Can it be possible for me to be in love with two men?
I love them both.
My husband is 27 years older than me.He is overprotective and patronizing,controlling and jealous. I owe him a great deal and I care.
The other guy is my age and an extraordinary lover,he makes me feel special and loved.I need him.
My husband gave me an ultimatum.
My boyfriend sent me a letter saying :it doesn't matter whether you're married or not. I'm gonna love you to death...
2007-10-07 03:40:20 · 11 answers · asked by adasnameismalika 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think you can "totally" love both. You love some things from the older one and physical stuff from the younger. Make your choice as it would only be fair to both of them and yourself.
2007-10-07 03:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by lone_lee_days 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your hubby should go to marital counselling. It sounds like he's insecure which is why he does all those things. It's all about control. Was he like this before you had a boyfriend or only since you 've had one. Either way you cheating on him won't help anything. You need to put all your energy into your marriage. If you've tried all you can then maybe it wasn't meant to be.
As for your boyfriend saying he's "gonna love you to death" I'd be worried. What does he mean by that? Be careful b/c some men do just that, love you to death. Women end up dead when men become obsessed, either he can have you or nobody can. BE careful.
2007-10-07 10:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by Delia D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reminds of the 70's song, TORN BETWEEN TWO LOVERS!!, You've got a real problem, sounds as if you married for $$$+support, now you've found a lover your own age, (+he's probly broke), so do you stay for $$$, whats that make you?? Or do you go for the other guy??? Only u can decide this! But someone is going to get their feeling hurt!!
2007-10-07 10:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by happywjc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can love more than one person! Being old enough to be your father, your husband should understand that youth will always call to youth. He's in the wrong for being jealous and possessive. You can never own someone (it's called slavery--and has much in common with marriage!) nor can one control the actions of another. However much you love and owe this older man, you should love yourself and regard your own happiness as your primary responsibility in this life. Anyone who extends an ultimatum in love deserves to be called on it.
2007-10-07 10:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure it can be possible. That doesn't mean you should be cheating on your husband though. If I was your husband I would have kicked you to the curb a long time ago. If you are unhappy leave. If he is THAT bad you would have a long time ago. I can almost guarantee that if you leave your hubby to be with this other guy it will not work out. Any man that thinks it's okay for a woman to be cheating on her habby has issues himself. Best of luck to you and I REALLY hope you do not have kids with your hubby. If you do I feel sorry for them.
2007-10-07 10:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by Heidi A 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if you are married, you should NOT have a boyfriend, that is a betrayal of trust.
Your husband needs to dump you ASAP, and find himself a REAL wife.....
2007-10-07 10:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by statenislanddreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They both care about you, but you really are being unfair to both of them by continuing to have both relationships.
2007-10-07 11:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by Suburban Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*shakes head* why cheat? that's not nice at all. no matter how unhappy you are with your husband you should never cheat. you should divorce and then hook up with the other guy.
2007-10-07 10:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by ↓ ♥мǝow♥ ↑ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
evidently they both do but it sounds like you need to choose
2007-10-07 10:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess....your favorite color dress is RED.
2007-10-07 10:43:34 · answer #10 · answered by jjayferg 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋