How do you deal with your mother's death?

Answer 1

i lost my mother violently 14 yrs ago , i have never really got back to the person i was before she died , losing your mother is like losing a part of you , but i always knew that my mother always wanted me to be the best i could be and live a good and happy life , so i owe it to her to be happy and live a good life , she worked at providing that for me .....one thing that is certain in life ,is death, we all must at one time or another face it , every person loses a mother you are no exception , grieve for your loss , but be thankful that you where blessed to have her as your mother and live for her and the way she wanted you to live, after all she gave you life..... time will help you heal ,its not always going to hurt.

Answer 2

I'm sorry for your loss. The death of a parent is a very difficult process in the happenings of your life. I know this because my father passed two years ago this November. It's not really something you deal with, but is instead something that you have to adjust to and accept as time moves forward. It's all a learning process, as you continue to live your life day-by-day.

I was 38 when I lost my dad. Later, a friend asked me how it felt and the best description that I could give her was this. Remember when you were a child and you became separated from your parent in a public place? Did this ever happen to you? If so, do you remember the absolute fear and panic that you felt...the feeling of being alone and never seeing them again? Do you recall how strong that feeling was and how afraid you felt? Well, that the experience has been for me and what it has felt like...yet I'm an adult, he's really gone and I'm really alone this time.

You don't state your age or how long ago it was that your mother passed. If you wish to talk...feel free to contact me. Sometimes it's just good therapy to bounce off what you're feeling, what you're experiencing to validate your feelings with someone that's had the same or similar experience. I leave you with a ((hug)). Take care.

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Answer 3

SUPPORT SUPPORT SUPPORT!!! I cannot stress that enough.

My father passed away in March of 2006 and I was devestated. He passed away going to the doctors office because he was having chest pain. He wrecked his truck and died from a massive heart attack before anyone could reach him. I didnt get much support from my family, my mom was more concerned about his cigarettes and his belongings that she wanted more than being there for me (mom and dad split when I was 3, Im 24 now). I have very little left when it comes to family on my mothers side. I dont really know my dads side of the family. I have 2 1/2 sisters and a big family on my dads side. Its a long story....

I had to make the decisions all on my own, no one stepped up to help me... funeral arrangements, the sale of the property, the only stability I had in the last 10 years of my life... I had to sell my childhood and my fathers house.... all on my own.

I fell into a great state of depression, then I was laid off from my job. I nearly came to the point where I wanted to end it all... that I had had enough. My boyfriend (of the time) who stuck with me through most of it, fell to the way side and gave up on me. I got a new job, then he cheated on me with his co-worker...... then I left him.

Support is a major MAJOR thing that one needs to have when dealing with the death of a loved one. If you cant seek/find it through family, find outlets to vent and get support from...... Please dont go through this without it.......

Hope this helped some.....

Answer 4

well I would say this would depend on how old you are when
your mom passes . I was 20 when my mom passed away which was 3 years ago . It was really hard to with and still is especailly around holidays . though you still feel there presance sometimes and that is wht helps with me . other then that you just basically have to deal with it cause really you don't have a choice . I would say find a really great support group also . goodluck and godbless .

Answer 5

very sorry for your loss, my mom passed 2 weeks ago and I'm 26. t's very hard and will just get harder just remember the love that was there and the feelings that your mom would want you to have, I think of my mom everyday all the time. It's something that has to heal with time . Good luck to you and your memories you your mother

Answer 6

Try expressing some of your feelings by writing them down in a journal, or even writing letters to your mother. No one has to see them. Talk to people about it, don't keep what you feel bottled up.

Answer 7

I kept all my pain in and that wasn't good. now my dad and my grandpa dies just recently and I feel like ****! go talk to somebody and let all your stress out. tell yourself you can still make it! I hope all is well!

Answer 8

sorry i have not gone thru that my heart goes out to you and your family look to GOD HES OUR HELP IN THESE TIMES MAY GOD BLESS

Answer 9

you. are asking people. that you've never met. how to deal. with something that serious. you're kidding.