Should i tel my mom?

Question

my sister is nearly 15, and she's gone to 2nd with her boyf of 2 months who i really hate (2nd=touching 'down ther').

i saw an incriminting message saying she had on her fone, and confronted her. she denied it and simply said they were saying it to impress their friends (a lot of these girls are complete s*ags..). i believed her, butthen i found some more messages. Agaun, when i asked her she said she hadn't, but admitted that they had rubbed together with their clothes on. however, my brother later looked again at her messages and found quite a few that showed she had, and also lots calling me an ****ing *****, etc, etc. i confronted her YET AGAIN, and she's finally come to her senses, now she's been crying, begging me not to tell our Mom, etc, etc. I don't know what to do- tell and risk losing her forever, or keep it inside and let her go more and more off the rails and ruin her life and all of ours, getting pregnant at 16 probably!


Please help- fast!

Answer 1

I think you're wrong for snooping around on her fone.

Answer 2

Your mother needs to be made aware that your sister is sexually active so that she can take action. Your mother has the most to lose from your sister's actions because under the law, your mom will be held responsible. I am darn sure your mom does not want an infant in the house at this point in time!

Your sister needs some serious guidance FAST.
You need to get her to a Planned Parenthood location where she can talk to a professional about all of this and even attend their lecture.
She could come down with some horrible deathly disease, or become pregnant, ot BOTH.
Your sister is playing a very dangerous game.

Because of her attitude and behavior, I would say that you are not the one who should be saddled with the responsibility of intervention.

Answer 3

Ok. This is an answer from an adult woman.
Ask your mom to talk to both of you, that way you are not putting your sister on the spot. She needs birth control, and she needs it sooner than later. Maybe you can get your mom to take both of you to the Doctor. Even if you aren't sexually active, going this route may help your sister. Don't be fooled by the tears and the contrite attitude, if she has already gone this far and enjoyed it, it's only a matter of time before she goes all the way. It might help if you talk with her (sister) first and tell her what and why you are doing.

Answer 4

She's your sister and you wont lose her forever. If you don't tell she may ruin her life. If you do tell she will be really mad at you but eventually she will get over it. You'd just have to tough it out and know that you are doing the right thing. Also never forget what you decide to do because when you get older you may be in her situation and you have to be strong when dealing with the pressures boys can put on you.

I think you should go to your mom and tell her what you've discovered. Ask her if instead of letting your sister know that she told maybe she could "discover" it for herself by picking up your sister's phone and looking for herself. Be sure to let your mom know that what you have to say is out of concern not because you are telling on her.

Answer 5

Regardless of your age, it is not right to go through someone's messages. Get a hobby or something...and stay out of your sister's personal life unless she invites you in there.

It is your sister's life and being that she is past the age of consent, there isn't much you can really do. But if you are concerned for her safety, then definitely tell your Mum. And either way, talk to your sister...let her know that you love her and that you are concerned, and most importantly, that no matter what you will always be there for her.

Answer 6

My dear I am not a counselor by any means, but its very important that you get another adult involved as soon as possible. Your sister is not only at risk for prenancy but also for diseases as well. If she truly is nervous about talking with your parents then u must convince to talk to either a nurse at school or maybe a aunt that you would trust. Do your parents seem to be open and helpful? You didnt mention much about how they are in that way. If they are good loving parents and are open to talking with you then they will understand. She def needs to find someone to confide in that can be helpful before she finds herself not able to turn back time. Good luck.

Answer 7

I am surprised you aren't worried about losing her trust/friendship by being so nosy. Why are you checking up on her so much? Messing around a bit does not mean she will automatically take it too far and she may feel the need to be closer to her bf if her siblings are going to drive her crazy by spying on her. If you absolutely feel the need to tell your parents something, maybe just tell them you are a bit concerned. They don't need all the details and your parents could figure out what the want to say.

Answer 8

What are you doing snooping through your sisters phone? I think that is the bigger issue here. It is natural for your sister to be experimenting with her boyfriend.

You need to apologize for snooping on your sisters phone and tell her that you want her to be able to live a happy life and if she does want to get more serious with her boyfriend, she needs to consider going on birth control because you don't want to be an aunt before you are in your 20s.

Answer 9

Young girls her age are in t he exploring state.
they find that they injoy being touched ,and touching a boy exciters her.Petting ( makin out )
Your a good brother to look after his kid sister.
Now it.s time to spend more time with her.and
teach her about life,sex,boys, growing up.what a boy should wear if they have sex.Have your sis.
to talk to your mother about birth control
pills.
I know that brothers and sisters often don'tr get along.But try and be nicer to her,and understand
what she's going through.she's no longer that sister you knew as pest.
Some things are better not told to a mother,if
a brother can handle it.

Answer 10

shes your sister , its is between you and your sister , sure you can tell your mum but it may be the incorrect thing to do , i feel that this may be the wrong thing because your parents might penalise your sister on a long term basis therefore making her life misery , this is minor thing 2nd base , its major , but its minor , just make sure to get yoursister to distance herself from the guy who done the deed, as it may progress and to avoid the nest base she will have to dump him, remember she is your sister and potentcially the best friend you will have in your life , think carefully about your deicsion

Answer 11

YES you should bec if she is preg. than you need to tell rigt away because you dont want ur mom to find out when ur sister calls from the hospital