to invite us to a football game on my scheduled visit. This game consist of the non custodial friends who had made our son the water boy ~ This was a last minute call to us. We were not home for most of the day as we already had plans and missed the call. I got a nasty letter from that parent saying I was not allowing the children to participate in social activities with them. Shouldn't he have made arrangements with me prior to this call?
2007-10-23 06:38:58 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the non custodial friends had nothing to do with this ~ just the Dad expecting to be able to take the kids ~ he expects me to be FLEXIBLE ~ he is trying to get 50/50 and using this as an example for court.
2007-10-23 06:48:51 · update #1
Ignore the bitterness, and dont' get involved.
Next time you talk you could let him know you already had plans, like you said here. You could also ask him to please make plans ahead in the future, so you can put these type of events in your schedule.
There isn't much more you can do... but like i said, ignore the bitterness... it's not healthy
2007-10-23 06:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 07:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was all his bad. He should of asked you prior to making any arrangements or any agreements about time that was not his. Then he should have made arrangements for specifics as who is taking your son, picking him up etc.., and gotten with you shortly before.
Don't let him lay this on you. Also I would tell the parent of the other child the same thing and then let them know that no matter what you do with your child, their opinion wasn't asked for nor required.
2007-10-23 06:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's usually customary for the dad to call prior to an visit, especially when it's not his visitation time......... he needs to get over it, he is the one that is messed up......
and if I'm reading your question right, it's not even the dad who had the problem but friends of yours.......... they need to realize that your plans and theirs aren't always going to mesh and to suck it up and deal........ but by sending abusive letters and making abusive phone calls won't help,......... I'd save the letter and show it to an attorney...... see what happens.....
Good luck
2007-10-23 06:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by bizzymom38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he should have. He must have known about the game at least a week in advance and should have told you then.
2007-10-23 06:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2007-10-23 06:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋