what should I do ? there is alot of money and other things involved
2007-10-07 17:04:57 · 7 answers · asked by Denise S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Not much you can do given the fact they are the trustees and you are not. If it was your mothers wish to involve you then "she" would have made concessions for this in her living will.
There may be money involved but I hope your not depending on that money to make your life all roses cause if you are I do not think you will every be satisfied with the way this will eventually work out.
If all else fails then take this up with your siblings, if they feel you need to know these things based on some other fact then your desire to know what your take will be then so be it. But really, there is no reason for you to know the finer details of your mothers financial situation especially if you are not footing the bill for anything.
2007-10-07 17:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by hydrogen_peroxide_usp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that leaving you in the dark is intentional? Request a family meeting and ask questions. Let them know you need to be involved and make sure you are on a first name basis with the lawyer. Why weren't you made a trustee?
2007-10-08 00:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by eek! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your mother about this and perhaps set an attorney as the trustee so that someone objective handles that. You might also consider talking to an attorney yourself if you are not happy with what you find out from your mother. She may not even realize that they are the trustees and leaving you in the dark and she may be very grateful that you brought this to her attention.
2007-10-08 00:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was written out of both my parents will because I rejected their fundy church. I have other siblings and they are getting it all, even though I have done more than anything to help my folks in their elderly years. And you know what... let them have it. You should stand on your own two feet and not be reliant on family money. So they suck and are mean and greedy. If you put this into court then you will lose your family, and may not get any money either. So express to them your fears and desires and try to be as nice about it as you can, but don't start up a big thing or you will regret it the rest of your life.
2007-10-08 00:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by CB 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
is there a reason they are trustees and you are not? Sounds to me like if that is the case than legally there isn't much you can do. Other than lagally, ask them why you are being kept in the dark...
2007-10-08 00:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go - it's not your decision what your mom will do with her money and who she chooses to trust with these decisions. My sister in law is taking care of all of that for my mother in law and my husband and I don't even question it and will know nothing until death and a will is read or something. Mom is a grown woman and we can trust that her decisions with her money - if they make her comfortable - that's what is best. If she leaves us nothing and we get nothing - we will not be sad because we don't expect anything.
2007-10-08 00:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your mom.
If she has passed then you should have a copy of the thing just like any other will.
2007-10-08 00:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by NoGood 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋