Should i have told the cops the whole story?? (my abusive step dad)?

Question

so my step dad just got mad and was beating my dog really bad. i plugged my ears and was screaming.. (i noe im childish.. im 15) my mom stood up and was screaming at him.. ( my mom is crippled and can barely walk) and he was yelling back. the whole time the dog was squealing... && i.m getting even more scared... then he stood up and swung on my mom. this turned my fear into pure rage because i.ve seen my real dad beat my mom too many times. my mom didnt back down. she was still in his face telling him to leave the dog alone. he was pushin her and i jumped in the middle so he started pushing me. i called the cops but my mom started yelling at me so i hung up. he started throwing our coach and stuff outside. my little sister (7) woke up and was hiding in the b/r. he finally stopped when the cops came and my mom made me not tell the whole story. she said it was just an argument and i took it over by calling the cops. am i wrong for not telling the whole story? how can i stop this???

Answer 1

you can go to the police and tell them the story when no one else is around. She is probably afraid of being alone since she is disabled but she doesn't realize that if he beat the dog, he is just as capable of beating - and killing - you , your sister, or your mother. The next time that happens, you can also call 911 and put the phone aside so that no one realizes that you did that. and when the police show up they will see what is going on and take it from there.
If there is any evidence on the dog of the beating you can call the human society and report that the dog is being abused and they will look into it.
when the step dad is not around, talk to your mother and tell her that she was wrong in not telling the truth and that she is setting a bad example for you and your sister and that your sister may also end up thinking that is normal in a relationship and be abused in the future.
tell her that beating the dog is proven to be the first step before he starts beating you or your sister, or even her, and ask her if someone has to die before she takes action.
I hope you get some help in this and that your mother realizes that life is too short to be abused by anyone.

Answer 2

I grew up in the same kind of situation. My mother, thank God, finally divorced my step dad. I still hate him to this day, nearly a decade later, and I'm still working on undoing the damage he has done. I know why your Mom stays with him. She's afraid she can't do any better, or that no one else will "love" her like your step dad. She can, even if she is crippled. Believe me, baby, she can. What has got to happen is you've got to get you, your little sister, and your dog out of there. See if you can stay with some friends if you have no relatives. Your mom will get rid of him if she looses her children. Her eyes will be opened. I did the same thing when I was 15. A year later, she divorced my step dad. Don't let him damage your mind or image of yourself. It's all you've got to live out in the world, it's all you've got to be able to make it. I've been in and out of places for the past three years with my kids trying to make it. Self image affects everything. Don't let him do this to you. The best revenge you can have on him is to be a well functioning adult. Tell the cops the whole story. You will come to a point where you don't care how mad he gets. Your anger can match his, and even transcend it. Get everyone you know involved.

Answer 3

Sounds to me like he has an anger problem. This situation could have easily escalated and someone could have gotten hurt really badly or ended up dead. Your mother should not want you and your sister in a household with someone like this as it is very dangerous. you should have told the cops the whole story ... but don't feel bad about it.. god forbid there is a next time, but if there ever is.. no matter how mad your mother gets at you, tell the truth, you just might save the lives of you and your family..

Answer 4

You don't say if this was the first time anything like this happened with your step dad or if this has happened before.

Nothing he was doing was right or justified, but if it was the very first time this happened, it might have been OK to let him get by with the police.

However if this has happened before, you should have told them everything. If it ever happens again you should tell the police the whole story regardless of what your mother says. she is enabling his anger problem by covering for him. Eventually someone will really get hurt and it probably won't be the dog.

Answer 5

You can still go abck and tell the whole story. Go down to the police station after school if you can and tell them you were uncomfortable giving the whole story in front of your mom and that you are concerned. You can also contact a counselor at school who can help you take the proper steps to getting this situation fixed. NO ONE should have to feel scared in their own home, especially not children. SO speak up now!

Answer 6

You should always tell the police the whole story. They are there to help you. An abusive person will only get worse without help. The police will get him the help he needs. It is always better to be safe than sorry. If you feel scared enough to call the cops then by all means you are right to call the cops. Remember, parents aren't always right.

Answer 7

man ooh mannn, do i know how u feel! AHH this happened to me before as welll! something very similar. it was actually from another violant, crazy, tempermental person in my family. he started hitting and punching family members and i quickly ran out to call the cops but my mom is alwyas holding me bak in situations like these. she jus doesnt wanna see the person get into any trouble..although they DESERVE all the trouble they can get. for the mean time i dont think you are wrong because you obeyed your mother and she probaly would've gotten upset if u didnt..BUT eventually, if this persists, u must tell the cops the whole story...its totally wrong what this man is doing..it angers me soo much because ive been in situations similar to this before. it hurts emotionally and mentally! i pray for you...hope everything turns out well someday (if this is something that happens on a daily basis)----this man is dangerous; u must inform the professionals soon

Answer 8

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Answer 9

You should have told the whole story, because you, your sister,your mom and your dog may not be so lucky the next time he decides to throw another one of his charades beating on a dog. remember that you are not his daughter, so he may be more likely to hit you then if you were his own. I dealt with a stepfather who fathered my bro and sis, and they didn't get it half as bad.

Answer 10

Your step dad isn't fooling the cops. Call the police station and talk to someone there and tell them just what happened. Then call the humane society and tell them what happened to your dog and ask them to come and get it before he kills it. Call family services and tell them. Tell your teachers and a school counselor. Tell your other family and tell your minister. No one should have to live with abuse, but you have to speak out. Good luck to you.