my son is almost 5 and his bilogical father has seen him only 2 times in a little over 2 years then in nov. 2005 he came over and decided he wanted to be there he cae around and seen him like every weekend till feb of 06 when his next child was born. we were never married hes not married to his girlfriend now he even pays child support on that child he lives 3 hours away from me and when he called me in feb 06 t tell me he didnt want anything else to do with him thats the last i heard from him till aug. of 2007. now hes filling for full custody or atlest visation. iv been married for 2 years now and have 2 other kis live in a decent size house and my husband has had the same jb for 3 years his father cant keep for longer than 5 weeks. iv never denied him to see my son untill the last phne call i dont know what to do im scared f losing my baby. my son is scared to death of him. he screams if i ever mention his name. help
2007-10-07 07:25:32 · 7 answers · asked by Misty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He won't get full custody unless you are doing something really wrong, so stop worrying about that.
But he can and likely will get visitation and you need to be ready for that. Your son may be scared now, but he will get used to his dad again and you preparing him now will help him when the time comes. You need to be positive and stay positive and this is going to make it easier for your son.
When he does file this... try to ask for superivised visits, or shorter visits until you son gets used to his dad again, then they can progress to longer visits. Don't ever say or do anything negative towards or about his dad when he is around. He needs to see you two getting along no matter what. He doesn't need to feel like he has to choose.
And hopefully his dad will stick around for the rest of his life this time around. If so, then it is going to be your job to try to encourage their relationship. A son really does need his father and if he is willing to be there for him now that is better than not having him at all.
Best of luck to you and stop worrying!
2007-10-07 08:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously doubt that he would be granted full custody, but I do think he should still be allowed some visitations perhaps supervised or at least in the town of which you live. What are the reasons that your son fear him? If its abuse then thats a problem if its just the fact that he doesnt see him often then you can talk with your son & explain to him that mom & dad are apart but he is still his father & that your husband is his step father & that they both love him. I dont think its a good idea to let your son grow up fearing his natural father. It may also be a good idea for to communicate with his dad & tell him how your son reacts so that hopefull the two of you can work together to ease your sons confusion & frustration.
2007-10-07 07:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by fiestynay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for starters you need to get a good lawyer. I just went through the same thing. But it the kid is scared of him take him with you when you go see the lawyer. My ex cant hold a job for longer than a month. I have custody of my daughter and he gets her eveyother weekend. But soon I am going to take him back to court becouse she dose not want to go over to his house. And he lives with his mom and he or my daughter dose not have a room to sleep in. He sleeps on the floor but they still let him have her. I dont know where you are from but here in north carolina the child has to be alest 6 before the judge will listen to them but I would give in a try. Good luck
2007-10-07 07:37:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's probably trying to get out of paying child support.
2007-10-07 07:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The judge would have to be a real dingaling to give him custody. Don't worry about it. He just wants to rock your boat.
2007-10-07 07:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by fnd40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEADBEAT DAD...PERIOD.
TELL HIM TO GO FOR IT, HE WILL NOT GET FULL CUSTODY.
YOU AND YOUR HUBBY ARE FINE, THE EX IS BLOWING WIND AND IS WANTING TO ESCAPE RESPONCIBILITY...HE WAS NOT THERE BEFORE SO WHY BOTHER NOW.
YOU ARE HAPPY AND HE IS MISERABLE...TELL HIM SIMPLY ''GOOD LUCK''.
DO NOT RUN HIM DOWN TO THE CHILD....IT WILL BE A HUGE MISTAKE...IN LIFE AND COURT.
GOOD LUCK.
2007-10-07 07:55:03 · answer #6 · answered by transvainia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never trust him, I lost my son to my ex that was never there because i was too nieve so get you a lawyer before it happens to you.
2007-10-07 08:27:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋