I am of age...I can afford it...I am mature enough to...
They were overprotective...and wanted me to go to school for something I didn't want to do...they don't seem to trust me, even though I have never partied or betrayed their trust until starting to move out...I told them last night...and they got so upset that I thought they were going to hit me, so I left...
but now I feel guilty...and irresponsible to have just left, with dumping it on them and leaving...at the time it felt like the right thing to do...but now...I don't know...
Advice? Personal opinions? Options?
2007-10-24 17:35:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If they were wanting to control you and make you take classes that you don't want to take, and I'm sure you expressed how serious you were about not wanting to take those classes, then yes, you did the right thing by leaving. Your parents can't force you to do something that you don't want to do when you are old enough to care for yourself. I am sorry that you and your parent's couldn't come to some sort of a middle ground on some kind of college education for you though. Maybe give it a few days for them to calm down and try calling and talking to them. Maybe moving out will let them know how serious you are about it and they might change their minds. If they want you to have some sort of education, then they should anyway. Good luck.
2007-10-24 17:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they acted like that I would have left also. You are an adult and you can do what ever you want. Don't let them bully you into anything that you do not want. I can see why you needed to get out. You need to be your own person. They reacted with anger and so did you. I would still move. They should not treat you like you are untrustworthy if you have not given them a reason .They sound controlling. You need to make yourself happy and if they cannot accept that so be it. It sounds like they try to be intimidating to you. If you let your parents control you they will forever. Good luck.
2007-10-24 18:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them some time to come to terms with your adulthood. Don't let them guilt you into or out of anything.
You have to live your own life and they really have to respect that.
Actually, the fact that you are self-supporting and independent means they are successful parents.... you can praise them for that.
Check in by phone every so often. After a while, maybe even invite them over to dinner.
2007-10-24 17:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a parent myself let me tell you it is hard to let a child move out...They aren't being over protective, they just love you.
Why not go to the house and tell them you are sorry for acting the way you did and let them know you love them and appreciate them but that you need to start making your own choices . If you want them to treat you like an adult you need to act that way.
2007-10-24 17:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T LET YOUR PARENTS LAY THE GUILT TRIP ON YOU. THERE COMES A POINT IN YOUR LIFE WHEN YOU HAVE TO STAND ON YOUR OWN TWO. REMEMBER IN THEIR EYES YOU WILL ALWAYS BE THAT BABY THEY CONCEIVED.
2007-10-24 17:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by Sean E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to being a grown up! Hopefully your parents will get there someday, too.
Yes, you did the right thing. They are being very silly.
2007-10-24 17:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jodie G 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋