i really dislike my mum?

Question

I really dislike my mum i dont know why sometimes she doesnt even do anything just being in the same house as her really gets me annoyed my parents split up when i was 7 im now 14 and i only see my dad once a year, she always seems to be yelling at me and doesnt like anything that im into like she thinks soft rocks horrible music and i shouldnt listen to it?

Answer 1

maybe she is still not over the divorce.

Answer 2

Your mom annoys you probably becuz u blamed her for the split as well as the fact that you dont see your dad much that builds up resentment. Even though you may not think so but her being a single parent is very difficult. She might be stressed about finances and things when she raises her voice but that doesnt mean she dont love you, believe me if she dont you probably wouldnt be there. There is one thing I can tell you is that from my own personal experience, you will NEVER find anyone who cares and loves you like your mother. i was a rebel and still is actually since I did everything that I was told not to but I am able to learn from my mistakes and some mistakes are forever. I suggest you have a heart to heart talk with your mom and reach a better understanding between you 2. Just remember that everything you do now will affect you in the future and try to think about the consequences of your actions, some things cannot be taken back even if u regret it.

Answer 3

You are your own person, and you don't need to agree on everything that your mother likes/dislikes. Part of what your going through could be your age. Beyond that, it's difficult to live with anyone, including family. Try having a roomate. You run into the same issues. Try to keep the waters calm until you are old enough to move out. Your relationship should get better.

Also, please understanding that your mother is shouldering a great burden. She has the responsibility of caring for you for the greater part of the year. You may like/respect your father more, but he may be under less stress. When he sees you, you may get to do things that are a little bit more carefree. Your mom probably doesn't have that opportunity as much. Just a guess. Try to give her a little credit.

Answer 4

It's probably because you're 14 and it's natural for parents to be a little freaked out when their kids break away and become something different than they imagined their kids might be like, and for kids to possibly overreact a little when this occurs. You're just becoming who you're going to be, and of course the last thing you want is one more person trying to tell you what you should like and how you should be.

One day, though, it will not matter one bit whether your mother understands your taste in music or anything else for that matter. It will not matter whether you understand her taste in anything. What's going to matter in the long run is being family and caring about each other. My mom could decorate her whole house in corny ceramic statues of children with big eyes and wear nothing but lime gren spandex (not that that's likely) and I would still love her. I could dye my hair pink and have black fingernails, wear a fake beard made of cotton balls and listen to the weirdest music on earth, and declare I'm a lesbian then announce I'm engaged to a guy she never even met (oh wait, I've done all those things at some point) and my mom would still love me. That's family for ya.

And that's my 2 cents' worth.

Answer 5

I dislike my mom too, most of the time. She has done things to warrant a strong dislike. I have spent years reacting to her. Now I analyze my feelings so that I have a better understanding of myself, and a better handle on my emotions. When I feel myself getting upset/angry or annoyed by her, I simply remind myself (verbally) that I don't like her very much, and I can't change her, but I can live with the dislike, because it is really only a small portion of my life. I see it like eating Brussels sprouts. It's not the end of the world, but it is a sad situation, but it can be lived with, and I move on to the next thing. The hardest part was learnng not to let her manipulate my feelings. A mother is a person first, before she is a mother. Mothers come with baggage.

Answer 6

Of all of the other answers I see here, all are a little right. although you don't realize it, you probably feel a little resentment that your dad is not there or that you don't see him more often and she may be resentful of life in general that she is where she is at in life and so takes that on you. you are still growing and learning so that you may listen to the soft rock, for example, and may in time decide that you don't like it at all, but that is all a part of growing up. Try listening to the music in your room or even with headphones so that she doesn't have to listen to that and perhaps she won't be down on that with you. You may even be able to get her to support you more if you try to do little things to help her without her asking. take out the garbage without her asking, help her with dishes, or whatever.
I went through a lot of that with my mother but found the older I got the smarter she got, or so it seemed to me.
you are in a bad position in a way being raised in a single family home but if you work with your mother on this you will find that it also has its advantages in that the two of you can find things to do that are not possible in a home with both parents and more work to do to keep that stable.
Good Luck to you.

Answer 7

dude, instead of asking us, ask you mom, what wrong. maybe shes just going through a hard time but doesnt have anyone to talk to. dont be rude to her or yell back at her, cuz shell just do the same and nothing will come of it. also, try not to do things that might get her angry. sometime, when shes not upset, just ask her what wrong and tell her that you are here for her if she ever needs you. i can guarantee it that once you say that to her, you will both become much closer. remember, yelling and screaming will get you NO WHERE, EVER IN YOU LIFE!! stay calm, and everything will turn out alright! good luck!

Answer 8

I dislike my children sometimes, but I still love them.
Ask her sometimes what it was like when she was 14. I wonder if she remembers. You and your Mum are just having a typical reaction to each other. My parents drove me crazy when I was your age and I know I drove them nuts, too. If in fact, I went out of my way to be as obnoxious as possible because my sister was always the one that did what she was supposed to do. I was the rebel.
But this is natural.
You and your Mum just need to learn how to talk with each other.

Answer 9

Hi, try not to say that you hate your Mom. She is the one you gave you birth and brought you into this world. You are only 14 that's why you think and talk this way. Remember my words when you grow up. Your mother is the only person that you should love with all your heart. Talk to her like an adult, if she yells at you then say I'm sorry and kiss her and don't yell back. She is your MOTHER after all. (not your friend).

Answer 10

First off you can listen to whatever the heck you want. Guess what? We live in America and we all have individual equal rights to listen to any music we like. Second off maybe try to avoid your mom when she's cranky, like maybe just go off into another room or out of the house for fresh air and chill. Relax, We live once. Enjoy life.

Answer 11

Are you stupid or dumb? Mum is a special person in our life. Without your mum u will not be here. She is a good lady.

So, dont be stupid and starting from today tried to like her ok.

This is the stupid question.