Tomorrow is Christmas Eve and of course that's the day for the WHOLE family to get together. I don't mind this, because I'm not a scrooge and I enjoy Christmas just as much as the next person but...it's some of my family that I don't enjoy seeing. Half of them are snobs and act like the world revolves around them. I always try my best to be nice, but it's pretty obvious that they don't like me and I don't like them. Frankly, I know that some of them judge me for my past and they don't seem to understand that I'm not that person anymore. I've been dealing with alot of things lately that's made me feel depressed and I'm trying to deal with everything in the best way that I know how, but I just feel like seeing them tomorrow will make me pull my hair out. How can I get through it without losing my mind in the process?
2007-12-23 15:32:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have to pull through this, if you don't you will regret it later. Don't let there closed minds destroy your holiday. When you wake up tomorrow and throughout the day you need to tell yourself " I got this". It may sound stupid but it works. While you are there focus on the positive. If you are comfortable with yourself and confident they are not going to judge as much. I go through the same thing with family get togethers and when I start getting upset I just think to myself : Do I respect these people, no. Then why do I care what they think" Whatever you choose to do, good luck. Remember you cant get these times back and you will regret it if you let them ruin it. Good Luck
2007-12-23 15:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by t-cup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice. It's Christmas. :)
We all have family members we can't stand. Just try to be polite, don't go out of your way to start anything, and if there are certain members of your family that you DO enjoy hanging out with, just spend as much time as you can with them, and avoid the ones you don't like as much as possible.
2007-12-23 23:36:51 · answer #2 · answered by KCbus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i hope you have one family member going that you can tell about like a sibling or something. you can confront them and tell them how you feel.what can staying awya form them do. they will just talk about you more my family is a buncha weirdos but i tell them straight up. there are only a few snobs in my family and i tell them straight up to there faces but nicely. you don't deserve to be treated like that. if you don't tell them now who knows how long you need to deal Whit it if you don't tell them tomorrow. i hope this is good advice to help you. i can tell your a good person trying to deal with people who cant forgive your from your past i had a friend were that happened to her and she did this and every thing is working out for her. . merry Christmas and happy new years.
~»hannah
2007-12-23 23:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by hannah h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prepare yourself now before the inevitable event. play it out in your mind of what you might anticipate. you enact what they might say and react the way you think you might.
when the day comes, don't go looking for them, if they are the type you say they are they will find you.
besides anything that they might say that is negative, doesn't mean that you have to stand there and listen to it, walk away.
leave them to babble amongst themselves.
And the other side to the story is, just by chance, maybe they have changed.
2007-12-23 23:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by benejueves 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem and i can help you. what you should do about this is try and stay far, far away from them as possible like go in the restroom or try and stay outside. make up excuses. But if you want to get along with them tell them face to face how you feel.i hope i helped if not contact me.
2007-12-23 23:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy. Make an appearance for a short while and the slip out! Reappear when things are winding down to say good-byes. No reason for you to put up with people who are judgmental and don't respect you for who you are today.
2007-12-23 23:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep cool, keep your attention on the member of family that you like... dont poke around with the person who you dont like(the snobby one). just think that everything will be finished in some minutes time.. it all play in your mind.. just keep cool and have a nice time with the family whom you like.. talk with them, mingle with them...
2007-12-23 23:38:16 · answer #7 · answered by G.SuN 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fake it again. Kill them with kindness. Keep asking questions and talk a whole bunch. Maybe then they will leave.
2007-12-23 23:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by David D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋