I moved into my own apartment in August of 2006. Two weeks after I moved in, my older brother told me that he and his wife were seperating. He ask if he could stay with me for a couple of weeks and of course I said yes. Well those couple of weeks have turned into a year. I am due to have a baby boy in February 2008 and would like to be in my apartment alone, with my child and his father. Except I have no idea how to tell my brother. Does anyone know how I can tell him without hurting his feelings?
2007-10-24 17:54:18 · 5 answers · asked by DAG314 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First do some research on apartments near your. Get an apartment locator. They are free. I used two or three when I first moved out and you can just ditch them if you don't need them. Simply say "I changed my mind about moving" But keep the info they give you to give you your brother.
Then sit down with your brother alone (Don't invite your childs father cuz it may seem like he put the idea in your head or something). Explain to your brother what you told us here. You need the space for your new baby. You can exaggerate to paint a picture of how noisy and chaotic it will be once the baby gets home. Tell him you love him and are sorry that he and his wife separated, but you've been supportive for a year. That's more than enough time4 him to save a few paychecks to get a new place to live. After you tell him this give him 2-3 months to move out. If he doesn't leave, get your man and parents to say something, use the police as a last resort.
Best Wishes for you and your new family.
2007-10-25 06:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by xtraluvly03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a sit down with him and your husband. Explain that you've enjoyed having him here, but with the baby coming the situation is just going to have to change so you can learn to be a family. Tell him that he will have to leave by (you set the time) and that you will help him search for an apartment.
If he does not make any moves to find an apartment or move out within a couple of weeks of your deadline you will have to be firmer. If your parents are alive you may want to enlist their help here with the psychological pressure,lol
2007-10-24 18:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by stella_again 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is a freeloader. He will no doubt play the guilt card for all it is worth.
I would say that you need to sit him down for a talk and tell him that you need him out of your apartment in 2 weeks... period. You need that room for the baby and its stuff.
You can also check with the apartment staff to see if there is an apartment available for him... do what you can to make the transition smooth.
Failing that, you need to present him with a bill for 1/2 of the rent for every month that he has been there... if he is a true freeloader, he will get gone.
2007-10-24 18:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
eveyday, evey moment approch him with newpaper articles of apartments. constantly nag him in a nice way over and over. tell him your looking forward to being alone with your new baby and your man. after 1 week of this if he doesnt leave then just be blunt,i mean it has been a year thats more than enough time
2007-10-24 18:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by onlinedesire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say hey bro,
with the baby coming we will need the extra room
or say with the baby coming the apartment will be a bit small with the four of you
or say with the baby coming he will not get much sleep and he might want to find another place to stay
2007-10-24 18:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋