Family - October 2007

My parents have been seperated since I was about four and I'm 19 now. I'd like to know how to go about getting some answers about things like why they seperated and what brought them together. There's alot of other questions I'd like to ask too. I asked them when I was young but they found them too hard to answer and always avoided it. Now I'm older and a pretty detached person. I get on well with my parents, but find it hard to open up to them, especially my father. How do you think I should get some answers from him? Is it too late? We never go drinking together, so getting a bit drunk first is out of the question. He has a new family now, and I have an eight year old half sister, who I love very much.

2007-10-23 12:39:09 · 7 answers · asked by garion b 4

ok,
my parents and i fight ALL the time! they don't like the way i dress, the music i listen to, my friends, or anything i like to do. my parents want me to be just like them, get stright A's be really pouplar and have a date every friday. they want me to be some one i'm not. i tried to get them to lay off (of course i was nicer then i am now) but they just don't listen, my mom wants me to be a totally prep so she buys my really preppy clothes (like sweatervests... uck!) and like when we go back to school shopping and i find something i like my mom won't let me get it b/c it's not her style.

WHAT DO I DO?

2007-10-23 11:55:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im 15 almost 16 and my dad STILL won't let me wear make-up or wear the things I want to. Don't get me wrong, i don't want 2 wear skimpy things but i need some independence. Hes not really sum1 i can talk 2 easily...

2007-10-23 11:53:49 · 8 answers · asked by susan 1

We were sitting watching TV 1day when he said "mom what is it?" pointing up towards the hallway leading to his room.I asked him what he was talking about..he replied "that" pointing again towards the hallway..seeing that I wasnt understanding he jumped off the sofa,grabbed me by the hand & said "come on" ..he took me down the dark hallway asking me to turn on the lights 1 by 1. we reached his bedroom & he said "shhhhh" holding one finger towards his lips...then he stood in front of the closet & said "mom u ready? ready?" i reached out to open the closet when he said "no LIGHT!!!".. I turned the light on & he procedeed to tell me "u ready?" I opened the door & nothing was there!He walked in,turned around,sat in the middle of the closet ,looked up & started laughing then, he looked at me & said "what is it?" I told him I didnt see anything. He got back up turned looked back up and waived bye.&@1 of our friends house he points @ the RR saying there is some1 there this 1 scares him though

2007-10-23 11:45:32 · 51 answers · asked by **DoGetLoud** 2

He's 25, a brilliant young engineer, doing great in his life, still single. A great young adult. Unfortunately, our relationship was destroyed when he was 14. He made bad mistakes, joined bad crowds. One day he drank, joined them in something stupid and illegal. I said he wasn't worth my respect and trust, besides other hard words. He got a harsh punishment that lasted for 6 months, until I though I could trust him again. He turned into a great boy that made us proud but neve got over that. He got into a deep depression and had to go to therapy. He gt out of it but since them has avoided me. Though he agrees he messed up and nede dcorrection, it's his firm opinion that no parent should ever say to a kid what I said. I tried to make up but never apologized, think he needed that words and punishment to wake up. Today I'm in a difficult situation, need his help, he can, but I don't know if he will. How do I ask for his help? What do I say? Should I apologize? We haven't talked for a year

2007-10-23 11:35:59 · 34 answers · asked by Liza 1

2007-10-23 11:32:25 · 56 answers · asked by sue S 2

I donated a kidney 4 years ago to a distant cousin. My one kidney is failing and I will need a transplant and his is the best match. He's such a loser now anyway.

2007-10-23 11:32:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 14 y/o atm, and i'm only 5'5. almost every man in my family tree is 5'5, with the exception of my cousin (6'0),one of my uncles (5'8),and maternal grandpa (5'6). yeah thats right, we're all little people.

so would i be 5'5 too when i grow up?...even though genes are against me, i still have a chance, right..? =(
(i want to be at least 5'7)

2007-10-23 11:25:20 · 5 answers · asked by attiTUDE 3

Ok I told my dad he was irrisponsible because i wanted to go to the library and he finally asked me if i'm ready 3 hours later, should i feel guilty or should i just forget about???

2007-10-23 11:19:23 · 10 answers · asked by MiSSkASiA♥ 2

Okay, I have been with this boy for about a year and I LOVE HIM TO DEATH, but he is really stuck on his mom. His mother constantly disrepsects me because she views me as a threat. She feels as if I am taking her son away from her, and she is having trouble with letting him go. I am always uncomfortable around her because I know there is this invisible wall of hate or something between us. And the worst part about it is I don't know how to tell him he is a little too close to her. I am afraid that he would turn on me and take the side of his mom. I also feel as if he would consider me in the wrong because I shouldn't have a problem with him being close to his mom. I just can't take it anymore, I am sick of competing with her and always being second. I know eventually boys are suppose to grow away from their parents and become one with their mate, but I don't ever see him doing that. I see us constantly getting into arguements and my feelings always beeing last. What should I do?

2007-10-23 10:52:55 · 5 answers · asked by CHEERLEADER CHICK 1

It is so sad and bad think like that..I know it is evil
as stepmother.
Yesterday my wallet was in my bag.This morning It was gone.I thought my be in my car? May be the place last night I visited? I was looking for it all over my house,car, and even I drove to my friend house and checked her drive way.I checked credit card last time purchased it was Sunday and no more.It is good news.I did all these thins and then...I went garage it was there under the mortar cycle.
I was happy when I find it.OH I don't go there but may by I kicked it.. But all cash was gone.
But any way I was happy.I don't have to make new drivers licence and credit cards...
Then ,Wait a minuets..It was at least $17 and coins.
I remember what I did yesterday.
I drop only all cash and coins in some where?

I don't want mention about it ,But my step daughter 15years old ,She had chance to do it last night or this morning.

I know even if I told this story to my husband ,he will not trust me may be get mad to me.

How should I do?

2007-10-23 10:41:12 · 7 answers · asked by august2007 1

I ended my relationship with my sister over a year ago due to her alcoholic and drug addiction behavior. I made it clear that she was not welcome in my family's life until she cleaned herself up. It was a hard decision, but one I felt was best. Now I get word she is in critical condition in a hospital down the street from me. Her heart is failing and I'm not sure she's going to make it. It's clear she doesn't want me there because she made sure to tell the family not to let me know what happened. Fortunately, I have someone who didn't follow her request and alerted me immediately. Part of me wants to go see her, but I don't want to upset her with my presence. What should I do to let her know that I still and always will love her? Would flowers be too impersonal?

2007-10-23 10:39:34 · 34 answers · asked by Chow B 1

My daughter is 22, still lives at home, and works a fulltime job making barely above min. wage. She is a very loving daughter and usually a great joy. However, last fall after we paid her college tuition, bought her expensive books and had shelled out several thousand dollars in all for her to go to school, we found out that she had not gone to classes and received 's F in all 4 classes (12 hrs) and lied about it the whole time. Her Dad and I went ballastic. We were heart broken by her actions ie. lieing to us, etc. We set our foots down, but alllowed her to re-enroll thinking she had learned her lesson and we all make mistakes. She has to make payments to repay us the money she blew. She assured us she was serious about school and would never repeat those mistakes. Guess what, she did it. I found out today she had withdrawn from all her classes. And been lieing again about her grades! Her health ins. cov. under us is in jeporady, her future, etc.. We love her but r sick what to do?

2007-10-23 10:31:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Maybe I'm just being over-protective or maybe not. Over a year ago my daughter and the neighbor boy fell for each other and I found out that everyone was hiding it from me including my wife. Thank God my 8 y/o son told me. When I asked why nobody told me about it they replied that I would have freaked out about it. Well I did'nt freak out about it but I was so upset that all of them kept it from me. Now at the time my wife and I were having problems in our marraige and I was staying back and forth at from my mom's and our house while we worked things out between us. So I gathered everyone together ( his parents, my wife and daughter, and this boy) and i expressed to them that I wanted it to end and I explained to them why I, as her father, feel this way. I knew that one day this boy would be 18 and my daughter just turning 15. Now, this boy is not a bad kid and he does'nt get into trouble. He works and is active in ROTC and school activities as well....BUT.........there... more!!

2007-10-23 10:04:12 · 13 answers · asked by Eric Lee 1

Hi. I am married, 3 kids, and lost a son a few months ago. I have a psychotic sister-in-law who follows me around online i made the mistake a few months ago and told her where i used to post and she read my posts and rang up and shouted at me. they were about how upset i was when i lost the baby and how sad i feel when i see other pregnant relatives, she said i had no right to feel this way and needed anti-depressants. i told her to go jump and my hubby (her brother) was with me. She had a go at my kids (unprovoked) swore at me and said she's hated me for 5 years. Now I want nothing to do with her but hubby wants me to befriend her (i tried once already and got sworn at) so i decided no, i don't want to know her as she is a psycho. hubby's upset and I got blamed. she used my dead baby to get at me, hates me & the kids i want nothing to do with her. she is nasty, i hate being in the same room as her she is opinionated, rude and won't listen to anyone how else should deal with her

2007-10-23 09:59:29 · 25 answers · asked by ? 2

say you have a 20 year old daughter that moves out will you still be controlling and pushy like you were to her when she lived with you...in your house? or would you just let her go on with her own life?

2007-10-23 09:58:02 · 9 answers · asked by Talk Talk 5

I have a wonderful fiance and our wedding is this summer. There is this problem tho, his family is from Russia, and his twice divorced mother just started dating again, and will probably end up marrying this guy. The issue is Sergi and I are in our early 20's and we have a house together etc...His mother maria wants her boyfriend Jim to play "daddy" at our wedding...She is probably going to want our future children to call him "grandpa"...JIm is a nice guy, but he has not been of our lives till last week, Maria wants jim to play all the normal parts that a "normal father" would at a wedding,..I think she's pushing it too far. Also with our wedding so close, she is breaking plans with Sergi and I to hang our with Jim, she is so engrossed with Jim that I think she forgets she even has a son. When is enough...Enough

2007-10-23 09:53:53 · 7 answers · asked by Bride2Be 4

just wondering, i'm open to any suggestions really!
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2007-10-23 09:07:57 · 21 answers · asked by lexie 5

and at the time of the custody battle my mother didnt have a house of her own and so there for she was made to give him primary custody of me and my 2 younger brother who also would like to live with my mom. My mom does give me and my 2 younger brother a little moere freedom but we are still kids and with my dad he doesnt let us go anywhere anr do anything with our friends. we cant even have anyone stay because of his g/f. when he hits me it is mostly because og his g/f and we dont like each other so she does aanything in her power to get me and my dad fighting and usually he belives her over me and my brothers. my mom has even asked them both what there problem with me is and they both say nothing. i have went to the cops in the town that i live in and i have went to the cops in the town that my mom lives in also i have contacted the DCFS and they sayed that without proof of him hitting me thee is nothing that they can do about it, and all of the ppl that has seen him they cant do muc

2007-10-23 08:41:56 · 3 answers · asked by motogirl22003 1

My Husband passed away and I wanted to know if I am intitled to get paid time off?

2007-10-23 08:37:49 · 2 answers · asked by Roseanna L 1

My mother is horrible at managing money and nearly every aspect of her life. Her bad habits have affected all of us kids and mainly me more times than I would like to count. I've given her large amounts money never be repaid (and I'm only 19). She's now gotten herself into trouble again and it's wrecking all of us. Is it any of my business? Do I just let her continue to screw up? Do I try to fix it at the risk of being rude and out of place? I'm now to the point of giving up, but she needs help although she won't admit it. And I don't know what to do that won't bury me in debt and emotional trauma as well. Please, I need serious answers and don't try BSing with it.

2007-10-23 08:29:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

He came to live with us 2 & a half years ago after living with his mum. (She moved around so we could not find him or her so when he moved in with us at 11 he was a complete stranger to us) From what we can gather & from what we know about his home life, it appears domestic violence was common place as was swearing & shouting at each other, he basically ran riot with no proper supervision or care. She has 3 other children with the man she lives with & it seems that it was always made clear to Josh that he was different & not really wanted there. Since he has moved in with us we have bent over backwards to help him adjust to living with us, constantly reasuring him how much he is loved & wanted in our family, but dispite this he bullies our children with really spiteful hurtful words that reduce my son to tears. Our son has gone from a happy go lucky confident child to a nervous wreck. We have spoken to him about his bullying and told him it won't be tolerated but still he does it Help

2007-10-23 07:14:34 · 18 answers · asked by Muddyblackcat 1

My stepsons mother is so verbally abusive he is having nightmares and cant stand to be around her. I want to do something to help but how without causing problems???

2007-10-23 07:13:32 · 27 answers · asked by Beverly C 3

I'm 23, single, have a good job. I'm a friend of a very nice 40 yo doctor. His wife passed away 5 years ago and he lives with his 12 yo daughter. She's kinda sweet, likes me, om my bday she gave me a wonderful card. We've gone out a fews times. About 2 weeks ago she started asking me those questions she'd ask her mom: periods, breasts, sex, etc. She tells me about her life, her feelings, dreams, good and bad moments. She told me how she misses her mom and how she needs some mother figure, though she gets along with her dad, who loves her dearly.

Well, she needs as bra and asked me to help her get her firts one. This is a very important moment in a girl's life, I don't know if I should. But she'll get hurt if I say no.

I'm afraid I get involved w/ the girl, I'm not sure about my relationship with her dad.

2007-10-23 07:08:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

between seperate households/parents? What do you do if the parent keeps doing it?

2007-10-23 07:00:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is a long story. I have two daughters. The youngest was playing in a soccer game. The oldest was asked by an officer of the league to ref the game. When we got to the game, I sat down and heard other parents from the opposing team complain because my two girls. Saying things like, "Isnt that so and so's sister refing??? Well I guess that's how they win their games." Incinuating that my oldest would be biased in the game. I walked away at the time . I have come to find out that parents went to the other coach and compained after the game. I am really upset, my daughter is 10 years old. She just wants to ref soccer, not cheat for her sister. (If anything she may be harder on her sister!!!) The same parents went to the president of the league as well. What shoud I do now??? Do I address the situation, just let it blow over? Or should I take it up with an officer of the league.

2007-10-23 06:50:07 · 8 answers · asked by julie A 3

Has anyone else experienced this?
Most parents I come across show an immense interest in the lives of their kids, from what they're studying in school, to where they're working, who they're dating, etc.
My parents seem to show absolutely no interest in our lives. It was as though they were completely oblivious to the fact that, surprise surprise, kids grow up, and we won't always just want to play catch in the backyard.
It goes further than that though. They're downright dead-weights. My brother is marrying into an Italian family next year, and the first thing out of my mother's mouth was a complaint about the location -- barely any congratulations!
Anyone else struggle with parents who seem inconvenienced to have children? Both of them make great money. Additionally, they haven't put any money aside for our weddings, educations, etc.
I'm independent and can manage on my own two feet, but it's simply about the fact that they don't seem to really care. It's a HASSLE for them.

2007-10-23 06:49:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

i can i let them nowthat it was someone in my family without feeling so guilty he has two kids and i dont want to mess up the life. it was like i didnt think he would ever do some thing like that his wife just passed away and i thought he was better then that and now i dont know what to do

2007-10-23 06:45:08 · 14 answers · asked by angelbicth234 2

to invite us to a football game on my scheduled visit. This game consist of the non custodial friends who had made our son the water boy ~ This was a last minute call to us. We were not home for most of the day as we already had plans and missed the call. I got a nasty letter from that parent saying I was not allowing the children to participate in social activities with them. Shouldn't he have made arrangements with me prior to this call?

2007-10-23 06:38:58 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter is a very good swimmer. She swims because she loves to swim, and not because we as parents force her to do so. She is ranked as one of the top swimmers in our state, and as one of the top swimmers in the country. In fact in our state there is only one other girl that can beat her half the time.
The problem we have is that she honestly doesn't see herself as being any good. When she does race someone who has a better time, she allows them to beat her, because she doesn't put forth the effort to win the race. Her coach has talked to her in an effort to light that spark, but she tells him she doesn't care if she looses. The only time she'll put forth a good race effort is when a competitor says she's short, and will be easy to beat when in an open age event. She is 13, and has beat many of our high school record, and her times are already good enough for a division III university, and about 1/2 second from some Division II qualifying times.

Any Ideas??????

2007-10-23 06:30:39 · 6 answers · asked by Sara 1