me too bossy to take his hobby? and more!?

Question

background information first:I am doing my Ph.d and it is my fourth year I just started my dissertation. My husband graduated from the same university &got a job in another state. he is quite far , about 1000 miles, and there're never direct flights because my university is in a small college town.
I am about six months pregnant.
we both feel stressed out about the situation because we do miss each other a lot. he gets lonely and plays a lot of vedio games.
question #1. how can i help him ge tting rid of bad habits of playing vedio games all the time without coming across bossy?
question #2. our baby is due next Feb. I am thinking that me and baby live on campus, away from my husband. I of course need help such that my mom is willing to help me for a couple of months while I am finishing up.But does this sound too horrible to take his baby away?(he is a ph.d/pd,impossible to relocate!)

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Well, to clarify, I am not taking our baby away from him because I want to. , just because it seems like I have to.
I need to stay at school(which is 1000miles away from him), since the baby is too small, he needs nursing and his mother. that's why I need to live with the baby. not him. but this sounds too hard. is anyone who is crazy :D like this. I can not imagine actually doing this , but thinking about this possibility makes me cry

Answer 1

First off, I find it very commendable that you two are still in love and are able to keep the relationship. I congratulate both of you, and hope you two are together for a long time.

Alright, so to the questions. When it comes to his habits, perhaps just tell him that you are concerned about how much time he spends on the video games. It's not a problem that can be fixed right away, but you will slowly be able to ween it out of him, especially when the baby comes.
Also, of course it is not horrible "to take his baby away," a baby does need it's mother, it's natural. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. And when the baby comes, perhaps you can buy your husband and yourself web cams, so that each of you can talk during his game time, and he can see the baby. Other than that, I have no ideas.

Answer 2

1. Leave him alone about the video games. Playing video games is harmless compared with LOTS of other things he could be doing. IE clubs, gambling, seeing other women. Keep things in perspective.
2. Your decision about the baby is the right thing to do. With today's digital world, it is very easy to take pics and videos and email to him. Web cams are not expensive, he could see the baby live. Maybe seeing baby and Mommy live will get him to to come visit sooner. Send him some kisses thru the video or web cam so he can see what he is missing. LOL
3. Keep in mind that your long term goal is to finish your PhD and be together with your husband for a long and loving life together. Being separated for a few months is worth that goal.
4. You are lucky to have your mother close enough to help.
5. Good luck on your PhD, baby, and marriage.