I'm 23, single, have a good job. I'm a friend of a very nice 40 yo doctor. His wife passed away 5 years ago and he lives with his 12 yo daughter. She's kinda sweet, likes me, om my bday she gave me a wonderful card. We've gone out a fews times. About 2 weeks ago she started asking me those questions she'd ask her mom: periods, breasts, sex, etc. She tells me about her life, her feelings, dreams, good and bad moments. She told me how she misses her mom and how she needs some mother figure, though she gets along with her dad, who loves her dearly.
Well, she needs as bra and asked me to help her get her firts one. This is a very important moment in a girl's life, I don't know if I should. But she'll get hurt if I say no.
I'm afraid I get involved w/ the girl, I'm not sure about my relationship with her dad.
2007-10-23 07:08:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This girl needs your help, regardless of your relationship with her father, you are her friend. Help her, no girl wants to go bra shopping with her Dad.
2007-10-23 07:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your all ready involved...... she has told you her dreams, you've talked about periods......... your in so deep it's not funny, however, you can still remain friends even though the relationship might not work out with the dad...... you can still have this friendship with the girl........... and taking her for her first bra well........ she obviously wants to share this moment with you, and a man, her dad wouldn't make it as special, and besides he wouldn't know what to do.........
Good luck and have a good time
2007-10-23 14:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by bizzymom38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her... she needs someone like you... she's 12 she needs a female figure in her life... and talking with her dad about some stuff would probably be disturbing for her... My parents are divorced, which I know is not the same thing as one of them being dead, but I never talked to anyone about guy things... so a lot of stuff I had to figure out myself... just be there for her... you're doing a wonderful thing for her... just show her dad that your interest is in helping his daughter not taking your relationship with him any farther...
2007-10-23 14:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should maintain your relationship with this girl as the "big sister." I would speak to her father so he is aware you have taken an interest. She has gone through a lot in her life and can use a mature person for support right now.
Good luck.
2007-10-23 14:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get involved. She needs you and you can help her. If you break up with her dad, she still will have had the benefit of your help. Where else is she going to get that sort of help right now?
2007-10-23 14:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered this once, and had to reword the entire thing, because i thought you were a guy.
I don't think there is anything wrong with befriending this girl, with her father's permission.
2007-10-23 14:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the dad. Ask if this is something he is comfortable with.
2007-10-23 14:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by tysdad62271 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally get involved she needs you, there is nothing wrong with that
2007-10-23 14:17:42 · answer #8 · answered by brina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
boy did you pick a hot one sorry my friend the ball in your cort
but think it out and do whats best
2007-10-23 14:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by finnlecarb 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋