I know it's an age-old question, BUT.. here's some background: she's very focused on her body and weight - to the point of distraction. She won't eat meals with us - she has her own special food and special times to eat, exercises compulsively, is 52 and still shops in the "junior" section (you know, short skirts, low cut tops, push up bras, the whole bit). She loves drama, and creates it when she can't find it. She doesn't have anything good to say about me, doesn't spend time w/our two young girls unless it's a holiday or she's trying to impress someone else that she's a great grandma, doesn't clean her house, is not at all dependable (showed up 1.5 hours late to my daughter's 1st bday party), etc. My husband wishes it were different, but has accepted that she just isn't going to change. Can we slowly just sever ties? She's not a good influence on my girls (always talking about weight and calories), and she promises to do things w/them and then doens't show.
2007-10-07 08:26:36 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she has "peter pan syndrome" (she'll never grow up)!
2007-10-07 09:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by bon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most of what you write is really none of your business. She's an adult and has the right to eat what she chooses, dress herself, and keep her house however she likes.
Since she doesn't spend much time with her grands, I don't see the harm in that little contact that they have.
Your husband is right; she's who she is; you can't change her, nor do you have the right to try.
The example you give your children is much more important in their development than once-in-a-while contact with their grandmother.
2007-10-07 16:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.stop inviting her to family functions for the children.
2. your husband is right about 1 thing she is not going to change her dress habits accept it!
3. when she mentions weight and calories in front of the children just quietly mention to your girls how lovely and wonderful just the way they are and grandma needs to be quiet (nothing wrong in telling grandma to shut up every now and then!)
2007-10-07 16:05:03 · answer #3 · answered by Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cut all ties now. Why sever them slowly when you can do it fast.
2007-10-07 16:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋