Has anyone else experienced this?
Most parents I come across show an immense interest in the lives of their kids, from what they're studying in school, to where they're working, who they're dating, etc.
My parents seem to show absolutely no interest in our lives. It was as though they were completely oblivious to the fact that, surprise surprise, kids grow up, and we won't always just want to play catch in the backyard.
It goes further than that though. They're downright dead-weights. My brother is marrying into an Italian family next year, and the first thing out of my mother's mouth was a complaint about the location -- barely any congratulations!
Anyone else struggle with parents who seem inconvenienced to have children? Both of them make great money. Additionally, they haven't put any money aside for our weddings, educations, etc.
I'm independent and can manage on my own two feet, but it's simply about the fact that they don't seem to really care. It's a HASSLE for them.
2007-10-23 06:49:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have heard of parents like this and I think it is just that they're not sure how to react. They want to be happy for you but they don't want to believe that their kids have grown up already and they also don't want to face that they themselves are getting older. So they react how they know how - by avoiding parts that they're not sure how to react to....and unfortunately sometimes that means that they don't go out of their way to be happy when they should, instead they seem to criticize and forget the happiness that they should feel and show....
2007-10-23 06:56:26 · answer #1 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people don't get all excited and jump up and down over things -- they are rather non-chalant and blase' about everything... sounds like your parents are this type.
we can't force them to become overjoyed and excited about your brother's wedding, or your independence, etc.
there comes a time in everyone's life when they must learn to accept others at face value, if they are going to have a relationship with others.
i'm sure your parents care, they just don't know how to show it...
please, worry about the way YOU present yourself to others.... emulating your parents would be a bad choice, eh?
take care.
2007-10-23 06:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Raising children was a "job" to them and not a labor of love.
Unfortuneately you are not the only young adult that has parents with this metality.
2007-10-23 06:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may not have had parents that taught them how to show love. Remember this when you have kids and it will make it worth their short comings. good luck
2007-10-23 06:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋