I wouldn't say I'm spoiled but I wouldn't say I am deprived either, but when I get straight A's, I expect something in return. My friend usually gets a B or two, but this semester, she got all A's. Her parents gave her $100. I asked my mom, and she said that I have somewhere to sleep tonight. I am just asking if it is fair that my friend, who gets A's occasionally gets rewarded and I, who consistantly is receiving A's doesn't get anything. I feel that since I work hard all the time, it is not a big deal when I succeed. Whereas my friend works hard once and gets soo much.Is this fair or am I asking to much?
2007-12-23 15:57:00 · 13 answers · asked by Ashley P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your job is to get good grades and you shouldn't get rewarded for that.
Your friends parents have made a big mistake.
2007-12-23 16:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have the same situation -- I know people who's parents pay them for grades, and though I'm a consistantly A student, my parents do nothing. *shrugs* I don't think it's quite fair, but I think it's better that they don't reward me. Good grades are something that I want for myself -- so that I can get into a good college, and, quite honestly, so I can say on forums like this that I'm a straight-A student. My parent's point of view is that I already worry too much about grades, and don't want to encourage me to worry more. I don't quite get it, but that's what they say. Yes, our parents don't appreciate just how much work it takes to get that A, but at least you can get a warm fuzzy feeling from the fact that your parents believe that you can do well even without motivation. (Even so, I'd rather have the money....)
2007-12-24 00:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by FantasyGeek 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's great to get rewarded for hard work, and clearly you've been doing well in school and I'm sure your parents are proud. Still, have you ever noticed that parents hate the argument 'but my friend does...!" Your mom doesn't seem to be very receptive to the money incentive idea, but maybe you could ask for something else so that your hard work can be rewarded. Why don't you ask that she take you out to dinner someplace you like to celebrate when you get a good report card?
2007-12-24 00:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by nietzsche_thinks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing - I was always on honor roll and got a "Good job, Meg!" but when my sisters excelled, the got something special. It's just the way it was - but you know what? The biggest reward is making the grades and your future will be extremely bright - quit looking to your parents to tell you you're awesome, because you are - you just need to believe it yourself! So, it's not a 100 bucks, but GREAT JOB! KEEP UP THE HARD WORK :)
2007-12-24 00:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by *Meg* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your friend, doesn't usually get the grades like you do, this could be a way of pushing him/her to do better. And
I say this with experience from getting straight A's, I used to get rewarded, but that was when I was in elementary school and was very young, now that i get straight A's but am older I understand that even if I'm not rewarded now, I will be rewarded later in life.
2007-12-24 00:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by sbslugger21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason to do well in school is for yourself. Don't expect to be rewarded for something you do that is completely for your own benefit.
Maybe your friend got the money because she has a hard time getting A's, but that's between her own family and her. She shouldn't expect it every time, and neither should you.
That way, if once in a while you get a reward, it will be a nice surprise.
2007-12-24 00:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't expect anything at all... you are helping yourself in getting into a college of your choice. Having a better career and a better life... don't piss it away by thinking that just because you get good grades you should get something.
That doesn't happen in the real world... so I'd start trying to break you of that way of thinking now. When you have a job and you do your job well... your not going to get a bonus or something every time you get a report done.. or get a client... or deliver something... that's not the way the world works...
BTW... you should point out to your friend that she is nuts in believing in that as well...
2007-12-24 00:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by pro_steering_wheel_holder 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If her mom wants to reward her for merely doing what is expected, then fine....she will become an adult who only achieves when she is promised a reward. You, on the other hand, will become an adult who knows what is expected of you without the promise of any reward and who will understand that there is no greater reward than good parents who raise their child to be a responsible, loving, giving, mature adult!!
2007-12-24 00:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think your mom's right.. when you work hard in your studies, it's for your own good.. maybe you could ask your parents for some things but if they wouldn't give it to you, you just have to be thankful for the blessings you receive.. getting straight A's is already a reward itself.. there's the sense of fulfillment..
2007-12-24 00:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by dylan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grades are a responsibility, not something to be paid for. Your better grades will get you into a good college and then a good paying job.
Slack off now and you'll certainly pay later.
If your parents are providing you with a roof over your head, buying your clothes, feeding you and keeping you healthy, I'd say they're doing their job. Paying you for good grades is not their job.
2007-12-24 00:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by mr_tasty_phlegm 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋