Why is it in this day and age, people still have to worry that their family will disown them for being who they are.
It is miserable to see that people are afraid of their own family's reaction to their sexuality.
2007-10-23 20:09:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How is it losing someone you love?
They are still the same person, its just the hopes and dreams YOU had for them are not the same hopes and dreams they have... well probably the same just with the same gender...
2007-10-23 20:17:58 · update #1
sadly it is. not just miserable but also they're dying inside, it's so hard to come out to their families because not everybody has an open mind about homosexuality. They think that they can change their sons back into a straight guy, but the more they try to supress it, the more the pain goes way too deep. if only people would learn to accept not impose what they think and believe is right. then perhaps it would have been liberating for those closeted gays to come out and be true to their selves and the people around them.
plus, in our country where it is patriarchal and they stuck it in their minds that gays go to hell that sort of thing, honestly, Only God alone can judge them, if they're sinners or not.
that they must realize they're people whom we need to respect and accept
2007-10-23 20:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by quia_nazarene 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps a parents perspective. When you become a parent you look at this wonderful child and you began to imagine all that life has to offer her. I do not think there is a father who has not imagined dancing with his daughter on her wedding day, or making that walk down the isle.
Now these dreams are not what the child is thinking about but the parent. Often when a child comes out it is a shock because (and most parents wont admit it) you are shocked and your first thought sometimes does not go to the child but to the negatives. I will not walk her down the isle, I will not dance at her wedding etc. Now this may or not be true but these are the things that you think of.....at first..
My daughter who dated boys, though not a lot through high school and college, came out to me about 2 years ago..It was a shock..But once I got over feeling bad for me (all the thoughts above take but a minute to race through your brain) I looked at her.... I realized and told her that her mom and I loverd her and were very proud of her. I also let her know that there was nothing she just told me that would change any of that....
So is it hard to come out. Yes. My wife (I think) is still a bit unomfortable though her GF has been to our house many times. BUt it gets better each time.
I guess my point is this. A child (or anyone) should "come out". Why would anyone want to pretend they are something they are not. IF AFTER YOU COME OUT, your parents are a bit shocked or unhappy, give them some time. It is not simply about you, it also shatters or at least changes the way they have thought about you for years. Most parents will come around. Give them a bit of time.....
2007-10-24 10:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is because we haven't got past the generation of people that are just completey against anything "unatural".
The media doesn't help either, I mean just look at poor Dumbledore and he's only a fictional character. I think above all family should be the biggest support of their children no matter what, but as usual peer preasure at any age is much stronger. If it makes the "family" look bad then it's not acceptable and it has been that way for centuries.
Once this "day and age" is accepted more easily things will be easier, but you have to remember that this fear of homosexuality has been around long before Christ. It just wasn't brought up.......go figure!
2007-10-24 03:19:48 · answer #3 · answered by just wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because family's regardless of the times, still have a hard time excepting that their son/daughter has chosen a lifestyle maybe they didn't expect them to have. A lot of parents don't agree with homosexuality, and not even limited to just parents a lot of people still don't like or agree with homosexuality, sort of like why racism still exists. Families react harder to their own when they find out something they don't want to hear. Denial is a big part of a lot of people's worlds. They would rather disown and forget then accept and work it out.
2007-10-24 16:45:27 · answer #4 · answered by MrsDiaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to popular belief, yes, it is 2007, but there are a surprisingly large number of people out there who are still against the gay and lesbian community.
And it seems like it will never be an easy thing to tell your parents...just like having to tell them your pregnant from a one night stand. It's a life changing thing and people are still going to look at you like you have 3 eyes. It's sad, but it's reality. Gay marriage is still not allowed in the church. Gay partners do not get tax benfits when filing taxes. It's a constant battle in this country for that way of life to be accepted.
People have a hard time accepting that their family will be different and the person to "come out" knows it, therefore it is still frightening and will always be for that person.
2007-10-24 12:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by Katie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is a matter of family upbringing, culture and traditions.
In the Philippines we have strong family ties unlike USA.
People don't have to worry that their family will disown them.
Maybe this is a consequence of a non-prayerful family with less GOD's guidance.
I believe that a prayerful families will have over-exceeding graces from GOD.
2007-10-24 03:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by rene c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok. You don't know how people react until you come out in the open. People have different values and grew up with different morals. Whatever they think or believe in has nothing to do on how you feel and how you want to live your life. Either they accept it or not. It is as much their choice if they like it or not, as it is yours to decide which path you want to go. Goes both ways.
2007-10-24 03:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because in this day and age some family members will disown them and that is not a route that is easily taken.
Not everyone is as blasie as you seem to expect them to be when it comes to losing the ones they love.
I'm not even gay and I know that.
2007-10-24 03:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by Evol 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What does this day and age have to do with it? Is it no longer disgusting just because we are 2007?
2007-10-24 03:15:31 · answer #9 · answered by Solovely 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah it's pretty gay that people can't come out to their family.
2007-10-24 03:25:36 · answer #10 · answered by americababy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋