Family - October 2007

There has been an ongoing argument between my brother and his wife and my mother. Something happened about 2 months ago that had made them stop talking. So anyway, ever since then i have tried to write to my brother through his myspace b/c i didnt want to call b/c i didnt want to talk to her and she always picks up the phone. So i wrote to him a letter about how he is being so childish and how he can't do this to his own mother. SHE responded back to me!!! I feel like she is cutting off all communication to my brother. My mom took him to the side last weekend, b/c she still goes over there to see her new grandchild, and she wanted to talk to him privately when he had the chance. He called up last night saying how they want to talk with her and how if she calls back she can speak with his wife and tehy can set something up.

2007-10-24 02:17:31 · 10 answers · asked by AngryFalafel 4

One of my mom's friends told me they seen my step dad snorting something one night and now i am scared. i know my dad is smoking marijuana. its just that my real dad left me when i was younger for drugs and now i am worried. my stepdad and i's relationship has went to garbage and his attitude is getting violent. and i am the one who is the source of all his rage. he has even hit me a few times and its been happening more frequently

so please help me. what are the signs of him doing crack/cocaine.

my own mom doesnt want to believe me

2007-10-24 02:14:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My grandfather recently passed away, leaving a house full of old family papers. These range from deeds to the family farm from the 1800s to boxes of bank statements, cancelled checks, newspapers.... Everything is scattered around the house in cupboards, trunks and drawers. Any advice for tackling the task of sorting these papers and deciding what is worth keeping (for the sake of family history) and what should be shredded or otherwise done away with? Any ideas about how long it might take? I hope to spend three or four 12-hour non-stop days to get everything sorted... Is this realistic or completely unfeasible? Thanks for any advice from your experience.

2007-10-24 02:11:17 · 4 answers · asked by Mob_in_France 1

My ex left when our daughter was 10 mos.old. 3 months later he got a girl pregnant, probably was seeing her while we were married. My daughter who is 10 has 1/2 brother who is 8. My ex lives with this lady & his son & is active in my daughter's life. My daughter knows how babies are made and knows this is her half brother. Somehow she's not getting it or I feel more likely blocking or not wanting to face it. when it comes up I have told her that she and her brother have the same father.She gets defensive and says"he can't be they're not married, or he can't look like dad, he looks like his morm, or she'll ask "how did dad even meet her and Riley" Which I can honestly say "I don't know". I've talked to my ex and he just nervously laughs. Thanks for any advice.

2007-10-24 02:03:05 · 25 answers · asked by inkster7 3

When I was 14, my Mum met my stepdad. When I was 16, they got married. We've lived together for about 4yrs now, but since we moved in together, he's been non-stop overprotective about me. When they met, I was in a relationship with a guy, but because he didn't like him, he ruined the relationship between me and my boyfriend. Since then, he has forbid me to have a relationship.
I have given up so much because of him: I stopped going to church because everytime I came home from church he would give me an inquisition about why I believe in God and why I go, I stopped seeing all my friends, I haven't had a relationship for 3 years now. I just feel so trapped. I can't do anything without his sayso. Even if my attitude supposedly changes, he questions me about who I'm seeing behind his back.
I just need a solution. I even keep thinking about walking outta the house & not looking back, but It's not exactly the most mature way of handling this.

2007-10-24 01:52:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with him for 3 years and he's always been the one to comfort me when things in my life went wrong.
Up until recently, he's never been truely unhappy.
The thing is, his dad has got very ill with bowel cancer, we only found out a few days ago.
I'm finding it so hard because I have never seen this side of him. I know how hard it is to cure cancer, I have already lost my aunt to it... She was about 30 years younger than his dad and she didn't survive it.
I keep trying to tell him his dad will pull through but I think he knows I'm just trying to give him some hope.
It doesn't help that I now live about 300 miles from him and don't get to see him like I used to.
It's awful for me to because his dad is like a dad to me.. and my boyfriend is really close to his dad, I don't know what is going to happen if he doesn't make it through cancer...
I'm not sure if something as devastating as this is going to cause him to change or us to seperate because he can't cope..

2007-10-24 01:34:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

fined 250 pounds i dont, believe it for being late, i phoned up the school helpline and they said the goverment treat being late as being absent, so i am taking my son out of school now and teaching him at home hes almost 16, and wants to be taught at home, their were loads of parents in court now, do you think they go over the top now, i am angry about it

2007-10-24 01:28:22 · 4 answers · asked by hairy armpits 2

He's basically a good kid
but he does'nt have a lot of ambition.
I am worried about her as she is too young and naive to see the reprecussions from this and he is not a strong enough individual to help her if anything should go wrong.
Her Dad is furious thats its been going on for so long
I thought they were just friends
She has been seeing him for about a year
Doing anything is going to hurt her so bad.
But her dad is on me to end it
Lay down the law..as he says
But this kid is pretty much all she has going for her as life here is rough.
So what should I do.

2007-10-24 00:54:39 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

i can do if he doesnt want to sign over his rights he hasnt seen her or provided for her in 2 years i just dont know if he woul i think he wouldnt just to make my life harder my husband wants her to have his last name he has been providing for her since i met him and her biological father couldnt find a job couldnt suppory her would come over to pick her up mostly to see me he would speed in the car with my daughter when he would come to pick her up and see me ready to go out i felt that he used the excuse to come for my daughter hoping to se me and work something out.

2007-10-23 23:29:02 · 2 answers · asked by aandf 2

My Partners Mother is very stubborn and only ever has it her way. She currently takes my partners daughter for regular sleep overs but my partner wont say anything to her or ask to have his daughter on those days, even though he really wants to spend time with her.

How can i say to his mother in a polite way to back off and stop being so selfish by taking my partners time away from his daughter?

My partner wont stand up for himself, then when i nag for him to say something he gets shitty with me for continually reminding him to speak with his Mum.

I want him to say something as i know if it comes from me all hell will break loose as well as i know deep down that it hurts him to have very little time with his daughter.

Some advise would be greatly appreciated!!

2007-10-23 21:15:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why is it in this day and age, people still have to worry that their family will disown them for being who they are.

It is miserable to see that people are afraid of their own family's reaction to their sexuality.

2007-10-23 20:09:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

More specifically, I have a problem with my brother having a girlfriend. I haven't liked any of the girlfriends he's had so far, but this one bothers me the most. I think that this may be because they are talking seriously about getting married.
I don't want to lose my brother (I feel like that is happening) to a woman that, in my head, I call a whore -- because she's his girlfriend, not because she is one.
I am very close to my brother and it may even be accurate to say that I love and trust him more than anyone, even my parents. He has been there for me and I've been there for him, and bringing another person into the picture seems awful.
It is so serious that I have had thoughts of killing her, but I don't think I'd actually do it. Not really.
I'm not sure what to do. Everything that I have read says that I need to just "let it be" and "it's his life." But I just don't care; that doesn't quite cut it for me. Something needs to be said, but I haven't the courage to speak up about it.

2007-10-23 18:46:58 · 12 answers · asked by Insert_Name_Here 3

I'm a 13-year-old girl and in my school, i'm already graduating. I just can't understand why my parents pressure me to much in my grades. they always like me to have 90-100 grades in every subject and if i got scores like 80 below, they would be disappointed and scold me even though i try to politely reason that 3/4 of my class failed. Aren't they satisfied that i passed in my test. One of my friends almost cried because of the pressure her parents were giving her. I just want some advices to how i can handle pressure and if you want to say your opinion about this, feel free.

2007-10-23 18:44:57 · 9 answers · asked by 2smiley4 3

my son is 10 months old and his father and i are still together. his dad has a 12 year old son who adores my son when his mom let's him come. since she doesn't like the fact that her ex has moved on she talks a bunch of crap. their son is fine when he's here i even take him to the park to skate and stuff like that. when he leaves i'll hear in him in messages to his father talking about my son and i!! should i give up on being nice to him or should i still try? his mom doesn't let him come when the baby and i are here and she doesn't want him to have anything to do with my son!! HELP ME PLEASE!!

2007-10-23 18:41:49 · 3 answers · asked by miss_molina 1

I am 55 years old Indian with two children. I was a divorcee.Later I married second time a lady having 3 children deserted by her husband. I took care of all of them for last 18 years and grow up the children. She drove away my two children from the house. Last two years I was sick.My children took me and spend huge amount of money cured me. On return home I find her very close to a new neighbour 80 years old widower who is rich. In the pretext of caring him she has started sleeping at his house where both are alone. She says that there is no illicit connection but just pure nursing. The tie is so strong that even after knowing that I have fainted she did not bother to come and see me. Neighbours took me to hospital. The 80 years old man goes to his native place to collect money every three months. This time he has gone but telephones almost eight times a day and talks 20 mts each time. Now she wants me to write my property in her name. Please advise me on Indian perspective.

2007-10-23 18:28:46 · 7 answers · asked by Kittu_pondy 2

I want to have an equal amount of free nights as my partner.
He works full time in sales from 9am to 5 pm, and take care of our 4 month old baby from 8:30 pm until bedtime. He helps take her a bath pretty much every night.
I encouraged him to go on a weekend vacation with his friends and asked for a night out by myself, in return.
Tonight, he went out to a friends birthday party at a bar and I wanted a night out in exchange, as well.
My aim is to get some equality in the time we get to spend out.

My boyfriend replied, "One night." And was so confident that I was asking too much by wanting to make my social life equal to his, that he told me to confide in my mother about it. He thought even she would agree with him that, " that's not how things work." Well, my mom thinks this is a red flag, and so do I.


What do this mean to you all?

2007-10-23 18:16:56 · 21 answers · asked by O new moon 3

ok im 17yrs old n i live w/ my mom n yes she makes me pay rent. Her husband let me use his truck sometimes 2go2 work n school ~THATS IT~ I DONT GO NO WHERE N BETWEEN. but any ways last night he told me to bring him his car because he was gettin off real late. so when i got a block away from his job, the gas light came on. n of course i didnt feel like turning all the way around just 2put gas n it. I figure hey he could get gas when he get off. Well no he came home w/ his gas on E and got mad at me because i should had filled it up.But let me remind you iam a college student w/ a low paying job . So its not i just didnt do it but because i didnt have money to fill it up. and when i explain that to him he got upset n told me i cant use his car nemore. n i cant use my mom car because she leaves really early in the morning. Also i cant catch a cab because it cant afford it. Then they dont have any buses that run out when i live because everything is newly built n the streets arent finish.

2007-10-23 17:22:58 · 8 answers · asked by anymous 2

I'm 18 and my biological father left me before i was born, and he NEVER gave my mother financial support through out these 18 years. She never wanted to claim anything from him, but since I'm currently enrolled in college, I need a little financial push right now. Can I report him to the Child Support office without my mother being involved? Can I still claim anything now that I'm 18? Please help.

2007-10-23 16:46:18 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

both my parents smoke maybe 3-5 cigerettes a day ive been smoking for about a year, im 14 by the way i only got into it when i was deeply depressed..

i know i have to tell them but what is the right way to tell them or is there any other way that telling them and what did u say to ure parents when u told them(if u smoke)

2007-10-23 16:45:17 · 9 answers · asked by hayley t 1

Ok so my dad wants privacy with his girlfriend. Doesnt want to help me anymore with anything. we live in a trailor and lately i been bugging him all because i didnt have no money to get to the bus so he was helping me out. im not alowed to be here tonight but i went to human services and all they got is homeless shelters and i really dont want that. neither did my boyfirend for my security and stuff. He said he could live in one of those places but not me. So anyways are there any rooms for rent for 100 dollors everytwo week. in the momouth ocean area.

2007-10-23 16:28:48 · 4 answers · asked by jerseygirlprincess 3

My in-laws are Pentecostal and I am not. Nor do we go to any church, nonetheless we are good people. We do not drink, smoke or party by any means. I am a stay at home mother of 2. Anyways, I feel very uncomfortable around my in-laws. I wear full face make-up, wear shorts and tank tops in the summer, and have my hair cut off in a short (but cute) hairstyle. They have accepted me, but I know that they are thinking otherwise. They will talk of others right in front of me about women having mens haircuts and they look like hussies in make-up and revealing clothing/provocotive colors. It's hard not to be uncomfortable when they may as well just say it to my face. They invited us the church once (my hubby grew up there and is no longer attending anymore) and I felt so out of place. The preacher talked of women wearing pants and so forth. That is the last time I attended. I think they have made themselves clear. I think they are disappointed in my hubby for not marrying one of his own.

2007-10-23 16:27:43 · 5 answers · asked by Lovin' Life 1

What should I tell my husband?

2007-10-23 16:16:04 · 38 answers · asked by ☼ɣɐʃʃɜƾ ɰɐɽɨɲɜɽɨƾ♀ 5

Her father refuses to believe that she feels this way. Her father blames me for making her feel this way. She is starting to rebel against him by threatening to run away. She is starting to become quite anxious and teary when I try to discuss her problems. She finds it difficult to share her father with his new woman. She becomes quite upset when they are bad mouthing me. There is an order in place but I can't afford to take him to court for this. What should I do? Can I stand by my daughter and keep her at home whenever she feels she needs to (this is not all the time) usually after long stays with him after school holidays or when she has had a bad time there.

2007-10-23 16:06:03 · 8 answers · asked by Tara F 1

about grades, GPA, soccer,
I dont know if i'll get a soccer scholarship to my college of choice, my grades are going really low, my parents took up my car, im grounded, theres drama in school, home, I barely get enough sleep, theres just so much stuff going on.
How to I cope with stress and get back to normal?

2007-10-23 16:00:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been living with my girlfriend for 8 years now and we have 2 children together. last week, while laying in bed together, she told me that she loved me but she wasn't in love with me and wanted to split up. She then told me that she wants to be friends and nothing more. This has crushed me as she and the girls were my life. Earlier today, She told me that I didn't have to move out of our home. If I want, she will move out and leave the children with me. I don't know what to do. I love my children with all my heart and I know they will have a better life with me. I am looking for advice as to what I should do. She has also told me that there MIGHT be hope for us later but she doesn't know what she wants yet. Does any one think I should stay true to my heart and wait or should I open myself to others.

Please help me.

2007-10-23 15:28:26 · 15 answers · asked by tsmoreland324 2

my family is getting divorced my mom is getting full custody and does not make enough to support us so my oldest brother is also working to help but he also has to go to college so he's going to stress out some.my sister whose in the middle of my brother and me (im the youngest)is a ****** spoiled BRAT that is very selfish and wont want to work now that she is going to be 16 i hate her i want her to work so she can pich in with the bills i WANT TO DO SOMETHING TO HELP!im thinking of becoming a dog walker or something so i can help I feel so useless that i cant do anything.WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-10-23 15:22:12 · 3 answers · asked by jkhfkjsadhkj k 1

In the past, I've had a few experiences that filtered my feelings of trust and caused me to build up this wall.

Five or six years ago, when I stayed home from school one day because I had a cold. My mother had our neighbor over to fix something around the house. She said she had to see him out. My mother was married to my [ex] step father at the time, and my neighbor was married with children. When I didn't hear voices, I got up to go look for her, and I saw them kissing in the entrance of the front door. I remember how everything changed that day with how I viewed my mother. She had me promise to keep quiet. I felt betrayed for some reason. I felt that, if I could not even trust my mother, whom I had thought was an amazing role model until that day, who could I?

My father has disappeared from my life, and I can't even get upset with him for it. I've lost many friendships.

I feel selfish for complaining. I know I'm lucky in many aspects, and that many people have the same problem.

2007-10-23 14:49:38 · 6 answers · asked by Haine 2

My 25 y/o son moved in with me from another state to save him from probation-he met a girl on line-they agreed to pay me $50/week to live in my home...that was almost 8 weeks ago...she has paid me $50.00-my grandson lives with me but is going back to his mom's in 2 days, but apparently I am stuck with this internet woman (i googled her) and my son who DO NOTHING...can I legally kick them out once by grandson is back with his mother? Or, since I took their money is this a legal rent agreement and have to give them 30 days? If I see that woman one more time, or listen to my damn probation son one more time, I will go crazy. I will never, ever help him again, or this damn chick from the internet. Where the hell are her parents? She is 29 y/o...can't i kick them our?

2007-10-23 14:39:10 · 6 answers · asked by ellie 1

My daughter is very rude to my partner we ahve been together 2 yrs and her father hasn't been around since she was 2mths old. She wont talk to him pokes , her tounge out, sticks her finger up( not very often). It leaves me and my parnter arguing and yelling and he ends up hating me cos im not being a "good" mum. My daughter admits she doesn't care if i yell and send her to her room but when my partner does she cares and it does up set her. I hate yelling at her it hurts me. I need help.
What shoul i do? and answers to help woudl be GREAT.

2007-10-23 13:11:24 · 9 answers · asked by megan L 1

We have a small farm that we do not live at - the house is old and needs some repairs but we have a lot of personal things that we keep there. My MIL had a key in case of emergencies because #1 she can see our farm from her house & #2 we still have utilities turned on there & in case of a problem with the gas or electric she had a key to get inside to turn off anything inside. I didn't have a problem with this until recently her boyfriend mentioned personal things we had .I asked how he knew about them & he told me he goes into the house about once a week to look around & make sure nothing is missing. I told him that he didn't need to do that because I am at the farm every day & I check the house when I'm there. 2 days later I went to the house earlier than usual & he was walking out of the house with my MIL. I asked why & he wanted to look at the books to find something to read. I took back the key & now no one in the family will speak to me. Should I have left the key with them

2007-10-23 12:57:19 · 21 answers · asked by Love being a Mom 2