Family - October 2007

I know it's an age-old question, BUT.. here's some background: she's very focused on her body and weight - to the point of distraction. She won't eat meals with us - she has her own special food and special times to eat, exercises compulsively, is 52 and still shops in the "junior" section (you know, short skirts, low cut tops, push up bras, the whole bit). She loves drama, and creates it when she can't find it. She doesn't have anything good to say about me, doesn't spend time w/our two young girls unless it's a holiday or she's trying to impress someone else that she's a great grandma, doesn't clean her house, is not at all dependable (showed up 1.5 hours late to my daughter's 1st bday party), etc. My husband wishes it were different, but has accepted that she just isn't going to change. Can we slowly just sever ties? She's not a good influence on my girls (always talking about weight and calories), and she promises to do things w/them and then doens't show.

2007-10-07 08:26:36 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

in which we discussed what it meant to have children and a marraige,i thought marraige was about two independent individuals that partner and nurture each other and help with the other's growth,to my father it is an obligation,i thought one should only have kids if one so desires it and really wants to love and nurture those kids,my father again sees it as an obligation so i said you shouldn't have kids if thats all they are to you, and he says '**** happens' now does this very much sound like he has said that his 'decision' or lack thereof to have children was a complete accident and mistake and wasn't planned for or is my imagination being funny?

2007-10-07 08:21:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

IS it really a felony to abuse a spouse?? because if it is.. then i have a very big problem. my dad always hits my mom, and makes her cry and hes the meanest person ever. he calls me and everyone else in my family "stupid" everyday. sometimes when he drinks too much alchohol he says crazy random things and punches holes in the wall. my mom trys to call the cops, but he throws the phone against the walls and breaks it (we have had 4 phones broken so far). one day i came home from school, and my little 3 year old sister made a mes of legos on the floor. he pulled my hair and pushed me on the floor and told me to clean up my mess. i did, and then i asked him why he always makes messes, and makes us clean them, but he tells us we must clean up after ourself. he got mad and started yelling CRAZY random stuff. he said " SO NOW YOU WANT ME TO CLEAN UP AFTER YOU!YOUR STUPID! YOU WANT ME TO CLEAN UP AFTER YOUR MESS YOU ANIMAL" and then he punched me in the stumic. is it really a felony? why didn't anyone tell me

2007-10-07 08:09:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why do I bother making friends??? I just end up hurting them!!!!!!!!! I feel like i am a wate of space!!!!!!!! Why can no one understand me!!!!!!!! I feel like i am in a deep dark hole!

2007-10-07 08:09:09 · 9 answers · asked by ♥Jenn♥ 4

I had my first child at 35. I notice that older parents seem to treat their children differently that younger parents. Older parents have had more life experiences and bring that knowledge to parenting. Younger parents have more energy and tend to interact at a different level with their children. Which is best and why?

2007-10-07 08:04:31 · 8 answers · asked by shannadee1 2

Ok so heres the situation.Today i went to my little cousins birthday party.My sixteen year old cousin and her dad was makin fun of me.So i made her flinch by pretending to throw a pillow at her.Then she tells her dad that i was annoying her.So then my uncle(my cousins dad) came up to me and said"if u make my daughter flinch again, ill punch you out and u wont know if im kidding or not. Now my uncle likes to think that hes incharge of everything and that he can say what ever he wants to me when its my dads job to tell me what to do.So this isnt the first time that he has givin me a stret before.Also,sometimes when im not doing anything,he just walks by and piches me for know reason.So what do you think i should do.I dont want to do nothing because im sick of him and his daughter pissin me off.what do you think i should do?by the way im 12 and my uncle is 48

2007-10-07 07:39:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years (we are both 21 now).
His parents seem to enjoy making life difficult for both of us, and clearly don't accept me
When I visit they expect us to look after his brothers (who are 11 & 14) whilst they go out and do what they want, if we refuse they say 'dont bother having kids if you cant look after these 2'-harsh considering I had a miscarriage 2 years ago.
I'm always helpful around the house, and do my fair share when I stay, and am nice to them.
I've given up buying them xmas and birthday gifts as last years presents got branded a load of cr@p by his dad (was only living on a student loan-its the thought that counts!)
The crunch came last weekend when I went to vist, and the insisted their house was too full to accomodate me, so I spent the weekend in a B&B.
We were thinking of getting engaged, but worry they will tell us not to bother spending money on a wedding as we will end up divorced.
Any advice would be appreciated!thanksx

2007-10-07 07:35:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

my son is almost 5 and his bilogical father has seen him only 2 times in a little over 2 years then in nov. 2005 he came over and decided he wanted to be there he cae around and seen him like every weekend till feb of 06 when his next child was born. we were never married hes not married to his girlfriend now he even pays child support on that child he lives 3 hours away from me and when he called me in feb 06 t tell me he didnt want anything else to do with him thats the last i heard from him till aug. of 2007. now hes filling for full custody or atlest visation. iv been married for 2 years now and have 2 other kis live in a decent size house and my husband has had the same jb for 3 years his father cant keep for longer than 5 weeks. iv never denied him to see my son untill the last phne call i dont know what to do im scared f losing my baby. my son is scared to death of him. he screams if i ever mention his name. help

2007-10-07 07:25:32 · 7 answers · asked by Misty 1

Ok so heres the situation.Today i went to my little cousins birthday party.My sixteen year old cousin and her dad was makin fun of me.So i made her flinch by pretending to throw a pillow at her.Then she tells her dad that i was annoying her.So then my uncle(my cousins dad) came up to me and said"if u make my daughter flinch again, ill punch you out and u wont know if im kidding or not. Now my uncle likes to think that hes incharge of everything and that he can say what ever he wants to me when its my dads job to tell me what to do.So this isnt the first time that he has givin me a stret before.Also,sometimes when im not doing anything,he just walks by and piches me for know reason.So what do you think i should do.I dont want to do nothing because im sick of him and his daughter pissin me off.what do you think i should do?by the way im 12 and my uncle is 48.

2007-10-07 06:53:58 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mum is well sick. We recently moved to the U.S. for proper medical treatment of her lung cancer. The only relatives I have alive besides my mum is my 12 year old sister, my neice (who's parents have given her up so she now lives with her grandmother). Would there be anyone willing to adopt me and my sister, or would we have to be fostered for a couple of years?
Also, my neice, her grandmother is not related to me, she is her step dad's mum and will probably die a good 2 years

2007-10-07 06:41:50 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My grandma lives with us and she spends a lot of her time on the phone with her sisters. I will be doing something and overhear her say nasty things about my family. She should be greatful because most older people are in nursing homes and were not invted to move in with their children. She has called my mother a lousy housewife and cook. She was making a big issue of the fact that last night when a few friends came to pick me up they had to wait 3 minutes for me. She has said she feels bad for the guy who has to marry me. She thinks my parents should pay for my brother college tuition bill from a school he got basically kicked out of cause he slept late and didn't show up to class and forgot when his exams were. It's just constant talking down about us and I am tired of it.

2007-10-07 05:13:47 · 11 answers · asked by Brownie12866 2

2007-10-07 04:19:22 · 8 answers · asked by tatankha 1

I heard my mom moaning REALLY loud last night. My bedroom is right next to their's. I'm assuming they had sex last night. Is that scary? I'm 13, and my oldest sister is twenty-two. Is it normal? My mom had a D & C so she can't get pregnant again.

2007-10-07 03:59:19 · 24 answers · asked by Alice 3

Can it be possible for me to be in love with two men?
I love them both.
My husband is 27 years older than me.He is overprotective and patronizing,controlling and jealous. I owe him a great deal and I care.
The other guy is my age and an extraordinary lover,he makes me feel special and loved.I need him.
My husband gave me an ultimatum.
My boyfriend sent me a letter saying :it doesn't matter whether you're married or not. I'm gonna love you to death...

2007-10-07 03:40:20 · 11 answers · asked by adasnameismalika 1

Should i or shouldn't i??
sigh...ok..i can't really take hiding from my mom that i'm learning Persian. i can't decide if i want to tell her or not. i live in the US, and Persian is from Iran...we aren't on such a good level with Iran and my mom got very upset when she found out i was talking with someone from Iran...becuz they're the "enemy" and may be using me for a terrorist thing! i explained everything to her...and she still hates it. and i decided i wanted to learn persian...and seeing as she already does not like me being associated with a person from iran...i don't know how she'd react to me learning their language...she's usually understanding of stuff i want to do or have done...i don't know if i'd be crossing a line or...?i really don't want her to prevent me from using the computer to talk with my friends from there either...i'm so worried and if i had her cooperation i might be able to learn persian better...becuz then i wouldn't have to hide stuff and i could buy

2007-10-07 03:21:14 · 13 answers · asked by ? 6

My 15 year old daughter just came to live with me. She lived with her Dad from age 10 to 15. She is constantly complaining and saying that she does not like living with me. I live in another state.

I try to keep her busy and happy and am constantly thinking of her. My life has changed completely since her coming to live with me.

Yet, no matter how much money I spend taking her places or time I invest helping her with her studies, she does not like it.

She does not like her new school and constantly talks to her old friends and compares her new school to her old school.

I feel bad because she had to leave her friends, but that's just the way life sometimes is.

I feel sad when she says that she does not like it with me (the food, classes (tennis, ACT review, etc) that I put her in. I don't know what else to do.

She has not made many new friends in school yet.

I am trying my best to keep her busy and happy, but is not enough.....What else can I do?

2007-10-07 03:14:16 · 7 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

My mommy means the world to me. and you only turn 60 once in your life. She loves to read books, and has written a couple of unpublished fantasy novels. She is also a jewelry designer, and works for the gov full-time. One of her LOVES is raw gem stones. I would LOVE to take her to Arkansas to the ONLY open diamond mine in America or to a place that you can mine your own semi-precious gems (sapphires, opals, emeralds, etc).Her birthday is also in March, so I want to take her somewhere before it got really hot.She's not into anything that's to girly like shopping for clothing, shoes, or makeup, (except her jewelry business). I had thought about taking her for a long weekend to a resort where she could get facials,manicures, pedicures, massages.Taking her to favorite bead shop and giving her a $1,000 and let her buy to her hearts content. I would like some opinions here.

2007-10-07 02:49:04 · 8 answers · asked by navywife_2001 3

them, so that they miss the point of the question entirely?
Is the problem that they are still reacting as they did in the days when their mommies and daddies tried to explain something to them, or were they just coddled in school?
For example, some of America's characteristics were discussed in a question, and the answer was "What racism, what pornograpy, what gun violence? Give me an example!"
I won't tell you what he called me for mentioning these items, but the point is that he didn't even come close to getting the point of the question, so the question was completely wasted
on him. Fortunately, I find that approximately one out of ten Americans understands the question, and it is a real pleasure to get his feedback. What catastrophe happened to the other nine when they should have been growing up and learning to understand the point of a question without retreating into insults and unnecessary self-defense?

2007-10-07 02:27:49 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Mothers, you best tell your daughters not to talk to Strangers! Especially, this stranger - lest, I get accused of something like molesting.. I told her PISS OFF!!!! Great society we live in, ahh? Everyones a child molester, ahh?? This is resentment.. COmments?

2007-10-07 01:10:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother is a too soft hearted woman,lost my father in 1991.My wife shouted with her and my mother told her to get out.She shouted because my mother said a wrong sentence about my father in law who shouted with my mother before.

Well,the reason was I had to go office and so I took my dinner and waited for my wife coming from hospital.She came and got hart,as I completed my dinner.My mother told her to have food and she denied.Mother told her whethet she took her dinner or not.She reolied she didnot take and will not take.Then we shouted and my wife also shouted with my mother and this is the beginning of the matter.
Then my mother called my mother in law and told the event as she got hart from my eife's shouting.They replied badly and told that they would take their daughter home.
But my wife doesnot want to leave me and persued me to leave home with her.But I will never leave my mother.She decided to stay but dont want to talk and mix with my mother.

Tell me what to do.pls

2007-10-06 21:26:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

i was sleeping on the couch around 3am 15 minutes ago.She wakes me up telling me to go to the bedroom and sleep so i wakeup and go to the bedroom and she says sleep on my bed then i say no theres bugs on that side. Then theres my bed wich is messy with clothes on and she says clean it and i thought she was goin sleep there.. so i do clean it and im half asleep.So then im like can i use your blanket she says yes and i walk out of the room and she goes like where are you going?i say im going to the living room and sleep where i was.She says no!! and i lay down as fast as i can.Then we argue and argue.She pulls me and it got annoying then i said FINE! so i walk around the livng room for the other couch and she yells NO your not sleeping on my couch im like,im sleeping on a different one! and i Slap her.not so hard and so then she hits me using her fists!i put the blanket over me and she punches my head at least 5 times and then my arm and ribs then she trys to hit my face and nose but i block it , i screamed cryed for help she hit me at leas 20 times so hard i couldnt breathe cuz i was crying too much.my parents couldnt here me.now i have bruises all over my hand and scratches i have a big head pain and bumps im dizzy too. I feel like killing myself she never did this to me. Should i apolpgize? and i never had brusises like this is so big, and hard. should i talk to her or stop talking to her till she apolozgizes.and im 14 shes 17 and i when i was screaming she was punching me and oulling my hair, and im so dizzy.Help

2007-10-06 20:46:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My whole family sees me academically ahead of everyone, & they're trying to bring me down, but then they think I'm jealous because they're more attractive & have kids, but I'm not jealous. I'm the dumb, nerdy scapegoat of the family. & then the family is the most critical & insulting & start a lot of life-threatening rumors that's not true about me.

2007-10-06 19:50:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

You had no money to buy socks and all u had were sneakers would u wear them without socks? u have to work in 20 mins and dont have any socks would u not go to work or wear the sneakers without socks?

2007-10-06 19:44:11 · 9 answers · asked by niceguy 1

2007-10-06 19:38:28 · 17 answers · asked by Mr. Dog 4

I need it to buy the book for my child.

2007-10-06 19:12:42 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok. Wow.
This morning I wake up and out my window there were 27, maybe 28 cats on my lawn. They were rolling around wrestling each other in the grass and scratching up cherry trees.
So some got to come in for cream. But now I can't find half of them and the ones I can see are sleeping on my laundry or scratching up my sofa. So what can I do? Oh and please don't suggest I call exterminator. These are human beings not rodents. Tanx.

2007-10-06 18:37:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

m looking for n american relative. Can yahoo help me?

2007-10-06 18:33:46 · 2 answers · asked by tere 1

im a messy kid.

but my mum is so immature, today she just threw everything of mine on the floor (my spectacles, watch, bag with ipod and hp inside, my keys). and she dumped some of my things into the garbage wtf i mean.... she's a successful career woman. a boss. she's used to ppl rushing to complete her orders

but that doesnt give her the right to throw my things about like a demented person. she doesnt care if she breaks my things

and i'v adopted this attitude of " if you scold / throw more, i dont care i'm going to ignore you till you cool down " and of course she throws more =XX

2007-10-06 16:35:25 · 17 answers · asked by nobodyknowsme™ 5

She recently legally changed her name from Surina to Carmen. She's so angry at me right now because I couldn't get used to calling her Carmen. Sometimes I would slip and say her old name and she would flip on me. I am trying to remember her new name but am a little frustrated by her not giving me any time to get used to her new name. Does she have the right to be angry? Thx.

2007-10-06 16:22:34 · 5 answers · asked by roxylee11782 4

Some back story: My mother has always been around to provide for me my entire life however during that time she has berated me for being who I am, talked down to me, kicked me out of the house, called me names and put me down on my looks. There were times it go so bad I considered suicide rather than living at home. When I was 19 she completed credit card offers in my name and charged 8K of debt that I have just paid off.

I finally got the nerve to pack all my things and leave 4 years ago. After moving out I was able to build up my confidence, get my own job and apartment with by boyfriend. I have slowly tried to rebuild my relationship with my mother but usually she just asks me for money.

Just recently my mom has taken ill. She is currently recovering and would like me to move in and take care of her...indefinitely. I absolutely do not want to move back in with her but I am guiltridden by saying no.

What should I do?

2007-10-06 16:10:54 · 37 answers · asked by Kai 1