Im 21 and My parents treat me like im 12 Help?

Question

Im 21 and my parents treat me like im a baby, I live at home because I have to find a good job to move out so I can pay for school, My dad dosnt let me go out and my mother is always in my buisness help

Answer 1

Your parents may not even realize they are treating you like you are 12 years old so maybe a heart to heart talk would help. I strongly suggest before you have that heart to heart talk you evaluate your situation. I had a friend that complained of the same thing but came to find out her mother did everything for her i.e cooked her meals, did her laundry, cleaned her room! If your mother is doing everything for you as if you were a 12 year old, than do not be surprised if she treats you like one. Also, if you do not have a job, that means he pays ALL the bills and that may include some of your own, i.e. cell phone, etc. Just a quick reality check, when you live with someone and that person pays all of your bills, usually you have less say in the situation. Have you been out before? Did you come home at the time your parents asked you to? It may seem a petty thing but respect the time they give you. At 21 years of age, stay at home, get a good job and try to save some money, but DO contribute to the household expenses. I think the first step is getting the job (I think you are searching for a good paying job - entry level is not always bad when there are opportunities) the next step is taking up more responsibility in the house (do your own chores besides occasionally washing a dish or two) and contribute to household bills. After you completed these steps then have a talk with your parents about being treated like an adult, they will have to see that you have become one.

Answer 2

If they are paying for school, you have a problem which is not uncommon. In that event, you have to do the best you can under the circumstances. If they are not, and you are hoping to get a job so as to save up for school, then it's not much different.

Parents do this. Not all parents, just some parents. Another alternative is to find the job and then move out and go to school with your earnings. You won't be the first person to do this. That is probably your best option.

Answer 3

I would say hurry up and find a good job. Your parents will always treat you like that as long as you are living under there roof. So get independent fast. Even if you have to move with a friend. I reccommend for your 1st move you, you get an apartment with some else so you guys can split the rent. It helps out a lot. Your parents can say whatever and do whatever as long as you are under there roof; it doesn't get better until you have your own and chil it is nothingl like having your own.

Answer 4

you should be in college or be done with college.

just because you are 21 does not mean you shoud be honored and be free and etc..

your freedom must be earned. your finacial freedom must be earned.

you can get a loan and go to school. ( unless you are attending Community college)

SO if you don't like their house rule, well then you should move out.

parents always will treat you like a baby. they been doing it it since you were a born. don't expect them to chage a 20 year old habit. just be independent.

1. think in long run... you are still young. you can have fun next 7 years or so untill you settle down... do not make rash decision.

2. finish school. Bach is minimum. if you want good life, good boy, get master, get doctorian.

3. if you don't finishi school and become a manager or a micky d's... every one will treat you likea kid until you die.

Answer 5

You are acting like you are 12. See, 12 year olds live at home and allow their parents to support them and care for them.

21 year olds get their own home and support themselves. They do not ask their parents for help and do whatever they need to, even if it means two jobs, so they can be real adults and take care of themselves.

As long as you are living at home suck it up and get used to it. You are not an adult yet.

Answer 6

Maybe you should like have a straight up talk with your parents and tell them that your old enough to make your own decisions. And tell them you should be able to go out and have fun at times, Tell them you get to live once and you just want to live a good life. Alright I hoped I helped out a little.

Answer 7

The simple way to earn respect is to give it. U have to show respect for your parents, their view, opinions and rules. That doesn't mean you can't be your own individual. Truth is, u have to do things for yourself, become independent. U do need your parents for support and advise, but there are also a lot of things you can and should do for yourself.

If you want to be taken seriously, then you have to take yourself seriously, become an adult, be mature, weigh your words and above all, stay reasonable when you deal with your parents. They are bound to see the adult that you are.

Answer 8

its kind of unrealistic of your dad not let you go out when your 21 especially when you want to find a job to pay for school which is really admirable. just tell them what you want to to do and what you plan do in the future, unless there rich, then i think you should ride the mom and dad car for as long as you possibly can.

Answer 9

As long as you're living in their house they are supporting you financially. Unless of course you're paying them rent?? Therefore you have to abide by their rules. That's why I moved out at 18. If you don't like it, get your own place or rent a room from someone. Then you'll be your own boss.

Answer 10

I know what you are going through I just had a friend like that she finally told them how it was and moved in with her boyfriend and when i met my wife she was 20 and they treated her the same you just have to find your way of letting them know