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Question

My mother is a too soft hearted woman,lost my father in 1991.My wife shouted with her and my mother told her to get out.She shouted because my mother said a wrong sentence about my father in law who shouted with my mother before.

Well,the reason was I had to go office and so I took my dinner and waited for my wife coming from hospital.She came and got hart,as I completed my dinner.My mother told her to have food and she denied.Mother told her whethet she took her dinner or not.She reolied she didnot take and will not take.Then we shouted and my wife also shouted with my mother and this is the beginning of the matter.
Then my mother called my mother in law and told the event as she got hart from my eife's shouting.They replied badly and told that they would take their daughter home.
But my wife doesnot want to leave me and persued me to leave home with her.But I will never leave my mother.She decided to stay but dont want to talk and mix with my mother.

Tell me what to do.pls

Dear Cynical girl,
My mother is not domination and she does not want control our life.She came to see her after coming from a long duration job and made dinner ready for her.She used to ready every meal for us.She is really too soft hearted.And do why suggest to leave her??Without husband seh took care of us for 17 years!She does not want anything but our peace.I suggest u not leave ur parents for a second.
Try to understand my problem.My mother never froced us to do anything in her life.

Answer 1

ermm..it's a bad situation...i think u should stay with your mother BUT you also should talk to your wife...talk to her why you stay with your mother...if she love you,she surely understand why you do that...

Answer 2

I have some trouble in understand what went on - what does "she came and got hart" mean?

The way I understand it, your mother was trying to force your wife to sit and eat the dinner your mother had prepared but your wife didn't want it and so an argument ensued. That does not really point to your mother being too "soft-hearted" more that she is very contolling and still wants to control your life. Why, if you are married, are you living with your mother? Unless there are good financial reasons for doing so (i.e. you are trying to save for a place of your own) then I cannot see that it is a healthy environment. You say you will never leave your mother - why not? What about when you and your wife have children?

Take it from someone who was brought up in their maternal Grandmother's house, which Grandmother tried to control everything and just caused lots of arguments, the repercussions of which are still with us 10 years after the Grandmother's death and over 20 years since the last of us actually left home!! It is not a good idea. Move out, get a place for you and your wife. It can be near your mum and you can see her often, just not in the same house. Stand up and be a man - a husband, not just a devoted son.

Answer 3

listen, you are a one-eyed man. your mom must be troublesome.she gets shouted by all her close in-laws, but that doesn't mean all the in-laws are bad and only your mom is that "too soft hearted".
no parents want to ruin their doughter's married life, so if her mom said so to your mom that they want to take her back, they must know that their girl is not happy in your house. why did your father in law shouted with your mom? without any reason?
here we come to know about all the others, but remember, YOU are an important person in this situation. what was your role? can't see that stated anywhere. were you the same good and sympathetic to your wife also? when your mom was having troubles with your wife, she called her mom. do you think it was necessary, and she had no other way to settle the matter down? i think it was so mean to complain to her parents about their daughter.
you have all the responsibilities for your wife ( no less than the same you have for your mom). her parents are ready to give her the support she needs, but as you said, she still decided not to leave you. why do you think she did so?does that mean anything to you?
i'll suggest you nothing. i hope you are quite grown up. i'll just request you to do something that will be FAIR.

Answer 4

and never the twain should meet,what a muddle

Answer 5

welll...i dunno