on the phone earlier, during a heated argument, he said that he's let his EX know that he'll take her back. then before he hung up, he said he was lying. he was just mad and trying to hurt me.
right now i'm numb and don't want to be around him.
any ideas?
2007-10-08 09:32:27 · 25 answers · asked by (!)listen 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ty to everyone for your thoughtful replies. when he came in he went into the bedroom and was laying there and said,"i deserve anything you want to dish out." we talked. everythings ok. he's a good man. says some dumb things, but his actions speak louder than his words. lucky for him!
2007-10-09 15:19:40 · update #1
Say "Hi [insert ex boyfriend's name here]"
2007-10-08 09:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by equal_opposites 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You need to get the truth out of him. That is a cruel thing to say regardless of whether you are married to someone or not. If he is making plans to be with someone else regardless of who it is then you deserve to know. Unless he is too much of a coward to let you know up front. No married couple should throw something like that in the face of a spouse no matter how upsetting the conversation is. You may want to wait until the both of you have had a chance to calm down and talk to him after dinner. Just don't get heated argument started again this time he may walk out and go somewhere then you will really be pissed off.
2007-10-08 16:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you want your marriage to work it sounds like the two of you need to sit down and discuss things. You need to work out the things that are making you argue to the point that he wanted to hurt you. If that doesn't work try some counseling. As to you being numb, try not to overreact, it was a hurtful thing to say but I've heard worse. And he corrected it before you ended the phone call.
2007-10-08 16:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Who says you have to be home when he gets home? Go walk off your frustration and cool down. Find something that's going to cool you down and THEN sit down and talk with your husband. Tell him calmly that he really hurt you and how incredibly inappropriate and wrong of him it was to say such a horrible thing to you. If he doesn't apologize and attempt to make things better then you can play it by ear with what to do next. You know your husband far better than anyone on Yahoo Answers. Otherwise, give your apology if you were hurtful, leave it at that and say nothing else to him until he's ready to be a man and apologize. Be the bigger and better person. Best wishes and so sorry about the fight!
2007-10-08 16:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Stay at a friend's house for a couple of days.......that is what I would do, you both need to talk about some serious issues, and today is not the day.
You both need time to heal from this argument, and time away from eachother, really!!!!
Having a spouse tell you that he is going back with his ex, is not right, even to use that in an argument, it sounds like you both have to grow up and talk about your marriage like adults, which is not how you are acting now.
Take a few days apart, collect yourself, and your thoughts, and think about your marriage, if it is worth all this name calling, and threats, and jealousy, and fits, and scratching, and biting, and tantrums, and yelling and hollering, geesh, you both need to go to counseling after you take a "break" from eachother for a while!
2007-10-08 16:44:37 · answer #5 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Sometimes in a marriage, you gotta step up, and through the pain, be the one that says sorry first. Even though thats the last thing you want to do because your mad. It all comes down to... Do you want to make your marriage better, or do you want to fight? Keep in mind, I dont mean for you to lose every fight, to keep giving in, but sometimes, it just helps soo much.
2007-10-08 16:38:05 · answer #6 · answered by billgoats79 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
1) Don't be at home when he arrives and then you don't have to say anything.
2) Tell him that "we need to talk" - that always makes someones night!
3) "Hi sweetheart, how was your day? I missed you so much" and forget the argument ever happened.
2007-10-08 16:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by slave2art 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think the man has said it all. he said he was lying only trying to hurt you, probably to pay you back for what happened or to see your reaction. If you let him see any anger or frustration in you for what he said, you will lose. Just say that, was an expensive joke and laugh off.
2007-10-08 16:44:55 · answer #8 · answered by baban Amira 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
i wouldnt say a word. Just let things blow over and speak to him when you need to. By the end of the night you'll be talking again.
Godd luck!
⥠Kc
2007-10-08 16:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Nice husband!
You guys don't sound like you know each other very well or know how to communicate at all. The idea that you have to ask someone else what you should say to your own husband is crazy...
you guys sound like you might need a little bit of counseling...
2007-10-08 16:35:52 · answer #10 · answered by Cheryl W 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
can't blame you for being numb, that was a rotten and cruel thing to say, (he's an idiot) if I was you I'd take off for a while and maby he'll think about what he's about to lose, when you do return let him know that you won't tolerate that again.
PS: tell him to smarten up.
2007-10-08 16:47:44 · answer #11 · answered by Bwk 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋