has been really rude for quite some time now, every bit of money I make she takes it,when i was working for her ex all last summer i only saw 2 or 3 of my paychecks, she took the rest, she always says im selfish, but im the one who goes to her every need and want, she NEVER cleans the house does dishes, all she will do is the laundry, and complains she has to do that, i am stuck with all the animal chores, we have alot of animals 4 horses a goat 3 geese 2 ducks i have to haul water to them every night and i ask her for help and she will say "no I told you todo it and I expect you to do it" she is always putting me down now she is shipping me to go live with my grandparens in florida,i recently lost my horse to colic, when we had to put him down she said she would take care of the bil and I could get a new horse if I wanted to, so I sold my arab mare a little before he died, i had already made plans to get her out here, my mom took my money for her and said i dont thnk you

2007-12-23 19:07:36 · 3 answers · asked by Amaloo 2

My Mom is always inviting her nephew over. He always come during the weekends, when my married sister is with her husband for the weekend. All he does in the house is eat then leave. On some occasions my mom let him sleepover. At first, I was okay but now it is getting annoying. To me, he is a freeloader in the house(eats then leaves). He has his own house, why can't he go there? How can I tell my mom that she needs to stop inviting him over and over?

Both of my sister's agree that my mom got an "obsession" with her nephew (he's about 30'ish).

P.S. My father is out of the house because my mom found out that he is cheating on her.

2007-12-23 18:54:14 · 3 answers · asked by jit3893 2

i have already said something to my husband about his parents being rude to our neice. he said he will say something to them the next time, but everytime we are over there he tends to zone out and not even pay attention to what is going on. my husband has talked to the girl's mother who is his sister, but she doesn't do anything either or when she does say something to her parents it falls on deaf ears. it pains me to see that this young child is being shunned and treated rudely. example: i was teaching her how to knit and she went and showed her grandmother and in a dramatic and sarcastic tone she said, "well, whoopee". i was very bothered by that because this girl is only ten years old and she was doing very well. i personally was offended because i felt as tho she was blowing off our skills because she doesn't know how to knit. this girl isn't an angel, but she behaves well with me because i respect her, but they don't. i don't have a personal relationship with his parents.

2007-12-23 18:29:25 · 3 answers · asked by lookingforanswersandquestions 4

Broke up with my ex of 13 years, 2 sons. Been fighting in court for 3 years for unsupervised visits. in that time i've seen my sons 1.5 hours per week for the last 8 months. She was upset the relationship ended & told C.A.S. i was abusive...NOT TRUE! they didn't check into my history i was guilty just because she said so...i have no criminal record. this is the third Christmas without my boys!

2007-12-23 18:17:36 · 3 answers · asked by chefsugar 1

2007-12-23 18:17:22 · 17 answers · asked by Scraggle_aggle_baggle_laggle 3

They both live a couple of hours drive from me and put pressure on us to come on Xmas Day.

2007-12-23 17:56:29 · 4 answers · asked by JazzE 3

My grandfather recently passed away. My grandmother who I believe has never lived a day on her own is now all alone. Is there anything I can do? I'm 20, live with my parents about 4 blocks from their house. I just feel like I should be doing something to help.

2007-12-23 17:42:35 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, I dont have as much as money as I did last year on Christmas. I only have $5 or so, so what can I get her? Something thoughtful & nice. Plz help me out.

2007-12-23 17:15:18 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok here is the situation

I was asked to go to my cousins house and he wasn't there. Thats fine that he wasn't there however, my car does not want to start so I call him. He says he'll be there in 5 minutes because he's almost done with whatever he was doing. But... he doesn't show for 45 minutes so I am pissed because he clearly explained that where he was and what he was doing it should not take more then 5 minutes to get there. Now I was like alright forget this guy i'm walking home. This isn't the first incidence that he has clearly let down me or a family member especially when your stuck. So then after walking he calls me an hour and half later saying that hes there now. Well let me tell you after that I let him have I cursed him out and everything. Because it wasn't the first time this has happened. Now then he comes into my home and threatens to kill me to my mother. Who is at fault at getting yelled at here in this situation and who do you feel got totally snubbed?

2007-12-23 17:12:21 · 15 answers · asked by Slick Vic 3

My fiance has suggested that we move in with his parents and i dont know what to do. I've got another year before i can start working full time. I reside with roomates and he lives with his family. The thought of me moving in with them makes me want to not get married besides i dont think his parents are too excited about me. We cant afford to support them and live on our own right now but if we did we would be dead broke especially trying to keep up the lavish lifestyle that they are accustomed to. Any ideas, suggestions? There are other family members that can chip in but they dont, so all finances rest on us, should i suffer it out or put my foot down, I have a feeling if i was to agree to live temporarly in the house my fiance would get comfertable and would never want to leave

2007-12-23 17:12:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay I ahve a five year old brother and a ten year old sister. They annoy me SO much I will just be talking on the phone or soemthing and they will yell from the bathroom "RACHEL GET ME TOILET PAPER" and well I don't want to go in the bathroom while they are sitting on the toilet. At the moment I am on a family vacation staying at my grandparents. Of course they get there way over EVERYTHING its not even funny! So, my brother and sister will be spying on me hitting, kicking me and I get in trouble. I just want to beat my grandma up! She also keeps threatning to take my cell phone away or will pin me and let EVERYONE tickle me. She also ALWAYS locks us out of rooms or shoves us inwhen I was 9 she still tryed to force me into bathes with my sister. She also is very rude she called my sister and I big tubs of lard. What kind of grandma says that? I need help!

How do I deal with:
Grandparents
Siblings
WITHOUT being mean

2007-12-23 17:06:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous