i cant stand how my mum is so immature?

Question

im a messy kid.

but my mum is so immature, today she just threw everything of mine on the floor (my spectacles, watch, bag with ipod and hp inside, my keys). and she dumped some of my things into the garbage wtf i mean.... she's a successful career woman. a boss. she's used to ppl rushing to complete her orders

but that doesnt give her the right to throw my things about like a demented person. she doesnt care if she breaks my things

and i'v adopted this attitude of " if you scold / throw more, i dont care i'm going to ignore you till you cool down " and of course she throws more =XX

my mum doesnt give me stuff. i buy them on my own using the pocket money she gives me.

and some of them are my own school notes

but my room aint those kind of cant-see-the-floor messy. my messy stuff are my notes, not my clothes, not my bed.. so i dont see why she can get so angry.. and it's my room! after i cleared the living room she gets me to clear my room. how much trouble is that when i'm rushing... and anything i put back i'm sure to take out again. my house is tiny!!!

APPLAUD?!?!?! excuse me, THAT is going WAYY too far. i hate ppl like that. She doesnt respect my things. and she asks me to respect hers?? i've noticed this pattern that she thinks she's sooo great, and now ppl are treating her the same way she treats them - rough. she bangs my things around etc and so, my helper too.

Answer 1

I'm sorry your mom is behaving that way. In a sense, relatives can be a mixed bag--no one is closer to us, but for that very reason, no one can irritate us more profoundly. Your mother and you didn't choose each other, but for a while, you're stuck, and it sounds like things can get frustrating.

As a young adult looking back on my teen years, though, I'd say not to let stuff like this get you down--recognize your mother's limitations and accept her for them, and you'll find that maybe, they won't make you so mad. Hopefully, you guys will develop a solid relationship over time and be there for each other. Does the mother have a side to the story? Probably, but her behavior sounds pretty mean and counter-productive--her child deserves respect and rational treatment. Good luck, my friend.

Answer 2

Actually, yes, she has every right to do whatever she wants with your stuff as long as you live in her home. It's HER home, HER rules, and if she requires you to clean your room, clean your room or take HER consequences.

If you don't want her to do that, clean up your act as told. And, since she's a successful business woman, I'm more prone to believing it is you the one that is immature and not her. I applaud what your mother did. She did that to get your attention since you obviously don't listen to her any other way. You'd last less time in my house for your cop out that you're a 'messy' kid. Anything found on the floor would be pretty much history. Sorry, no tears here for you. Try to grow up and do as mum says.

Answer 3

If your Mum does this throwing around thing on a regular basis, I would say that she has a problem. But if this was something that doesn't normally happen, then perhaps she had a very bad day and needs to apologize to you.

If this is something that happens on a regular basis, you really should call the child protective services in your town. It's possible that your Mom is in need of psychological help and/or medication to control her problem. She may very well be suffering from something called Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), or even simple depression. I suffered from OCD for years without realizing it and made my family's life miserable. Now I take medication for OCD and the difference is profound.

So please determine if this was an isolated incident or a common pattern for your mother.

Answer 4

I implement the same thing in my house, only that everything on the floor goes into a trash bag, they have 24 hours in which to put it where it belongs, or it goes out with the trash. Kids must learn responsibility somehow, they don't care how much we invest in those items, how much our house is valued at, and that things strewn all over cheapens the look of what we work hard for, so whatever it takes to get kids attention we must do!

Answer 5

She is only trying to make a point. That you should keep your stuff organized. Believe me, I've heard of this often, My daughter, even after she got married, was still having her clothes on the floor or disorganized with her stuff.....well, that's what her husband did to her. I grant you, it was'nt a good thing, but she learned quick, don't leave your stuff around or she won't see it again! End of story......elisayn

Answer 6

There is a very easy way to solve this problem with your mum.
Clean up after yourself. Pick things up. Don't leave them laying around.
How many times has your mum asked you to pick things up?
How many times has your mum, frustrated with asking you, has told you to pick things up?
If you can't follow directions, she's going to throw things away. I would do the same thing. Just solve the problem with easy simple steps. See above.

Answer 7

Sorry but that isn't being immature. That's frustration being expressed by a parent for a messy kid.

BTW, has she asked you to clean things up NUMEROUS TIMES? I assume that you will answer yes. If anyone is immature, it's you for not taking responsibility for YOUR things.

I'm sure this isn't what you want to hear. Been there, done that!

Answer 8

we did that with my three year old and it worked. when he didn't pick up his toys we started throwing them away into a garbage bag. It was helpful when he started pooping in the potty later, we could give them back as rewards.

Answer 9

She is probably doing this because you act like spoiled brat and don't put your things up nor show her any respect so why would you deserve to get any. She is just trying to get through to you.

Answer 10

Messy kid with to much stuff. Maybe crazy Mom should cut back on giving messy kid so much stuff to make messy with. No mess, No mad Mom, problem solved.