I just turn 17 in august I am the only child my mother treats me like a 10 year old. I live in newyork so after skool I want to hang with my friends and walk around in the mall but no I can't I have to stay home. I think that she thinks that I'm irresponable I have not done anything bad that she can't let me go out or hang with my friends . My cuzzin is 14 she gets to go to the mall with her friends ... for example I was at my aunt house and I was at my friend house across the street and she was going to the store she calls me to tell me she wants me to get in the car with her and the store is just up the block. I just want to know what should I say to her.
2007-10-24 17:17:08 · 7 answers · asked by Mz.Single90 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you need to be clear about what you want we have the story but I'm not sure who you should say what to, your friend or the aunt, anyway maybe you should sit down with your mother and have a woman to woman talk about you becoming a woman and should have more responsibilities, and show her that she has nothing to worry about, but you must prove to her that you can be trusted, there is allot of crazy people in today's world and she just has a undying love for you and one day you will understand, but it is unhealthy for you not to venture out and have some real experiences on your own with a little guidance from mom, she only has one child and she doesn't want to lose you but she at some point has to let go, AT LEAST A LITTLE, Not sure but maybe you should get a part time job and show her you are trying to be mature, if you don't already have one. Good luck
2007-10-24 17:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by Sis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only reason she is being protective is because she loves you and cares about you.She doesnt want anything 2 happen 2 u so the savest place in her eyes is if u are with her. I am 23 and my mother was the same but i never understood until i became a mother. I have a 4 year old in Pre-k and i want to take him 2 school and pick him up because im scared of something happening to him. So dont think your mom is being mean its just that she loves you. Let her now that you understand that she cares so much.
2007-10-24 17:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by stay@homemom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up. Your mom loves you and wants you to make it to adulthood in one piece. For you, adulthood is only about 4 to 5 years away. After that you will have your entire life (probably about another 55 to 60 years) to go and hang at the mall with your friends if you wish.
2007-10-24 17:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With such a protective and possesive mother its not easy to spread your wings . But you will have to do it . At first it will be realy hard on you and also on her How to do it ; You will have to assert yourself in action Like next time your cousin is asking you to go to the store ,, Wll go and tell your mother with a assertive voice I am going to the store and leave the house When you will be back expect tears and maybe some screaming but you have to stay firm . Tell your mother ;;From now on I am ging to live the life of a 17 yr But I promisse you mom it will be a decent life Now are you strong enough to cut the ombilical cord You are the only one who have the answer
2007-10-24 17:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're mother loves you and wants to protect you, but she is doing you a disservice by not allowing you to learn to make some decisions on your own. Could your aunt intervene on your behalf? You will be eighteen soon, and an adult, without a clue as to how to handle yourself in the real world.
2007-10-24 17:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kaya 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your Mama is right, bet you your 14 year old cousin will be preggers at 16, Mama loves you and just wants better for you than preggers and on welfare...good for her.
2007-10-24 17:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by Glinda W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is NY we're talking about? Then there's no such thing as too protective!
2007-10-24 19:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋