Family - October 2007

2007-10-07 22:46:27 · 16 answers · asked by justmebackagain 1

am not accepting my life at all its complicated ...i live in the middle east am 29.... my family r relgious and strict and i have brothers that they will kill me for any mistake ill do.. am not allowed to have fun or have boyfreind ....LIFE SUCKS am so open minded educated girl.... HEL[P ME PLZZ

2007-10-07 22:36:59 · 6 answers · asked by black cat 3

Ok so Ive been a victim in the past and dont want to be again. I am looking into installing a security system. So I have three children under the age of 5, and a husband that works nights sometimes. I constantly have visions of someone breaking in and killing my family members, I am paranoid to the maximum! So please, how do I defend my family? I already know to call 911 if I have a phone available, gather my family and try to escape or hide. But my idea is to grab my steel pole and swing as hard as I possibly can aiming at the head or stomach, I dont want to take any chances- I want to knock the person out! I dont have pepper spray, but I figure Lysol spray might work too. I have no idea what I would do if they had a gun on us. Please help ease my mind :) I dont feel safe. Thanks.

2007-10-07 22:29:06 · 17 answers · asked by SandLady 2

She was telling me about one of her friends and how she watches her grandkids and how much she loves it and how much my mil will love all this. Well, my mil said that the way things are now that she will be lucky to get to see her grandkids. How am I suppose to take this? Was this directed just towards me? We usually see his parents 1 a month or every other even though we live on the same street. It's not all my fault or my husbands. She hasn't ever called or invited us down to her house since we got married 2 years ago. I even ask my husband if he would like to invite them to dinner or whatever and he always says no. This isn't the first thing my mil has said to me. I think she blames me for my husband not ever calling or visiting but I leave that up to him.

Should my husband say anything to her about this? It really hurt my feelings. It's just after 4 years you think she would stop taking stabs at me.

2007-10-07 21:06:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

i need to confront a little bratt who meddled in my business, i know what i need to say to her, i need to tell her it was wrong and get her to admit what she did was wrong, and i need her to be sorry for what she has done, but she has to admit it on her own i cant make her say sorry to me or the other party involved in this, she sticks her darn nose into places it dont belong, i know she did what she did out of love and maybe some idle curiousity, but darn it the kid is a little scheamer, how will i ever be able to trust her again? not to butt into my busineess? and just how do i disapline her for this one?

2007-10-07 19:58:44 · 5 answers · asked by ♥musiclover♥ 4

Im 21 and my parents treat me like im a baby, I live at home because I have to find a good job to move out so I can pay for school, My dad dosnt let me go out and my mother is always in my buisness help

2007-10-07 19:45:59 · 19 answers · asked by sweetxoxo 2

there is this kid who is 16, boy. he is not going to school, refuses to go,even when you manage to get him into the vehicle to transport him to school. he hangs out lord knows where. he doesnt come home. he doesnt want to work. he smokes pot. he is a bully to siblings. and disrepectful to parents. he refuses to continue treatment like counseling. so you let the other parent deal with him because you tryed to do what you can and the other parent and the child say they think it bests for him to live there. OK.......he continues to behave in such manner, expect his anger esculates.........
POINT OR QUESTION......what would you do? how would you reach this kid? what else is out there? I know there is boot camp, but limited money....and most programs are volunteer status and he aint gunna volunteer, i already tried. any advice? i am worried about him and dont know what to do.

2007-10-07 19:40:47 · 6 answers · asked by beachgirl90 7

I am 24 year old female.

I am in college with a year left.

Full time student and I work 30 hours a week.

I also take care of her and I only get 1 day a week off
I take her shopping, talk to her everyday etc.

I recently lost 40 pounds.

But she always finds a way to tell me that I am not doing enough. When I tell her this semester I am getting A's and
B's, she asks me why I am not getting all A's. She is always
accusing me of drinking at night when she is asleep. She ALWAYS usto accuse me of sh*t I didn't do when I was a kid. I was always mature and had a paying job since I was 11.

She refers to me as "almost 30" when I was 16 she would refer to me as "almost 20" I don't know why she is always trying to make me sound like I am in a worser position then I am. I AM REALLY TRYING TO STRIGHTEN MY LIFE AND TAKING THE LSATS IN FEBUARY.

I look a lot like my father and I know she hates him. But WHAT IS HER F%CKING PROBLEM!!! I AM MATURE, I HAVE ALWAYS HAD GOOD JUDGEMENT, LV ME ALONE!!!

2007-10-07 18:43:02 · 10 answers · asked by Okay Hero 2

He's 55 (really) and has had I lost count how many strokes. We always have been close as in talked often, but didn't see each other often, and we live in the same city. Now it's like I allot him a certain amount of time, and I feel guilty when I leave. I know that he understands that I have my own life, work, habits, family and all, but I still feel like I'm just giving him his 2 hours every so often, and then I don't go at all to avoid that feeling, and it cycles from there. Last time I saw him he said (jokingly) "What are you doing here? It isn't a holiday or anything." I love my dad very much, and want to see him more, but go or not, there's either of two different kinds of guilt feelings attached to it.
Thanks all!

2007-10-07 18:14:00 · 10 answers · asked by herfinator 6

My son is 16 but acts alot younger. Diag, in 3rd grade with ADHD. Has been in therapy numerous times due to sexual abuse (that happened when he was 5.)
He spent a year (in 14 out at 15) at a christian youth academy for his defiant and rude behavior, and low self esteem issues...we have never been able to trust him on the computer EVER so we took it.
My husband and I keep our computers locked because of this.... but the times he has managed to get on the internet he ALWAYS looks at gay porn.
We have talked to him about this and he said that he wishes he looked like some of these guys and that is all it is. I do understand that every teen male goes through different things as they are becoming an adult, but I am beginning to worry. He does great in school, in honor classes and yet when he gets home he trys to act like the parent.
I am in the process of trying to get him help with another resident program, because as a parent I don't know what else to do... how did I fail him.

2007-10-07 18:12:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok so when im wiht my gf im always hugging her and kissing her on the cheak. and i like spending every seconed possible with her.

o ps we arent allowed to see each other cuz our parents dont allow it so we only see each other at school and sometimes on weekeneds.

2007-10-07 18:04:30 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I really dislike my mum i dont know why sometimes she doesnt even do anything just being in the same house as her really gets me annoyed my parents split up when i was 7 im now 14 and i only see my dad once a year, she always seems to be yelling at me and doesnt like anything that im into like she thinks soft rocks horrible music and i shouldnt listen to it?

2007-10-07 17:13:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

so my step dad just got mad and was beating my dog really bad. i plugged my ears and was screaming.. (i noe im childish.. im 15) my mom stood up and was screaming at him.. ( my mom is crippled and can barely walk) and he was yelling back. the whole time the dog was squealing... && i.m getting even more scared... then he stood up and swung on my mom. this turned my fear into pure rage because i.ve seen my real dad beat my mom too many times. my mom didnt back down. she was still in his face telling him to leave the dog alone. he was pushin her and i jumped in the middle so he started pushing me. i called the cops but my mom started yelling at me so i hung up. he started throwing our coach and stuff outside. my little sister (7) woke up and was hiding in the b/r. he finally stopped when the cops came and my mom made me not tell the whole story. she said it was just an argument and i took it over by calling the cops. am i wrong for not telling the whole story? how can i stop this???

2007-10-07 17:08:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

what should I do ? there is alot of money and other things involved

2007-10-07 17:04:57 · 7 answers · asked by Denise S 1

My boyfriend, who i trust, says his alcoholic step-dad abuses him.He says he hasn't told many people, and he hasn't even told his mom.I'm sure this is true, but i can't really see this happening,even though i've haven't met his parents yet.
I'm clueless on what to do, or kind of what to say.
ANY help please?
Thank-you.

2007-10-07 16:56:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I consider marriage very sacred. No good can came from affairs.Plus they are dangerous. She confided in me and I told her how I felt against it and I feel that me being truthful has strained our relationship. I believe karma and reaping what you sow. Plus I had a cousin killed by the husband of his lover. I rather have her mad at me then stay quiet and her being hurt. Many people have been killed in love triangles, and I don't want to be the person wishing I had sad something. Plus I would not want anyone interfering with my marriage.Plus anyone who would disrespect their spouse like that obviously has questionable character.I realize the decision is her's I just want her to know there are consequences.Besides it is not worth the trouble. BTW I Am single I think I was right do you?

2007-10-07 16:29:49 · 4 answers · asked by babygurl 3

He's always making little smart *** comments about me!!! He's all like "I love you dad" but I can tell he really doesn't mean it. I mean seriously what the hell did I do to deserve this. So one night I decided to get back at him and let him drink some wine at dinner...a LOT of wine. So when he passed out to sleep that night I snuck into his room and drew a BIG PINIS on his forehead and wrote "I LOVE BIG PINIS!!!!" HA! Then he went to school like that and he didn't even no! It was so funny he even got 3 detentions for it!!!! But then my wife got all mad at ME when he came home crying! Like I did something wrong??? I mean seriously he started it. Wot should I do to convince her??

2007-10-07 16:22:48 · 17 answers · asked by Bigferribunny 2

My sister asked me to go with her. It's a college thing. You go to Ecuador, volunteer for 2 weeks and have fun for 2 weeks. When I heard about this I didn't even think about it I wanted to go. It just made me so excited. I want to do more in life then watch tv. This is chance of a life time, to experience some thing so out of the ordinary. I hope to lean a lot. We going to be helping building schools for child and planting some trees. So many other things as will. The trip is 3,000 dollar plus plane ticket. My boyfriend says I can go but he thinks it's a completely waste of money. He said"If I was going to use 3,000 dollars I would buy something I could say a year from now I still use. I bought my car, I bought my TV etc. for less then 3,000 total. You didn't sat for five years you wanted to go to Ecuador. It just like you heard your still was going, oh I want to go too. I would not spend that much money for a trip. You go and come back with few picture and call it a day. You get nothin

2007-10-07 15:27:56 · 11 answers · asked by Random 3

he left my mom when i was a baby and has a family of his own and three kids, he never called me or anything. What would you do if you were me

2007-10-07 15:04:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-07 14:58:30 · 4 answers · asked by joanna w 1

My brother is 43 and I am 37......as long as I remember he has been very abusive.I have tried to stay away from him as much as I could but he always finds a way to give me a hard time....last year i had a baby and i was so happy , he is not married and got very jealous....the way he knows well is to wind my parents up against me......4 years ago I invited him to my house for lunch and that was when we bought a new house...he came in and was aggressively intimidating us about everything in the house.....7 years ago when I passed all the exams and finally started to work again he was up tight and would go around my parents and would tell them how bad and inefficient I was in my work place and etc etc....at the end I felt it was not a good adiea to let him know anything about my life because he always compares himself with me and gets unhappy....I asked my parents not to tell him anything about me and just tried to hide away to stay away from trouble but he tortures my elderly parents .

2007-10-07 14:48:09 · 6 answers · asked by wintersnow 2

I don't know what the deal is but over the last 8 months my mom has become increasingly emotional..I am 19 and I go to University in a city about 30 miles from my house so its about 45 minutes on the expressway every other morning when i leave she crys..and says johnathan i love you..i love you baby... have a goodday and she starts just sobbing uncontrollably... and then when i get home she asks about my day and i tell her whatever and then when i mention this girl im seeing she just starts sobbing uncontrollably again and she gets mad at me.... and just all the time she crys for no reason...today i was playing my guitar and she goes..I remember when you were alittle boy always strumming away on your first guitar..CRYS again and i have to calm her down... i tryed talking about it with my father and he told me just to let it go and comfort her but i cant it pisses me off that she cant control herself... What should i do? What would you do?

2007-10-07 14:47:56 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live in a big hosue in a nice city with 2 older siblings (16, and 19)
One is moved out going to college.
I get a lot of what I want....(I am not bragging!!)
But...
I have always wanted to live in a small house with lots of siblings
I dont know why though..
Why would I want to?

2007-10-07 14:46:32 · 15 answers · asked by A Girl 2

background information first:I am doing my Ph.d and it is my fourth year I just started my dissertation. My husband graduated from the same university &got a job in another state. he is quite far , about 1000 miles, and there're never direct flights because my university is in a small college town.
I am about six months pregnant.
we both feel stressed out about the situation because we do miss each other a lot. he gets lonely and plays a lot of vedio games.
question #1. how can i help him ge tting rid of bad habits of playing vedio games all the time without coming across bossy?
question #2. our baby is due next Feb. I am thinking that me and baby live on campus, away from my husband. I of course need help such that my mom is willing to help me for a couple of months while I am finishing up.But does this sound too horrible to take his baby away?(he is a ph.d/pd,impossible to relocate!)

2007-10-07 14:21:02 · 2 answers · asked by snowflake 1

phone
going places(no after school activities,friends house,no outside with friends)
T.V
phone
for a whole month cuz i lied to me mom about having my room cleaned so i could go to a party and she trusted me and i blew it( i was originally grounded for a week but them my dad found out and he grounded me for a month)
can you please help me with any ideas to still have fun while inside all the time?( i mean after studying and chores plz help and no smart as* comments please=]

2007-10-07 14:11:52 · 4 answers · asked by ♥RaWR 3

I know its personal but why? Have you ever made up despite those difference and how long did that take?

2007-10-07 14:03:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

my girl friend hate me and for the attitude i have is why i had to move being a couple of three for the past six years my boyfriend still loves me how do i stop being such a crab *** and mend my ways that bring us apart?

2007-10-07 13:22:06 · 4 answers · asked by Charlotte 2

I WAS ASSAULTED BY A FAMILY MEMBER FOR YEARS AND NOW THAT I AM AN ADULT I WANT TO CONFRONT THAT PERSON . SHOULD I? PLEASE HELP!!!!!

2007-10-07 11:11:04 · 7 answers · asked by LINDA G 2

I was going 2 leave her untill I found out she was pregnant. Now I can't get myself 2 do it. The fact remains that I am completly unhappy though. It has nothing 2 do with me entering the stage of fatherhood, I'm actually looking forward 2 that. It has 2 do with her not pulling her own weight. She puts nothing into our relashinship, but takes everything. I feel like a single man, but with out all the perks. She doesn't help financially, & she sure doesn't help around the house. I can't even get a cooked meal out of this lady. I grew up with out a mother, so I don't need 1 now, but what I do need is some help. I've worked so hard 2 get where I'm at, & I did it all with the only helping hand coming from God, but that only worked out because I was single. Now I'm about to have a family & I can't do it on my own. I live in California, & anyone who lives here knows how expencive it is. I know she's pregnant, but does that mean it's okay for her not to contribute 2 our relashinship anymore?

2007-10-07 11:10:07 · 10 answers · asked by True Goon 2

you drove 50 miles to see your parents and your dad spent all his time at your brothers helping him do his decking , fair enough i dont expect him to drop everything cause i am going to visit them , he spent all day there , came home for his tea and then went back there in the dark , you cant do decking in the dark ,i couldnt go and help them as my 4 kids would have been in the way , i see my parents every couple of months and my brother lives near them and sees them every day , i am really pissed off about this, would you be pissed ??xx

2007-10-07 09:08:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous