We are a middle class family who live in the suburbs. We arent like trailor trash or something. I go to a private high school and my dad works a white collar job. I just found out that my dad is an alcaholic and has been hiding it for 30 years. He has never been drunk near me and I have never even seen him drunk, but I found an AA book in our library that has his name in it and that he wrote in. What the hell do I do?
BTW my mom knew, but my sister didnt.
2007-10-08 11:39:38 · 9 answers · asked by Room Service 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all, contact Adult Children of Alcoholics. They have meetings and you can get help and meet people that have similar stories. Know that you're not alone and lots of people have addictions.
Second, speak with your Mom and Dad about this. You might be predisposed to this because it is a disease. You can be proactive in your life about addressing this issue.
Best of luck to you and your family.
2007-10-08 11:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by chicago4800314 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you had to find out that your Dad is an alchoholic. Don't give him a hard time about it. If he has never been drunk in front of you, than he has probably been sober for a long time. He should be celebrated for that. It's a hard thing to be sober, when you are addicted to something. Maybe you should ask your Mom what she thinks you should do. If yoi do feel the need to approach your Dad, tell him this, "Dad, I found your AA book, and I just want you to know that I am really proud of you for going to AA."
2007-10-08 18:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a wonderful organization which is a branch of AA. It's called Al-anon and it is specifically designed for families and friends of alcoholics. There you will find people like yourself who are dealing with similar circumstances.
There is no cost to attend these meetings, and you do not have to share any personal information. Nor do you have to participate if you choose not to.
Here is a website that will help you.
2007-10-08 18:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, your dad cares enough about you to have hidden it all these years. BUT, other than be supportive and not judgemental, you can really do nothing. He is the one that must make changes and he may or may not be strong enough to do that. Be there, but don't white wash the truth. It is what it is and you must deal with it. There aer groups, as mentioned in other answers, that help you do that. Peolple are human, not perfect. GOOD LUCK!
2007-10-08 18:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by hobenshain 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. Just tell your dad how you feel. He is your dad, so he might understand.
2007-10-08 18:43:03 · answer #5 · answered by rayquaza 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask your dad talk to him he may have already recovered...you are lucky you never saw the evidence....it is ugly
2007-10-08 18:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by just duky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it was prob a pals book, if not there are no signs now that he is an alcoholic!
2007-10-08 18:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
mind your own business, like you said he doesn't do it around you, bug off mate
2007-10-08 18:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
nothing for you to do . if you have a problem talk to your parents
2007-10-08 18:47:00 · answer #9 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋