help im 16 and so stressed out?

Question

about grades, GPA, soccer,
I dont know if i'll get a soccer scholarship to my college of choice, my grades are going really low, my parents took up my car, im grounded, theres drama in school, home, I barely get enough sleep, theres just so much stuff going on.
How to I cope with stress and get back to normal?

Answer 1

It's okay. Don't worry! There are people around for you, friends and family. A journal might help, just any small size notebook that you can write in everyday. Journals help to kind of review what went on that day and how it made you feel. Too often people get upset over things and won't even remember why or what it was. A journal is pretty private and personal so hiding it's ok. This notebook could also be used as an organizer. With me, personally, at one point it did feel like things were getting too hectic so, when I was upset I'd write in my diary. I finally concluded that if I could just get my life more organized I might actually be able to breathe and once I was finally just able to breathe more I breathed easier and things became more peaceful. If you're organized you always know what's going on. So create a schedule, whether you finished your homework or not get to bed by a certain time so you can get enough sleep. Even if you have trouble falling asleep just keep your eyes closed and allow your body to rest. When doing homework do your assignments according to level of importance. If something is due tomorrow morning that's the most important. As for soccer, just remember that the whole reason you started playing soccer in the first place was to have fun, so have fun and try your best at everything. Also, you probably need a way to take take out all your aggression, well then take it out on soccer. If you're angry think of the other team as the enemy, then take them down, just remember to play by the rules of course so you won't get fouled. Get your GPA up by asking teachers what you can do for extra credit but only ask for extra credit when you have time to actually do it. Lastly, leave all the school drama at school. As soon as you leave school don't worry about it, it's over for now. It's really good that you have soccer, if there's crap going on at home and school just think of soccer as your time away from all that. Oh, and most important of all! Be happy! Eat your favorite foods, go to your favorite places and once again; don't worry, it's okay. There are a lot of other people going through the same thing, I was one of them. It just really sucked for me because I had to go through all that already just last year and I'm only a freshman. So, good luck. Best wishes, Taylor.

Answer 2

Let go of some things and get more sleep. Look at all the things you're coping with right now and prioritize them. What are the goals you want to reach? Which of those goals are most important? What activities do you do now that will get you where you want to go? Which of those activities really don't add much to helping you achieve your goals. Once you have that list completed, start eliminating things that are not contributing to the achievement of your goals.

Simplify your life a little. Do you have to get involved in the drama that's going on at school? Can you leave that to other people to worry about? Get some more sleep and don't worry about what hasn't happened yet. Focus on what you're doing today. You can't change the past and the future isn't here yet. Focus on today, do that every day and make it the best day of your life. Eventually you'll end up where you want to be without all the stress that you're dealing with now.

Answer 3

Hi Josh,
There are so many things in our life that are beyond our control. And sad to say to worry over them is one sure way of getting stressed out. I always believe that as long as you did everything you could, you just have to accept the eventual outcome. Hey, it's not the end of the world. Sometimes not getting the soccer scholarship opened another door of opportunity for something else. Also when you're stressed out, you lose your focus on your goals. My advise is just "do your best", If you got the scholarship, then congratulations. But if you didn't get it, don't be depressed because a window of opportunity might be opened & you'll missed it. You know, Im already 41 and there is this regret of mine that I didn't get to enjoy my high school days because like you I was too concerned about my grades, exams & other activities. But you have the advantage of having someone like me telling you. Then nobody tells me to enjoy my school days. Strive for your goals, but don't forget to have fun along the way. Believe me, by changing your attitude you have a better chance of reaching your goals.

Answer 4

Take a deep breath first. It doesn't seem like much but it helps. I'm 16 too and also stressed out. Just try to relax and plan everything to get your schedule organized. Try to do things one at a time. A great way to get ahead of schoolwork is to look over the next lesson over the weekend. Don't let the "drama" at school get to you. There are more important matters out there. You'll be fine... just take a whole day off for yourself. Good luck.

Answer 5

Wow, welcome to my life.

I can honestly tell you, dealing with this kind of stuff takes a lot of organization and planning. You should have a planner and write out when things get over and when things start. Set specific times, dates and everything to know where you need to be and what you need to be doing. Don't get undetermined, if you believe in yourself you can do anything. Literally. Set your mind to it. Repeat that this is what you want, and WORK for it. This is part of growing up, is learning how to multi-task.

I would suggest after practice, do homework and study if you need to. Talk to your parents about how you've been very stressed... but you've still been trying and you're trying to improve. Ask them what you need to do besides maybe getting better grades, to get your car back. Maybe remind them of the benefits on having a car and why it's important that you have it.

Learn from your grounding. If you're getting grounded because of your grade, they try to do better. I know that means.. MORE PRESSURE. But it doesn't have to be like that at all. Maybe you could ask your coach if you could stay after school to go into math to get some extra help, ask more questions during class and if you don't get a concept stay after class so you can... even if you are a little bit late to your next period... which i'm sure your teacher won't want to happen, so he'll do his best to explain in his limited time. If you still don't understand, maybe call up a friend or even ask one of your parents for help. I have the same problem with my grades, i'm not one to be known as "brilliant" and my grades are always up and down... i try not to worry to often because when i do i spend more time worrying then actually doing what is going to help me pass. Calm down! You CAN do it.

As to drama, when is there not? People need to understand that you're busy and under a lot of stress... whatever the situation is, ignore it. Drama is over-rated and too stupid and uneccessary to care about. It will just put more weight on your shoulders. If it's a really serious issue, then confront your friends and try to resolve it during lunch or passing periods. If they don't want to help solve, or WHATEVER the problem is... if the people you're having issues with want to keep to the way their acting, then psh. You tried, now move on.

Sometimes, if you REALLY are behind it's neccessary to miss on a few hours of sleep. I know i do all the time, i got like 4 hours last night. You might want to juggle your agenda, add in a time to take a nap or go to a movie.. something that won't take up so much time but will help you remove extra pressure and let you BREATH for once.

I know exactly how you feel, really. I'm still struggling with keeping grades up and maintaining healthy relationships with everyone. It's not easy i'm at a constant debate whether or not i'll be able to make it, and sometimes i just feel like giving up. Don't do it... giving up will not get you in the college of your choice, it won't increase your grades, it won't make you relationships better or earn back your freedom or car... you'll just be stuck being put under more and more pressure until you'll feel like there's no point in living at all. In the end, it'll all be worth the work.

Answer 6

Are you up to reading a manual? Below is the link for the Emotional Freedom Technique... free download of the manual... actual instruction starts about page 20.
You can use this to get over any kind of anxiety, stress or drama. Really works.
Once you have the hang of it, you can teach it to others.

Answer 7

take a break once in a while.. it works for me. You just need to set off some time each day and just relax and clear you thoughts. High school is stressful, I'm in it right now too, but I try to brace myself before i stress out too

Answer 8

Try to be what you were,and for a while study and try to be best ,it takes time ,but you can have whatever you had.