Family - October 2007

My boyfriend and I have a 4 month old baby together . We are 20 and 21. About a year ago we moved into a place together, but about a month ago he moved out because he didn't have a job and he was going out too much at night, and because he wasn't being responsible enough.
Since then he has gotten a 9-5 job, tucks the baby in at night and helps give her a bath.

I propose that if my boyfriend gets to go out twice a week that I should get two free nights as well. What are other ways we can make sure responsibility over the baby is shared equally? What have you done with your partner to make things equal?

2007-10-24 18:04:34 · 4 answers · asked by O new moon 3

I'm a 17 year old guy with two twin 5 year old sisters. They have too much energy. Anna wakes me up by tickling my feet; when I'm trying to do my homework, Emma will cry if I don't give her "pretend homework" to do next to me. They both smack my butt when I'm brushing my teeth, and they follow me around until I sit down and then they jump in my lap.

I have a girlfriend, and when she rings the bell, if they get their first, they tell her I don't want to go out with her anymore (not true), and when I am talking with my girlfriend, they ask her if she has fake boobs. They take my cellphone and call people with their idea of a prank phone call (shouting the alphabet or saying "we want dinner" [??]) and want me to, and I quote "teach us how to swim in the bathtub"!

ERGH!

2007-10-24 18:01:38 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I moved into my own apartment in August of 2006. Two weeks after I moved in, my older brother told me that he and his wife were seperating. He ask if he could stay with me for a couple of weeks and of course I said yes. Well those couple of weeks have turned into a year. I am due to have a baby boy in February 2008 and would like to be in my apartment alone, with my child and his father. Except I have no idea how to tell my brother. Does anyone know how I can tell him without hurting his feelings?

2007-10-24 17:54:18 · 5 answers · asked by DAG314 2

My husband's grandmother passed away yesterday, and my mother in law called me to ask me to tell my husband that she died & to have him call her when he gets in from school. We've been married for almost 3 years, and the only time she ever calls me is if she wants me to do something for her, and then plays the "you're a wonderful DIL" card to guilt me into doing whatever it is. My husband calls her back, and she says she'll pay to fly him out to Pennsylvania from Dallas for the funeral, but not me because she doesn't want to spend the money on it. He points out to her that with the price she is paying for his plane ticket, she could easily buy two and even save money using priceline. She calls again today and says she just can't see how she can afford to buy my ticket. It is very obvious that she doesn't want me to go, and I am fine with that. I've tried talking to him, but he just won't believe it and keeps trying to find excuses for her. How do I deal with my husband & mother in law?

2007-10-24 17:43:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

my famliy is so screwed-up. My parents got divored when I was 6 and only now did I start living with my mom. Her and my dad are in court for custidy for me and my brother. I have 2 half brothers that i don't even really know. I don't want to live my dad but he has more money and can take me and my brother away from my mom. The air is thick and everyone will exploded for no reason. what are some things I can do to isolate myself for awile.

2007-10-24 17:39:12 · 5 answers · asked by lady 16 4

There are three kids in my family ... me, my brother who is engaged and my sister who is married.

When talking about getting a Christmas gift for my parents; my siblings think it is fair to split the gift three ways since they are both couples so apparently each couple counts as one person. They don't see that their thirds of the gift are actually split between two incomes and my third of the gift is only coming from ONE income so technically I am paying more money.

I know it sounds stupid and I'll pay one third either way but they are so pig headed that they don't even see where I'm coming from. I just need one person to tell me they know exactly where I am coming from.

They want me to pay $60 for a gift out of my ONE salary when they are paying $60 out of TWO salaries. There has to be something wrong with this picture.

2007-10-24 17:37:33 · 19 answers · asked by Jenny M 1

I am of age...I can afford it...I am mature enough to...

They were overprotective...and wanted me to go to school for something I didn't want to do...they don't seem to trust me, even though I have never partied or betrayed their trust until starting to move out...I told them last night...and they got so upset that I thought they were going to hit me, so I left...

but now I feel guilty...and irresponsible to have just left, with dumping it on them and leaving...at the time it felt like the right thing to do...but now...I don't know...

Advice? Personal opinions? Options?

2007-10-24 17:35:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just turn 17 in august I am the only child my mother treats me like a 10 year old. I live in newyork so after skool I want to hang with my friends and walk around in the mall but no I can't I have to stay home. I think that she thinks that I'm irresponable I have not done anything bad that she can't let me go out or hang with my friends . My cuzzin is 14 she gets to go to the mall with her friends ... for example I was at my aunt house and I was at my friend house across the street and she was going to the store she calls me to tell me she wants me to get in the car with her and the store is just up the block. I just want to know what should I say to her.

2007-10-24 17:17:08 · 7 answers · asked by Mz.Single90 1

Well right now IDK if I am or not. I guess im being paranoid but Im worried. Im 18 Im still with the same guy and we have been together for almost 6 months. Were planning on getting married. Weve known each other since our 9th grade year in High School. My parents love him (they've NEVER done this with ANYONE else) I love him soo much and I KNOW hell be there for me threw it all but hes worried bc him and my dad got close and he doesnt want to let him down and I dont want to let my daddy or mom down either. And before any1 starts saying IDK what love is then I dont want ur help. I am mature enuf to be doing mature adult things but if u only knew my mom ud be scard too. If i was 30 and moved out id still be scard to tell her. but PLEASE all young mothers and mothers that got PG young PLEASE lemme know sumthing!

2007-10-24 16:42:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need help wat to do....my bf's mom is being such a ***** !! i have done absolutely nothing 2 her and she dislikes me for no reason! i've tried my best to impress her and be very respectful to her but nothing is working. she gives me such dirty looks and im fed up with it. his sister is the same way. the only one who actually seems to like me is his dad and hes a preacher. they say their christians but why in the hell are they being so judgemental of me. im about to the point where im about 2 say some mean things b/c even at church they're being rude. what do i do?

2007-10-24 15:55:56 · 9 answers · asked by drummer chic 2

I just learned that the twin girls I raised were not mine, I am heart broken. How do I cope? Only positive advice please.

2007-10-24 15:26:21 · 5 answers · asked by Jon 1

2007-10-24 15:22:14 · 9 answers · asked by LONITA F 1

I asked my neighbor to drive me home tomorrow and my mom was all pissed about how innapropriate it was and she went to call her to tell her no

2007-10-24 15:13:32 · 10 answers · asked by And For A Moment I Am Happy 6

I live with my husband and two sons.

Since the time of my marriage I have never seen my father-in-law. He has never visited or written to us. I understand from my husband that he did not approve of the marriage between his son and I. In fact, I understand that he had selected a certain girl for his son but he had to back off on his choice when my husband insisted on marrying me. I can't help but believe however, that it is his prejudice against my tribe that he has not even attempted to see his own grandsons.

I drafted a letter that I will be sending to him regarding my sons' desire to meet him however, I feel that this is just a drop in the bucket towards helping all of us to becone one big happy family. Is there anything else I can do in helping all of us in moving towards being one big happy family?

Please give me some advice on this as I am desparate.

2007-10-24 14:44:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents have been going through some financial troubles lately. I will give you a brief back story just so you can have more information.

Two years ago my sister lost both of her kids to the Division of Childrens Services. In an effort to keep the kids in the family my mother and step father adopted them. But with all the lawyer fees and having to buy the kids all new things (beds, clothes, etc) they have maxed out all their credit cards and just buried themselves in debt. On top of that my sister has been asking to borrow money so that she can pay rent, electric etc etc.

Ok so now to the question...

My mom's family all make good money. She has NEVER asked them for any money and is too proud to ask now. Would it be ok for me to send them all a letter or something explaining the situation and asking for help or should I just stay out of it. I don't know what to do cause I don't have any extra money to give her or I would. All help is appreciated. Thanks in advance!

2007-10-24 13:49:51 · 8 answers · asked by gofigure 4

2007-10-24 13:43:56 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-24 13:33:53 · 3 answers · asked by peaches6 7

They're so annoying, and plus, i understand that I am at an age where tension between the parents is normal (im 13) But i wanna be a good daughter, and stop back-talking to them. I want to control my anger, and just stop.. but how?

2007-10-24 13:32:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am begining to hate him a lot... I have never hated a child as much as I am begining to hate him. Sounds awful I know, but once you read my story you will understand how I feel. He is realyl skecthy and wierd... and no he doesnt have any health issues trust me... but whenever my mom helps him with his homework and he can't do it right he starts getting angry with her and blames her for his problems. Then he starts telling my mom he hates her and that he is oging to run away. My mom keeps sendin him to bed, but he keeps getting back up and telling her off. Today he went to the bathroom and all I told him was to wash his hands. He screamed at the top of his lungs and told me to go away. He did this repeatedly for a while. Then we got into a fight, because I am 16 I can't hit him to hard. Sometimes I want to, but that would kill him. When we fight he always says he is going to stab me, slit my throat, or call the cops. Then he says he wishes I was buried in a tombstone. Whats up that?

2007-10-24 13:11:37 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

She married this person this year with no member of her entire family,or any friends from her life before she met him.I have read emails she has sent people about what was supposed to have happened the day he abused me in my own home while she stood by.I dont know what to do as I dont want her to think I forgive him,this time he went too far,but she sent me a card for my birthday nothing like she would normally send(we were a very very close family at one time)& a cheque for £15 which I wont be cashing.All I would have liked is a txt.Its almost as if she is pretending nothing has happened.Its a long story so dont judge me on just what I have written.I have been nothing but kind to this person,even didnt go mad when I found out he had made a 16yr old pregnant,my daughters and his bussiness,but I do feel I had every right to object to him abusing me.I want to tell my daughter I got her card but dont know how to without writing what I feel and alienating her.Am I best to ignore the card?

2007-10-24 13:01:58 · 3 answers · asked by Big momma 2

Ok, I have tryed talking to my friends about this but, they are all to self absobed to care................. then when I try talking to some other people about it they say this"you get what ever you ask for in life stop talking like that'!Every one has the problems rich or poor but, any ways.....

First, I will be sitting there talking to my mom in are Tv room and he will walk in and just not talk to me or say anything(to me)....

Next, He keeps telling me I need to start play polo or golf like him but, I DONT WANT TO!One day I said to myself " Im going to try this when I do he screams @ me about how I cant do it.....
Last,Ok what should I do just pay no mind to hem like I have been doing for the past week or what I cant talk to hem I would make hem feel bad and I unlike hem cear how people feel.

2007-10-24 12:57:36 · 8 answers · asked by Bill Gates's Bigesst Fan! 1

i hate my sister because of all the horrible things shes done in the past and when i spoke to her last year she said she wanted to sort things out between us and stuff, after like 2 weeks of knowing her she was really horrible to me and start insulting me and treating me bad, i havent spoken to her for over a year now but wish we got along and put the past behind but dont think that will happen, what do u think, shall i just put her behind too and forget bad people like that,

2007-10-24 12:55:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-24 12:35:58 · 6 answers · asked by Honey 1

2007-10-24 12:31:17 · 2 answers · asked by dumbuglyweirdo 5

uhm, is this abuse of any sort or something?
well my mom is normal, [seemingly] sometimes.
like the usual thought of what a mom would seem,
but sometimes she loses her temper and starts cussing at me or whoever and she'll just get frustrated [i wish i could smack her mouth shut].
right now, my little forgot to defrost a frozen chicken thing we were gonna eat tonight she forgot to take it out of the freezer is all then when my mom got home she went into idiot mode.
she just screamed and cussed at my sister and slapped her on the back of her head.
she does this often WHEN she is ANGRY,
but it's not like a daily thing she does on purpose to hurt us purposefully.
uhm i was just wondering, first of all, she's an idiot, and second, does she need anger management or something?
and when we did tell someone on her once, that she abuses us, she always responds 'oh i'm just trying to discipline them, oh i would never hurt them, oh blah'
and she cries
ugh i'm sick of this, what do i do?

2007-10-24 12:31:11 · 4 answers · asked by Alan 4

i am 17 years old just so u can know.yesterday afterschool i went to kfc to pick up my uniform & the manger told me i start working on friday so i came home & told my dad that i worked to work but i really didnt but since he didnt know i put on my uniform & i went to my b/f house but my dad thought i was at work so he went to my work cuz i forgot my kfc hat in my room so he went to take it to me but the employees told him i dont work their & at 9pm i called him to pick me up from work & he said he was outside my job & they told him i dont work so he made me go to kfc & in front of the employees he told them that i told him that i had to work & the employees told him that i dont that i start friday & it was so embarassing so can i get fired for that or will i get a warning or something well

2007-10-24 12:26:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My name is Julie and im 17 years old and last night my dad was going through my stuff and he some how found my box of notes that i right at school with friends and i told him to get out of them and that i need privacey ( i dont think i spelt that right).He got mad at me and said the im a stupid ***** and that he hates me he says this all the time when hes gets mad. do you think he really means it? i been thinking about running away to a friends house. i might go stay with a friend tomorrow and not tell my dad where i am. my dad wouldnt even care where i am. i hate my dad....

2007-10-24 11:59:57 · 44 answers · asked by julie b 1

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2007-10-24 11:48:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-24 11:41:01 · 5 answers · asked by kittykat 1

My husband has a big passion. Planes, aero-models, flying plates, gliders....
I love him very much but he always has something to do when I need him.

If there is a wife with the same problem, please contact me.

2007-10-24 11:11:43 · 3 answers · asked by Corina 2