I don't know what the deal is but over the last 8 months my mom has become increasingly emotional..I am 19 and I go to University in a city about 30 miles from my house so its about 45 minutes on the expressway every other morning when i leave she crys..and says johnathan i love you..i love you baby... have a goodday and she starts just sobbing uncontrollably... and then when i get home she asks about my day and i tell her whatever and then when i mention this girl im seeing she just starts sobbing uncontrollably again and she gets mad at me.... and just all the time she crys for no reason...today i was playing my guitar and she goes..I remember when you were alittle boy always strumming away on your first guitar..CRYS again and i have to calm her down... i tryed talking about it with my father and he told me just to let it go and comfort her but i cant it pisses me off that she cant control herself... What should i do? What would you do?
2007-10-07 14:47:56 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi Johnnathan,
For just 5 minutes, put your own concerns aside & focus on your mom instead. Your mom brought you into this world, reared you up & spent days & nights watching you grow up. It's only natural that she feels emotional about you leaving for college. Some parents look at their child's growing-up as a relief, as a way to go back to do things they've missed during the rearing up stage. Your mom sees things differently. But I believe your mom doesn't have much hobbies or social circles either, that's why she will simply spend the whole day thinking about you & missing you. Then regarding this girl you're seeing, it makes her jealous & worried because she already lose your time, then now, she will lose you again to another person. How many mom-in-laws resent their daughter-in-law for this simple reason? My advise is to find her hobbies to do, get her to meet new friends. But those are just short-term solutions. The more important thing is assure her that as much as you're going to college & seeing this girl, she was, is & will forever be your mom. This is the time you tell her "how much you love her". Then if you can, check with her time & again at home to ask how she's doing. I'm a parent of 4 kids myself & my eldest is 12. But I dread the day they will grow up & leave nest. I'm not selfish, but simply an emotional human being. The days will be empty & the house will be quiet. Believe me, when you become a parent yourself, you'll begin to understand your mom & see her in a different light. Before I close off let me remind you how lucky & fortunate you are to have a mother who loves you & cares for you. I have friends who would move mountains just to have a mom like yours. Feel blessed.
2007-10-07 15:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She maybe having hormone problems and she should go to her gyn and talk about it. She may need to go on hormone replacement therapy. Some people have a really hard time during menopause. She may start feeling useless because you are growing up and she knows you will soon leave and not need her anymore. That and the effects of menopause or even premenopausal (just going into it) can make it harder for her to deal with.
2007-10-07 15:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by Carol A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to bet she's going through menopause and its making your growing up even harder. Your father has the correct advice, ignore her. I wouldn't "comfort" her, that just feeds into her drama.
This is your mom and your dad's problem, you need to concentrate on your studies and live your own life. Be kind to her, and respectful, but just let it go and ignore it.
Your dad needs to get her to her gyn, there is treatment for her extreme emotions.
2007-10-07 15:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be thankful that you having a loving mother first of all..ut maybe she is menopausal...?
2007-10-07 14:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋