Family - October 2007

We are a middle class family who live in the suburbs. We arent like trailor trash or something. I go to a private high school and my dad works a white collar job. I just found out that my dad is an alcaholic and has been hiding it for 30 years. He has never been drunk near me and I have never even seen him drunk, but I found an AA book in our library that has his name in it and that he wrote in. What the hell do I do?

BTW my mom knew, but my sister didnt.

2007-10-08 11:39:38 · 9 answers · asked by Room Service 4

I have a question, how is it that someone gets mad at you writing them letters, I mean I Have this auntie, a couple of weeks ago, she
Started going around pulling the cord out of The t.v. in the basement, so I started writing Her some notes about it, now granted there
Were nasty, she started when she tripped About me setting her clock for her in the house, during our blackout when it was raining
She picks a time when I'm sleep to say some
Smart *** comments to me, when I least
Expect it, and said whole bunch of mean
Stuff, but snapped at me as I can expect on
What I said in them letters, she is meanie
In disguise with her smart comments I wish
She would leave our house, she secretively
Mean and evil, when someone tells her stuff
And when they write her notes it's worst, just
Little smartie pants about everything, can you
Help me to deal with this year long situation?
It is affecting how I live and my spirit.

2007-10-08 11:23:11 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 19 year old daughter started at a community college last spring; at the term end in June, we saw she failed all of her classes, as she was using cocaine at the time(i was unaware of her drug use). She went to rehab in August and stayed for a month; she is drug free and is trying to reform her life. She has moved back home and she wants to start again at a different community college in december, at the start of the next quater. Should i let her do that? I'm unsure, as she failed last time. She wants me to pay for half of it(i paid for all of it last time). What should I do?

2007-10-08 10:51:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

- I turn 18 this coming July(4th)
- I know this sounds doubtful but would I be able to just move without proper guardianship papers since I will be turning 18 soon.
- I talked to my school guidance councilor but she didn't provide much information other than vaguely recommending me to go to a court.
- 2 of my cousins did something similar, they filled out no paper work they just moved(I know this doesn't mean I can do the same)
- If I do need guardianship papers could I maybe reduce the paper work by getting temporary guardianship until I turn 18? And for that matter where do I get the paper work(town hall, courthouse, etc)
- I am moving for educational purposes for my future, and I feel my current situation in life is dwindling my academic potential. I am aware of the importance of living with your parents, although I have lived several years without them. Both my parents support my decision to leave if I feel it is right.

Thank you in advance!

2007-10-08 10:04:45 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

A tear jerker to start your day.
Don't know how true this is but the ending certainly is.

A Special Story

Like any good mother, when Karen found out that another baby was on the way, she did what she could to help her 3-year-old son, Michael, prepare for a new sibling. They found out that the new baby was going be a girl, and day after day, night after night, Michael sang to his sister in Mommy's tummy. He was building a bond of love
with his little sister before he even met her.

The pregnancy progressed normally for Karen. In time, the labor pains came. Soon it was every five minutes, every three, every minute. But serious complications arose during delivery and Karen found herself in hours of labor. Would a C-section be required?

Finally, after a long struggle, Michael's little sister was born. But she was in very serious condition. With a siren howling in the night, the ambulance rushed the infant to the neonatal intensive care unit at Mary's Hospital, Knoxville, Tennessee.

The days inched by. The little girl got worse. The pediatrician had to tell the parents there is very little hope. Be prepared for the worst.

Karen and her husband contacted a local cemetery about a burial plot. They had fixed up a special room in their house for their new baby but now they found themselves having to plan for a funeral.

Michael, however, kept begging his parents to let him see his sister. "I want to sing to her", he kept saying.
Week two in intensive care looked as if a funeral would come before the week was over. Michael kept nagging about singing to his sister, but kids are never allowed in Intensive Care. Karen decided to take Michael whether they liked it or not. If he didn't see his sister right then, he may never see her alive.

She dressed him in an oversized scrub suit and marched him into ICU. He looked like a walking laundry basket. The head nurse recognized him as a child and bellowed, "Get that kid out of here now. No children are allowed." The mother rose up strong in Karen, and the usually mild-mannered lady glared steel-eyed right into the head nurse's face, her lips a firm line, "He is not leaving until he sings to his sister" she stated. He gazed at the tiny infant losing the battle to live. After a moment, he began to sing. In the pure-hearted voice of a 3-year-old, Michael sang:


"You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy when skies are gray."

Instantly the baby girl seemed to respond. The pulses rate began to calm down and become steady.

"Keep on singing, Michael," encouraged Karen with tears in her eyes. "You never know, dear, how much I love you, please don't take my sunshine away."

As Michael sang to his sister, the baby's ragged, strained breathing became as smooth as a kitten's purr.

"Keep on singing, sweetheart."

"The other night, dear, as I lay sleeping, I dreamed I held you in my arms".

Michael's little sister began to relax as rest, healing rest, seemed to
sweep over her.

"Keep on singing, Michael." Tears had now conquered the face of the boss
head nurse. Karen glowed. "You are my sunshine, my only sunshine. Please don't take my sunshine away..."

The next, day...the very next day...the little girl was well enough to go home.

Woman's Day Magazine called it The Miracle of a Brother's Song.

The medical staff just called it a miracle. Karen called it a miracle of God's love.

NEVER GIVE UP ON THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE. LOVE IS SO INCREDIBLY POWERFUL.

Life is good. Have a Wonderful Week!

2007-10-08 09:42:15 · 11 answers · asked by PC 7

my sister is nearly 15, and she's gone to 2nd with her boyf of 2 months who i really hate (2nd=touching 'down ther').

i saw an incriminting message saying she had on her fone, and confronted her. she denied it and simply said they were saying it to impress their friends (a lot of these girls are complete s*ags..). i believed her, butthen i found some more messages. Agaun, when i asked her she said she hadn't, but admitted that they had rubbed together with their clothes on. however, my brother later looked again at her messages and found quite a few that showed she had, and also lots calling me an ****ing *****, etc, etc. i confronted her YET AGAIN, and she's finally come to her senses, now she's been crying, begging me not to tell our Mom, etc, etc. I don't know what to do- tell and risk losing her forever, or keep it inside and let her go more and more off the rails and ruin her life and all of ours, getting pregnant at 16 probably!


Please help- fast!

2007-10-08 09:33:52 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

on the phone earlier, during a heated argument, he said that he's let his EX know that he'll take her back. then before he hung up, he said he was lying. he was just mad and trying to hurt me.

right now i'm numb and don't want to be around him.

any ideas?

2007-10-08 09:32:27 · 25 answers · asked by (!)listen 5

Hello Good Day.
So I see that many woman/Men have problems with there IN LAWS. Well I am one added on to the list I have had it with my mother in law already and cant not find a way to tell my Finacee. I would not say he is a mama's boys but he is really tight with his mother for "Reasons" he has mentioned before but WHAT EVER SHE PUT HIM IN THAT SITUATION and she is giving the world for her MISTAKES.. But my Finacee is a really hard person to talk to if it is not a problem for him then there is no problem. However My mother in law moved in with in our FIRST home ever and it is my fiancee falut as he promised her "AS A KID" he would always buy mommy a house ok I can respect but like for real if you were alone not moving in with a Finacee or wife, NO we are trying ti have kids etc and She will be there no way. I need to find a way to tell him all the crap she talks about me, how two face she is, How she is always sayign something under her breathe when he is not around. ALL THE LIES ..

2007-10-08 09:22:30 · 14 answers · asked by jt91294 2

We aren't on talking terms. She's really made at me, but I still love her and want her to know I remembered her on her birthday. I want to give her something that will fit in the card I'm sending.

2007-10-08 08:56:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my Sister-In -law were having a debate. She thought that the In-Laws in our family should not be in Family photos because In-Laws come and go and are not considered "True Family". I on the other hand disagree. I think Family is anybody you consider it to be, whether they be steps, halfs, In-Laws, friends, dog, cat , etc. And, that they should be included in Family photos and displayed accordingly. What I also find hypocritical, is the fact that my Sister-In-Law's family consists of alot of half brother and sisters, and a Stepfather with many other half nieces and nephews to follow. I think that with someone who has a unique family structure such as her would have a difference of opinion. What do you think? I see everyone in my family as individuals and I treat them equally regardless if they a "blood related". And, when I have my own home one day everyone's picture that I have will be displayed proudly. Which opinion do you side with?

2007-10-08 08:18:22 · 9 answers · asked by Yahoo Anwers 5

Our daughter (16) goes to a military boarding school in Virginia. To make the story short, 4 girls decided to "get" her by alleging the use of pot. The school's drug policy is zero tolerance - expulsion for illegal drug use. No second chances. These girls all independantly told the same story and went around telling everyone that she had been busted for drugs.
The school drug tested her (which has since come back NEGATIVE), locked her dorm room down pending a search, searched her person, made her sleep on a couch outside the guard's office for the weekend - essentially treated her like a criminal.
I do NOT blame the school for their actions on this. However, now that our daughter is exonerated I am not happy with the school's lack of interest in pursuing these horrible girls who now giggle about how they "got her good", and of course most people haven't heard about the negative result.

I think there may be a criminal case here. They tried to get her expelled. Anyone know?

2007-10-08 08:15:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Every year once soccer season is done there is a huge party. I really really want to go but i doubt that my parents will let me.

see, last april i lied and had 2 parties and got caught. i was grounded for 2 months and havn't really been able to do anything much since then. its been half a year already. my mother still does not trust me at all at all as i found that out yesterday. and i'm really desperate to go to this upcoming party. i just don't know how to ask them.

help!

2007-10-08 08:00:19 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK, I moved into a new house and my sister and I know why the past owners weres selling it. THERE IS A POLTRAGISTE HERE!!!!!!!!!!!! If you don't beleve me here are some things it has done:

1. My friend was spending the night and we were sleeping in the basement. We were watching a movie and she got up to go to the bathroom. When she got back I heard her ask where her blanket was. I looked next to me where it used to be and it was gone. It turned up in the living room.

2. The lights tend to fliker on and off by the fridge.

3. Pop cans get thrown at the back of my dresser by no one.

Tell me that isn't awsome. I am so exited to have a poltragiste in my house!!!!!!!! (I didd't know where to put it so I am putting it in family)

2007-10-08 07:57:29 · 8 answers · asked by Sarah 3

I did something really stupid this weekend and broke a promise to my grown son and put him in an unsafe position.

2007-10-08 07:52:51 · 5 answers · asked by Monkey Mom 4

2007-10-08 07:16:28 · 4 answers · asked by Lee_XD 1

my sons father keeps bugging me about wanting to take him for a weekend my son has only met him once and Dominik is going to be 2 in November

2007-10-08 07:00:15 · 5 answers · asked by Beth H 1

I am a mother of a 19yr old Girl and a step mom to a 14yr old boy. We have been a blended family for over 13yrs and never had many problems. Lately my family has been at each other’s throats. Father on sons case...daughter on sons case...Father on daughters case...me on kids case... me on Fathers case. The house is in an uproar and I am losing grip to the point I do not want to talk to anyone or even do anything for them... I am burned out. I know it will pass. However, I am confused about why we cannot get along in the house...
What should I do regain peace in my house.

2007-10-08 06:58:42 · 7 answers · asked by Sheba 2

I've seen garages fully furnished with paintings, couch, and a mini kitchen and flowers just like a living room. I'm talking about lavish, though, not cheesy.
My Q is is this safe--meaning do rats, or spiders come in a garage still even though the walls are painted, the roof is covered, and all that? Just wondering because isn't a garage still a garage? Your thoughts, please.

2007-10-08 06:56:37 · 3 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5

Okay me and my mom have had a rocky relationship.There has been times when I have stopped talking to her before.The 1 main thing that I dont agree on is her still been with her husband after he molested me has a child.So what made me stop talkin to her this time was,while my daughter was visitin my mom(my stepfather wasn't to be there)I came to pick her up,she called the police on me.She told the police that I was unfit parent!I couldn't believe it,and my stepfather was there.at the same time the police told me she smelled like she had been drinkin.Now because of a lawsuit I have with Inglewood police,the officer that came to the sence was 1 that was involed in my lawsuit.So the officer was goin 2 believe what my mother was sayin about my parent skills.I had 2 explain that my daughter is not to b in there with a child molester.Then did the police officer return my daughter. I told her you tryed to take my baby,U wont ever c my baby again.and its been 2 yr.

2007-10-08 06:47:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-08 06:46:14 · 6 answers · asked by BARBARA B 1

My boyfriend had a baby from a previous realationship, she was 6 months old when her idit mother shook her and killed her. My boyfiend had a bond with that baby the minute he held her,and is not going through a depression phase is there anything me and my boyfriend can do to make our loss easier to deal with. It's not easy seeing him cry himself to sleep at night. And i want to make him feel like he can talk to me but he just lashes out at me and takes it out on me. Any advice?

2007-10-08 06:41:55 · 9 answers · asked by Angel Dobson 1

Rather than choosing the fundamentlism path. She should live a homely life instead

2007-10-08 06:38:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi I am the youngest Aunt in the family and I have 5 nieces who are in the ages of 20-25. They like to wear expensive clothes (Rock Repulic, etc, $200 jeans) and branded bags (Gucci, Channel etc.) 3 of them works part-time, 1 working full-time, and 1 not working not in school either. We are all average people, earning enough to get by. I like wearing branded clothes and having branded bags as well, I have these material things luckily because I have a great career and a wonderful husband. It bothers me that my nieces have these expensive things seeing their parents work hard, even in the weekends. Onetime, one of their parents had approached us to borrow money. I feel so sad that I see this going on and on. Additionally, everytime we have a family gathering, these 5 nieces of mine looks at me from head to foot, doesn't even talk to me. They look at me as if they are trying to know what brands am I wearing. Next, time I plan to dress very simply, is that the best to do?.

2007-10-08 06:35:08 · 4 answers · asked by A a 1

I am 18 years old, never really had any type of relationship with either of my parents. I go to school full time 9-4 tuesday through saturday and also work 5-10 3 of those 5 days. if you can imagine im pretty busy and usually exhausted. I just recently got a car after arguing with my parents for 3 years about me not being allowed to get my liscence. My dad told me ( when i was 18 ) that i would be kicked out if i got it. But i still did anyway, and eventaully we agreed that it would be best for me to have my own car so i could get myself to school/work, ect. They even offered to pay for my $2000 car, because they said " if we can do you this favor, we will" but now its been fight after fight, telling me when i can and cannot use the car, when i should clean it ect. They yell at me when i want to sleep out at a friends, and try to control every aspect of my life. Tell me im a scumbag and have horrible hygiene when i cant get around to clean my room. I just want opinions on what to do.

2007-10-08 06:33:42 · 19 answers · asked by jennie 1

I don't know how to say this but I think I done something silly , this boy loved me for me and I ask him out but at the time I was only making fun out of him and then I went out with this guy name chris and we used to wait for him outside his home in front of his door waiting for him to come out or come back from school we all was same ages and me and my BF used to french kiss each other ever day for 2 full years so he can see it and then we cost him 1 year of his school cause he wanted to get his own back of what we was doing to him , anyway it went to court and he won us. 7 years later I saw him and we both looked into each others eyes and he still look hurted but same time he still look so mad at me. after all this time why can't he just drop it ! and if I see him again what should I say cause it wasn't just me ! I looked into his eyes after 7 years and I saw him being so mad but same time he given me abit of soft look but before all of that 7 years ago I called his mother a fat cow

2007-10-08 06:30:13 · 19 answers · asked by diet_television_pop 1

Well, my cousin Haleigh is 8 years old and she is a total brat and she has the worse smart mouth ever. She smarts off to me and her parents and they don't say anything. She's such a BRAT!! I just want to know what should I do when she smarts off to me? She also tells me if she hates something I'm wearing. What should I do the next time she smarts off to me or says something mean to me?

2007-10-08 06:20:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it possible for a white woman to have a white kid with a black father?? Could her genes dominate his?

2007-10-08 06:16:14 · 31 answers · asked by sk8ter2005 1

I am feeling really down lately and I can't figure out why. I am pregnant with my 2nd child, have been with my current boyfriend for a little over 6 months. It seems that nothing I do is ever good enough for him and I'm always wrong in the things I do or say. We fight over EVERYTHING. I will try to say something to him and he will immediately start getting mad and yelling, so then I get quite, because I don't want to be yelled at, then he gets even more mad because I'm not saying anything! When I don't talk about how I'm feeling, or try to explain that I really don't know why I'm feeling so down lately, he gets mad, but when I try to talk about it, he gets mad also.. it seems I can't win. He always brings up the fact that he is helping support me and my daughter from a previous relationship, and tells me if I don't like the way things are than I can leave. When I say maybe we need time apart, he threatens to take me to court for custody of our child when its born, etc..Any suggestions?

2007-10-08 06:02:23 · 2 answers · asked by spoiled_lovell_brat 2

My mom has been married to my step da for a long time and now she is pregnant with his 4th child. He has been knowing me since I was 2. I have been doing the dishes ever since I was in second grade. Only because he told me mom that I needed to. I am now in 9th grade and I am still cleaning his stupid kitchen!! He has a daughter in 5th grade, a daughter in 2nd grade, and a son that is 4. His oldest daughter gets to do everything that she wants. I only got tho go to the skating ring once in my life. And that was in 6th grade. She has gotten to go alot and she is only in 5th grade. She has no chores around the house and she is lazy. Everybody has sattelite in their rooms except me. I have no tv in my room. The 2nd grader is just as spoiled. I have another sister that is not his child and she is 13. We are really close because we both have chores while everybody else chills. My mom has to ask my step dad if I can go somewhere. She will not let me do anything w/o asking him. What can I do?

2007-10-08 05:58:22 · 6 answers · asked by <3 to live life 3

My sister lost primary custody of her daughter (11) years back, due to money issues, and other things. Since then, her ex husband has made it impossible for her to contact their daughter, won't bring her to see her etc. Well her ex husband called her today and said, "Im bringing you your daughter." My sister is beside herself, and so excited, but she's scared to death, too. What could she do to make this transition easier for her older daughter, and for her other kids? Also, should there be some sort of document drawn up so the ex husband can't just swoop in and take their daughter again? And saying that he gave permission for her to live there?

2007-10-08 05:48:47 · 4 answers · asked by MomOfThreeBoys 3