if your son was in his third year of college, started to do a lot of drugs and got so messed up that he didnt want to go back to school the next semester to try and figure things out and sort out his life? i think i need to do this bc this past semester i got into a lot of drugs...coke x...etc...
i go to school in miami and i dont think i can handle going back in jan bc i think ill just keep doing wat i was doing and mess up in school.
im scared to have this talk with my parents bc i dont think they will understand and will just go nuts on me and tell me im wasting there money and stop paying for my school.
i know i messed up and thats why i want to stop but i just think they will not understand and will just flip out on me......
2007-12-23 16:06:26 · 5 answers · asked by CollegeKid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you are trying to quit, don't go back to that environment. You will start hanging out with your old friends and go back to your old habits. I think you should talk to people who know how to deal with addictions. Your parents will just flip out and punish you. That will make you feel worse. What you need to do is get a new plan. apply to a new school. Figure out where you are heading in your life because than you won't wan to mess it up with drugs. You need to establish a strong sense of self and a high self-esteem. A lot of ppl go through these sorts of things because they are fun and they take your cares away. You get to meet a ton of new people but what you don't know is that you are all connected because of an addiction and a lifestyle. These people aren't really your friend because they can't figure themselves out. Believe me, when sh+t hits the fan they will all scatter. Just talk to people who have been through this before and get yourself a new goal and go to a new school...
2007-12-23 16:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by bellaserah2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all parents love there children REGARDLESS of the stupid, f*cked up sh*t they may do. Yes, your parents will be upset and Yes, your parents will get over it. Your well being is more important to them than anything. However, you have got to STOP doing drugs - they are dangerous, expensive and NOT WORTH IT. You are not ready to back to school, in fact you should receive some kind of treatment for drug and alcohol abuse - this would be your first step in regaining your parents' trust. Secondly, you need to get YOUR head straight and really do some soul searching about what you want to do. If your parents refuse to pay for your college, there are plenty of other ways to do so on your own - (i.e. student loans and grants). You must understand that they will be disappointed with you and very angry at first, but will eventually cool down and ask you what they can do to help - but you must devise a decent plan and after you are honest with them, tell them what you think you should do and come to an agreement with them that everyone can live with. YOU NEED TO SORT OUT YOUR LIFE and you get that - that's the first step toward a better future. I believe in you and so do your parents - be a man, do the right thing and be honest. Good luck.
2007-12-24 00:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by *Meg* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just explain to them that it was more stressful than you expected and ask for a semester off to relax and find some things out. I went back to school when I was 27, and man it was tough. I had troubles motivating myself and feeling confident. Many students go through this and turn to drinking, partying, drugs, ect. A lot of this has to do with the pressure of being a full time student, independant, and an adult. I hope your paren1ts will understand.
Good luck!
2007-12-24 00:16:48 · answer #3 · answered by sherpa_jones 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe start attending NA... they will set you straight and tell it like it is.. you have to admit you have a problem to YOURSELF...
if you can't "handle" going to the same school, can you switch? perhaps in a new school you'd find "cleaner" friends?
people who have not been educated about addiction or haven't been addicted themselves, tend to misunderstand the concept and what it's all about, and what it takes to stop using.
i understand because i'm a recovering alcoholic.
take your parents to an OPEN NA meeting with you...
take care.. and do what's best for YOU...
2007-12-24 00:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you should seek help with the abuse you are endulging. Taking off could hurt your chances of fininshing school on time. But you have to take care of your self. Telling your parents may hurt them, but you do need them to help you. But only if you are willing to get the help. Don't put no more on your parents if you are not trying to get the help.
2007-12-24 00:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by springful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋