This is a long story. I have two daughters. The youngest was playing in a soccer game. The oldest was asked by an officer of the league to ref the game. When we got to the game, I sat down and heard other parents from the opposing team complain because my two girls. Saying things like, "Isnt that so and so's sister refing??? Well I guess that's how they win their games." Incinuating that my oldest would be biased in the game. I walked away at the time . I have come to find out that parents went to the other coach and compained after the game. I am really upset, my daughter is 10 years old. She just wants to ref soccer, not cheat for her sister. (If anything she may be harder on her sister!!!) The same parents went to the president of the league as well. What shoud I do now??? Do I address the situation, just let it blow over? Or should I take it up with an officer of the league.
2007-10-23 06:50:07 · 8 answers · asked by julie A 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My 14 year old has been a certified referee for about 3 years now. If anyone has problems they take it up with the referee assigner. Also if your daughter hears it she may have the power to have the parents removed assuming she is certified as a ref. Refs do not have to take it and while the parents won't take her seriously the head of the refs should be notified and he or she can step in and remove the parents from the game. I would talk to the league official who asked your daughter to ref and see what they say.
2007-10-23 06:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by ziggy_brat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, the officer of the league should have known better than to allow a referee who was related to a member of either team. He was the one at fault, not you or your daughter.
It is a moot point if your daughter would or would not cheat - she should not have been placed in a such a compromised position.
The other parent's comments were unnecessarily bitter - it is just a children's game, after all, not the Olympics. Talk the president of the league and let them know that it was the officer's decision to enlist her - neither you nor your daughter suggested it. Tell the president that the officer should be reminded about the league's rules relating to referees, and the you feel no player or team should be punished for the officer's poor decision.
2007-10-23 13:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is bullshit. I wouldnt worry, the other parents are obviously just complaining because their children havent got any talent. I once reffed a game with my sister was playing in and my dad got pissed after cause i called a penalty on my sis. I was like "yeah well she tripped the girl with the ball." And my dad was "but shes your sister" and i replied with "but i was the ref"
I suggest playing along. "yeah i told her to call penalties on your daughters even when they dont do anything, you guys are sooo screwed" let them run off and get all in a tizzy or whatever and complain. Then whoever can watch and make sure nothing is up. That will shut the parents up.
2007-10-23 13:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by billgoats79 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to ,I would discuss in private with the officer of the league. Ask why he would select a sibling to referee? That should make him more careful next time. Is the president of the league also a parent of a player??????If you want to lower yourself to the level of the other parents who complained by addressing it and defending yourself, you may but it wont change their pettiness and behavior. I think soccer has become a tremendous waste of time for our children and they would benefit much more by simply having a nice family meal, well prepared since the mom would have time not driving to practice, and discussing events of their school day with parents. Years from now you may regret their spending so much time on this popular trend
2007-10-23 14:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, theres not much you can do. i would ask that your daughter be assigned other games instead of her sister's. and make sure she gets the same amoung of games, they dont just take away the ones she was scheduled to ref. and also reassure your daughter that you know she wouldnt cheat. shes only 10. as long as you let her know that you think shes doing a great job, she will be fine. and as much as i would like to say go after the parents. probably best to have some class and let it go.
2007-10-23 13:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holly Smokes! Dont let this tear you up... Next time respectfully decline the invitation for your daughter to ref a game her sister plays in.
They are children, use it as a lesson of life for them and explain why she needs to decline. Remember, while explaining not to lower yourself to the other team partents spoiled sport mentality.
2007-10-23 13:55:25 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have no evidence to prove that your reffing daughter is biased. If she hasnt shown any bias yet, then they are just jumping to conclusions and no one will listen to them.
2007-10-23 14:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will always be petty and say dumb things...
Why bother with those who have the mentality of a 4 year old.
2007-10-23 13:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋