I had my first child at 35. I notice that older parents seem to treat their children differently that younger parents. Older parents have had more life experiences and bring that knowledge to parenting. Younger parents have more energy and tend to interact at a different level with their children. Which is best and why?
2007-10-07 08:04:31 · 8 answers · asked by shannadee1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
lol . . . sorry I had to laugh.
Depends on your point of view. In my opinion, I would hold off on having children until you and your relationship with your boyfriend is financially, mentally and emotionally stable . . . age has nothing to do with it. I know that is not really answering the question, but that is my advise.
True, the younger the parents are, the more energy they have, they can interact a little better with the child . . . why? Because in most cases, they still have the mentality of children. They can still relate to their children, because they are still going through the same problems. The younger a couple marries, the percentage is a lot higher for them to get a divorce and that is no good for the child or children.
Older parents seem to have a little bit of a more difficult time to relate to their children, but they can also teach their children about responsibility, prospects for the future, and provide love and care.
Me, myself . . . I was a parent when I was barely an adult. No was not their biological father, but I was their biological brother. I fought the court system to gain custody of my siblings and raised them on my own. I was financially stable, but emotionally or mentally . . . I don't think so. I know I was not adequately suited or prepared but I did my best . . . and two out of the three are well adjusted. In the case of my brother, I blame myself . . . I treated him as a friend and tried to be a mentor, when he needed displine and a father.
Right now, I am 36 years old. A widower and I have a 5 year old son, who is the light of my life. I am more of a father now, than I was 18 years ago. One of my sisters, is married and has one son, she got married while she was still in high school, but didn't have her son until after she got out of college and was settled in her career. The youngest, just finished high school this year, and she is in College over at Cal State. My brother, it is my fault, I should have been a father instead of a friend. I am not going to make that mistake with my son.
2007-10-09 06:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by Tag Your It 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love this question! First of all I am 33 and I haven't had a child, yet the majority of my friends are married with children. In my early to mid 20s, my friends were getting married and in their mid to late 20s having children. However, I have remained single, travelled the world, and lived in 4 different countries and ALL of them tell me they WISH they had my life! I am now considering marriage and children although I am happy I waited to have children because I have more to offer them. All the things I wanted to do, I did, so I am now emotionally ready to have a child whereas before I was physically ready to have a child but my priorities where elsewhere. If I had a child in my 20s, my priorities would have shifted to my child, but does that mean I would not have resented the fact I did not wait to have a child before achieving my goals? I am not sure. I find that women that have children in their 30s are more centered and focused. They know who they are and they know what they want. Women are having children much older now...look at Halle Berry or possible Jennifer Lopez, these women are in their late 30s and 40s.
2007-10-07 08:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by MissBarcelona 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well to me it is better having children at my 20's because u get to see your child growing up to be a great adult. Also in a education that he will do well in. But to others it probably be around the 30's
2007-10-07 08:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by Aman's gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first child at 20 years old I was very mature but I don't think I had enough Patience like I wished I could have had then my second child at 31 totally different like I was actually ready for it funny thing is my first child was planned and my second one wasn't but I did see a big difference and I think when your older its alot more enjoyable
2007-10-07 13:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by kayme42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in your 20's and 30's it is deemed the best time because parents are more energetic like you said. you are more more mature than say if you are teeneagers (baby having baby) and although at any age there is always a risk of birth defects and complications, the older you are (40 +) higher the risks of birth defects. (even though this may not happen there is still the risk)....
I have always believed babies are born to be loved and cared for... they are not toys or weapons to be used as a pawn in a game of get back at the BF or GF! (or husb. and wife)
2007-10-07 08:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother had me in her late 30s i.e. she was 37 and in my opinion I think she is doing a wonderful job she is now 53 all of my friends parents are like in the late 20s or very early 30s and I don't any grand parents on any side of my family, my dad is 58 I don't care how old they are and I think that they have done an amazing job so if you are worried that you had them too old don't it doesn't matter the age just how you take care of them.
2007-10-07 08:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say 30's it's not about what they call you, it's about being a good parent to your child, when you're in your 20's you still love to go out more, so you have less time to spend with your kids.....
2007-10-07 08:13:57 · answer #7 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20's. have kinds while your young. cause if you have them in your 30's the'll end up calling you"granny"!! LOL
2007-10-07 08:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by Norahs♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋