My sister lost primary custody of her daughter (11) years back, due to money issues, and other things. Since then, her ex husband has made it impossible for her to contact their daughter, won't bring her to see her etc. Well her ex husband called her today and said, "Im bringing you your daughter." My sister is beside herself, and so excited, but she's scared to death, too. What could she do to make this transition easier for her older daughter, and for her other kids? Also, should there be some sort of document drawn up so the ex husband can't just swoop in and take their daughter again? And saying that he gave permission for her to live there?
2007-10-08 05:48:47 · 4 answers · asked by MomOfThreeBoys 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry, her daughter is 11, and she lost custody when she was 4.
2007-10-08 05:49:34 · update #1
At furst guess, it sounds like the ex-husband has either started dating another woman who doesn't want the kid around, or he has decided that the daughter has become too much of a handful. Either way, this is about that ex-husband probably just serving himself.
Your sister needs to go to the family court to get the primary custody changed and to get child support money coming in. She can explain all of that to the judge.
Hopefully she has a bedroom that the daughter can call her own. They can bond a little bit while decorating the space. This will also allow them to find out what all has transpired in the past 7 years. Your sister needs to get a handle on her daughter's development.
There will also be a lot of "female education" involved at this stage, too, which might be part of what has the ex dumping the daughter.
At any rate, it is important to be honest with the daughter, simply explaining that mommy could not take care of her, and that the father did not allow her to visit... but being VERY careful not to make disparaging remarks about the father. The kid is emotionally torn as-is.
2007-10-08 06:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get a court order visitiation schedule and never depend on the ex to decide when she can and can't see her daughter.
2007-10-08 12:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would question why he is doing this cant he handle the teenage dramas or something else?I can see why she would be excited but its going to take time for the pieces to fit together
2007-10-08 13:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by RAINBOW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as soon as she gets her she does need to have it doccumented, i really dont know how , but to be on the safe side she needs to do this. i wish them luck.
2007-10-08 13:00:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋