which would have more effect on kids behaviour grounding or spanking?

Answer 1

Well I don't know I say a good grounding might do. Because I am against spanking I grew up with spanking it became small tiny spanking and it graduated into something even more dangerous. For me it's basically teaching your kids that it's okay to hit and fight with other people. That's why there's like five fights every week at my school. You know what the students say, "It's okay for us to fight, because my parents hit me so I can hit other people," Or most likely they say, "My mom said its okay for me to fight if they're annoying the **** out of me."

Spankings never worked on me, not because I was unruly but because I grew up with the worst self - esteem. Maybe it worked on others kids but it never worked on me. I'm not saying that my dad was soley because I am depressed or bulimic but he doesn't help.

Frankly, I would say it depends on the child. Different methods work on different kids. For me? My mom and I talk everything out. Say for instance, okay I got a D+ in Algebra, basically I'm flunking. Now my mom didn't spank me, or ground me, or take away anything. Because what would that solve? Nothing just that I would be bored or my *** would be sore all day. But it wouldn't solve the issue of how to get a better grade in that class. Instead she sat down with me and she talked to me about why I'm not doing good in this class. She asked am I distracted? Am I doing all the homework? Maybe it's the tests (some people are good at subjects, but awful test takers), maybe the teacher wasn't good at explaining things well, etc. In the end we solved the issue and thanks to her I am being tutored two, sometimes three times a week for Algebra and slowly my grade will raise up.

See talking is easy for me, either that or my mom makes me write a letter. Not to exactly apologize(of course I did) but to explain why I did this, and this so we can have a better communitcation system and know each other better. Writing is good, since I love to write and writing usually makes spilling out my feelings so much more better. But for me the talking works best.

And am I a perfect kid? Hell no. I still make mistakes but I'm a living and growing person. But I don't drink, smoke, I'm not having sex yet, I don't do anything illegal, etc.

Now will it work for all kids? I don't think so, I'm hoping it will but that may not be the case. Of course, I wouldn't know because I'm only fourteen, but I'm explaining a method I think works best because my mom is using it with me. And do I respect her? A thousand and million percent, but I love my mommy so of course I do.

Hope I helped, somewhat. I know my little advice is kind of sucky.
~blondie.~

Answer 2

Grounding

Answer 3

You could end up like this............
More than 8,000 people - men, women and children live without a permanent home every night in King County. This is a sobering statistic, especially when you consider:

65%, or more than 3,000, are families with children
Children aged 0-17 make up 31% of the people living in shelters
More than 1,000 people accessing shelter or transitional housing on the night of the one night count reported a recent history of domestic violence
Over the course of a year, it is estimated that over 24,000 people will experience an episode of homelessness.
There are many reasons for homelessness and even better reasons for finding solutions.

Or your family can become more loving and care for each other..............

Answer 4

Grounding. A spanking is over instantly but teaches the wrong lesson that inflicting violence makes others do what you want. Grounding is long lasting and makes them consider their actions have real, long lasting consequences.

Answer 5

Try to keep in mind this phrase: "what would have gotten through to me at this age?"

If grounding doesn't work, and taking away their prized toys doesn't work, then you have to do whatever it takes to get the point across. As a parent, you only have so many years to get across to them everything they will need to go on to be successful young adults. If that means you have to get their attention by treating them like small children... spanking... then you will have to do that.

I've given this "talk" to parents who were at wit's end trying to reason with 16 and 17 year-olds that were acting out and throwing tantrums... sometimes throwing them over your knee and spanking them with a belt will get their attention and establish dominance.

Answer 6

fletch, which had more effect on you when you were a kid?

Which, then, would have been the best for you, now?
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Since fletch doesn't answer I guess a grounding would have more positive effect on his behaviour ... since we all know he would so enjoy the spanking.
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Answer 7

I have a teenager grounding and banning monthly allowance works a treat!!

Answer 8

grounding

Answer 9

Completely depends on a case by case scenario...

Answer 10

take away the privilege they most enjoy