Is a dis-functional family normal?

Question

my famliy is so screwed-up. My parents got divored when I was 6 and only now did I start living with my mom. Her and my dad are in court for custidy for me and my brother. I have 2 half brothers that i don't even really know. I don't want to live my dad but he has more money and can take me and my brother away from my mom. The air is thick and everyone will exploded for no reason. what are some things I can do to isolate myself for awile.

Answer 1

I suggest you call the kid's help phone [phone]) they're toll free and won't show on the phone bill. then find a friend you can talk to. sleep over at her house. Don't be afraid to cry. If you have a friend who goes on a lot of trips, ask her if her family would consider taking you along. This situation really sucks. Write out the pros and cons of living with each parent. Write a letter to each parent voicing your opinions on everything in the matter, including feelings about the half brothers, fighting etc. Include the pro/con lists with the appropriate letters. Give'em to ur parents.

Answer 2

What the hell is "normal"? There are so many different kinds of family now-a-days that there's no such thing as "normal" any more. Most families that I know are "disfunctional". If ur thinking of something like The Brady Bunch then that's ridiculous cos that kind of family just does not exist any more. Or maybe Leave It To Beaver. But second thoughts, maybe ur too young to remember those shows.
But the only thing u can do to isolate urself, apart from actually leaving the house, is to shut urself up in ur room. I'm sorry to be so blunt, love, but I do know exactly how u feel.

Answer 3

You can talk to the courts and ask to be in primary custody of whichever parent you want. I think they start letting the kids choose for themselves around age 12, but check for your area.
The thing is, it doesn't have to be "all or nothing" as your parents seem to think. To them it is more about control and posession.
You can specify that you live with one parent and stay alternate weekends with the other.
You can tell each parent that you love them, and try to support them emotionally so that they will cool down... they can both have you, and you want both of them. Their feelings are still quite raw and it will take some patience.

Other than that, just do as well as you can in your studies, and whatever chores you have to do, stay out of trouble and keep a low profile. Learn to take a good, long walk every so often. The exercise will clear your head and release the happy hormones so you will feel better.

Answer 4

So sorry that you are goung thru this...Sometimes life can feel so unfare!! Is there anyway you can talk to you dad and let him know how you feel? Maybe if you let him know you don't want to live him, hopefully he will respect your wishes and let you go back to your mom..money isn;t everything, and if you let him know that it doesn't matter to you, what matters is you living with your mom, maybe he will back offf and let you be happy. Because that is what it is supposed to be about, your happiness!! If he doesn't understand and you need to get away, maybe try joining a group or school activity, depending on how old you are, you can get involved from anything from swimming lessons to martial arts. I suggest martial arts because it is a good way to release negative energy, while gathering positve ones. it never hurts to know how to kick a little butt as well!! it will get you out of the house and to somewhere positve, because you don't want to feel trapped at home with nowere to go, that will just lead to trouble..
Anyhow, I hoped I halped a little bet, and I hope your situatuion gets better. Stay strong!!
good luck!!

Answer 5

Are you wanting to isolate yourself, or escape into something else? If you're wanting to escape...I'd suggest reading, video games, music w/ headphones...I actually prefer reading myself, because you have to force yourself to get into the story to follow it, and you don't focus on whats happening around you.