I need help wat to do....my bf's mom is being such a ***** !! i have done absolutely nothing 2 her and she dislikes me for no reason! i've tried my best to impress her and be very respectful to her but nothing is working. she gives me such dirty looks and im fed up with it. his sister is the same way. the only one who actually seems to like me is his dad and hes a preacher. they say their christians but why in the hell are they being so judgemental of me. im about to the point where im about 2 say some mean things b/c even at church they're being rude. what do i do?
2007-10-24 15:55:56 · 9 answers · asked by drummer chic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The best thing to do is keep being nice no matter how hard it is. My mother-in-law was rude to me for a long time. She went as far as sticking me on the floor to sleep at her house when we drove 5 hrs for a visit when I was 61/2 mos pregnant with twins to give my brother-in-law and his girlfriend (no she was not pregnant and they weren't even married so why did they need the bedroom?!) the extra bed who by the way arrived 1am and we got to the house at 7pm the night before but she wouldn't let us have the bed!! She has bought me dishes for Christmas bc she doesn't like the ones I have and will flat out say so, she bought me frying pan for my birthday bc she didn't like my frying pan to cook in when she comes to visit, etc. Well, I kept being nice and now 8 years later she is finally nice to me and is hateful to my brother-in-laws wife. In the end you will come up smelling like roses and she will stink (especially in your boyfriend's eyes) and don't think God doesn't see how she is treating you. She is not setting a good example. Good luck to you and God bless!
2007-10-24 16:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by Theresa W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by saying something and losing it at her , you will only cause grieve between your bf and you . try and pull her aside and ask her her problem with you , tell her that you love her son and there is not rule a saying that you must love her , but out of love for your bf you will respect her as his mother ,because you are a decent human being , and that the way she is carrying on towards you is slowly chipping away at the respect that you have for her and that if she cared about her son she would at least respect the fact that he has chosen yourself as a girlfriend . leave it at that puts the issue back on her she needs to grow up
2007-10-24 23:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by justanother1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriends should tell them both that their behavior will not be tolerated. I would find another church for starters. The should not be judging you. Sounds like great christians to me! I would call them on it. Just ask them why they are looking at you like that? You don't have to take that kind of treatment from anyone. When they know that you will not tolerate they will stop and just start doing it behind your back instead. Good luck.
2007-10-25 01:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't agree with your relationship with their son/brother !!. Thats it. So, showing an "impression" doesn't work at all. It is the real YOU that people see. They don't look at the "artificial" surface of a person. He's trying to be "seem to like you" is b coz, he want to tell you that he's a christian in deeds as well as what he preaches. So, just be a casual friend with him.. not special bf. You will see the changes !! I bet you...
2007-10-24 23:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by charm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your b/f stick up for you when they are acting like this? If he is not saying something, then you are dating a mommas boy. Hes afraid to hurt his moms feelings. he cares to much about her feelings than yours. My mother was this way with my wife at first. She was so stuck on my first wife that I was divorced from for over 5 years. She didnt really get along with my wife now. My wife kept telling me that it bothered her. Then one day my mom siad something and I went off. I didnt speak to her for awhile, but I finally told her that this is the person that I am with, so either except it or we wont talk. If he wont stick up for you, then perhaps you need to walk.
2007-10-24 23:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by pumper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything. Just keep being nice. They are just being brats and no one will ever be good enough for your boyfriend. Be greatful that the father likes you.
2007-10-24 23:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember that just b/c there christians doesn't mean they're not human! just keep being nice to them and being respectful even if they make you angry- if you say something than you will regret it and will have an even harder time trying to get them on your side. also try taking them somewhere they would like to go, shopping and ask there advice then take it even if it is just on one shirt, scrapbooking party, even knitting, show them your trying to make an effort :)
2007-10-24 23:31:04 · answer #7 · answered by sweet 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
some ppl react defensively (or nastily) bcos they feel threatened. wahtever the reasons, keep your cool & dun bring urself to her level. show her ur better by being the matured one. just ignore her, so long ur bf is not the one who's nasty to you. G'Luck
2007-10-24 23:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back off.
if you say anything the romance will be over.
take care and keep quiet.
2007-10-24 23:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋