My whole family sees me academically ahead of everyone, & they're trying to bring me down, but then they think I'm jealous because they're more attractive & have kids, but I'm not jealous. I'm the dumb, nerdy scapegoat of the family. & then the family is the most critical & insulting & start a lot of life-threatening rumors that's not true about me.
2007-10-06 19:50:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are not jealous of them; I can tell. They, though, very well may be jealous of you. You are correct, they want to bring you down. Don't let them win sweetie. Keep on keeping on even though it is so hard and do what you need to do.
2007-10-06 22:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is never easy to live with someone who emotionaly abuses us. Emotional abuse can be much worse than physical abuse because it scars you for life leaving you feeling worthless and self concsious. I live at home with my family and recently my cousin moved in and she is constantly making fun of everything i do and say. All i did was complain to my mother which was useless. My advice to u, which is what i did with my cousin and it worked, is to sit ur family down (much like an intervention) and let them know how u feel. U can talk to each one privately or just face them all together. You have to understand that people who talk about u or criticize u and make u feel little are only doing it because they dont feel so good about themselves either. They want to fill an emptiness and give themselves an ego boost by belittling you. This is called leveling, they want to be on ur level so they either bring u down to where they are or try to come up to where u are. This is why you need to face these isssues and tell them how it makes u feel when they act certain ways and that u want to have a good and healthy relationship with them but things wont work out unless u both compromise. Ask them what bugs them about u and adress these issues, if u feel they're being unfair then tell them. If they dont change their attitude then at least u know u did evrything u could. Also, try to put urself in their shoes, see things from their perspective and then maybe u will have a better picture of why they do what they do. I hope things work out and just remember that everyone is great and its noone's place to judge others.
2016-05-17 23:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. A lot of issues there. If you are academically ahead of everyone..you're on the right track. Pursue your dreams and goals. You can't go wrong. Being strong doesn't always mean being the biggest or the baddest. As far as looks and attractiveness goes. ... it fades with time.
2007-10-06 20:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by chilicooker_mkb 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy
2007-10-06 19:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, to me they are the ones who seem to be jealous. You know how they say bullies put people down to make themselves feel better, well this is one of those times. But don't let it bother you. If their family you should talk to them and let them know how their words truly hurt you. Your smart, alot of times family bring you down because they know you can do better, you can always improve on everything. They just want what's best for you.
2007-10-06 19:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then they are just horrible family members. You should tell somebody about this, I think it's quite serious. If your family's doign this, then you have to stand up for yourself and tell him to SHUT UP. I think it's stupid since that they're doing this to you. You don't deserve this.
2007-10-06 19:57:01 · answer #6 · answered by cat_heros@sbcglobal.net 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋