How can I tell my parents Im pregnat?

Question

Well right now IDK if I am or not. I guess im being paranoid but Im worried. Im 18 Im still with the same guy and we have been together for almost 6 months. Were planning on getting married. Weve known each other since our 9th grade year in High School. My parents love him (they've NEVER done this with ANYONE else) I love him soo much and I KNOW hell be there for me threw it all but hes worried bc him and my dad got close and he doesnt want to let him down and I dont want to let my daddy or mom down either. And before any1 starts saying IDK what love is then I dont want ur help. I am mature enuf to be doing mature adult things but if u only knew my mom ud be scard too. If i was 30 and moved out id still be scard to tell her. but PLEASE all young mothers and mothers that got PG young PLEASE lemme know sumthing!

Ok i said for ppl that are just going to be rude and NOT try to help then DO NOT respond.!

Answer 1

do you have a job?
does you boyfriend have a job?
if yes go rent an apartment.
first make sure if you are pregnant, sometimes there are some clinics that do free pregnancy test look for one and go. if you are, you need to talk to them (parents) if you are not protect yourself every time that you have sex, use a condom if you don't have pills. is a very bad situation i understand.
I was 16 when i got pregnant and i talk to my parents right away i don't think that there is a choice you need to let them now specially if you are going to live in their house. Good Luck

Answer 2

If you are mature enough to be doing adult things, then ask yourself this:
"Why wasn't I MATURE enough to be utilizing safe sex practices, so that my boyfriend & I wouldn't be facing the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy?"

My wife & I had our son back when I was 20, & she was 18, 37 yrs ago. It wasn't a planned pregnancy and we were very young and unprepared.
He has since grown, & married, & we have a beautiful granddaughter now, who we are very blessed to have in our lives.
So you should know that an event like this doesn't ruin your life. It just changes it dramatically. Whether or not the changes turn out to be joyfull, & satisfying is entirely up to you.

I have two very important recommendations for you, & I hope you follow them.
1) Find out if you are indeed pregnant BEFORE you go & say anything to your parents, & do it quickly!
2) If it turns out that you have dodged a bullet this time, (and even if you didn't) don't have anymore unprotected sex with ANYBODY again until you absolutely positively are prepared to take on the responsibility of being parents.

As for what to say to YOUR parents?
I get the sense that you are looking for a group of words that will make this news easier for everyone to hear.
Once you know that it's a real pregnancy you are going to have to tell them sometime, & no matter how you sugar coat it the words are going to translate into the exact same meaning. "Mom...Dad... I'M PREGNANT!"

I don't think it's what you say that can make the difference here, but more likely the time & place you choose to do it.
As for the time, I suggest that you tell them as soon as you know for sure, but not during a time when they are involved with other things like during dinner or while watching TV or anything like that.
Perhaps your boyfriend should be there as well (but that could be up to you) but I would just keep it down to your mom, dad, & boyfriend. The rest of the family can hear the news later. Gather everyone around the kitchen table, or in the livingroom. Turn off the TV, radio and other distractions and tell them in your own words what is going on.

I would say congratulations, but I know that you probably aren't in any mood for that right now, so instead I will say good luck and all the best to you, and your future family.

Answer 3

Well, first things first. Before you worry yourself to death about telling them, go to the drug store and get a couple of pregnancy tests. If they come up negative, make an appointment at your doctor's office or a Planned Parenthood for some birth control. That way you and your boyfriend can relax and enjoy each other without worrying about getting pregnant. If the test does in fact confirm that you're pregnant, you really just need to approach your parents together as a couple and tell them your plans. Make sure that the two of you have discussed thoroughly how you're going to support and take care of this baby and whether or not you're going to get married. That way, you will already have the answers for your parents and they will see that you are being responsible adults about the situation and they won't have to worry about you not thinking things through. If what you said is really true, you two are getting married and you really love each other, even if your parents are worried and a little disappointed now they will be thrilled when they have a new grandchild and a daughter and son-in-law who stepped up to the plate and became fantastic parents. Best of luck to you!!

Answer 4

You really should worry about any of this until you know if you are pregnant or not. The best idea would be to go to a clinic to have the pregnancy test and then if you get a positive result you can talk to the doctor or a counsellor there about your fears of how to talk to your parents. Churches also are very helpful on this subject and can help mediate discussions between children and parents on these tough subjects as well as helping you to decide what you will do next.
First, take the test then cross the next bridge when you reach it!

Answer 5

I feel for you. I have been there. There is not an easy way to do it. Just spit it out. Will your boyfriend go with you? If he will I would take him. They might get mad and yell. Mine did and then they demanded that I get an abortion. I was 22 years old. They also called me a whore. I told them that if I dropped the baby off for them to raise they could then complain otherwise it was none of their business. He is now 17. The bottom line is you are an adult. We all make mistakes and I am sure that your parents have made their own. Don;t let them make you feel bad or force you to do anything that you do not want to do. You are going to do a lot of things in your life that your parents do not approve of. It does not matter. You have to live your life for you. You need to make sure that you are happy. I am sure that you parents did not let their own parents dictate ot them so they should not expect to do it to you. Good luck dear, I wish you the best.

Answer 6

First thing, get a test & find out if you are pregnant.If you are, then you & your bf tell them together. That way you only have to go thru the emotions once, less stress on you & your baby.The best way is to be honest with your parents. All parents fear their daughter getting pregnant, they will most likely be upset at 1st,hang in there they WILL come around. The best thing for your bf to do is to show your parents what a man he really is & be there for you & baby. The worst thing anyone hates is a dead beat dad. It sounds like you have a good relationship w/your parents & your bf, things should be fine. Good luck !!
I just went thru this w/my daughter, at 1st I was scared for her but now i'm a happy grandma.

Answer 7

Ok, I was 18 when I found out I was pregnant and I didn't tell my mom until a week before I had her, for the same reason as you. But let me tell you, when I told her I got rid of all the stress and anxiety that I had been holdingin for 9 months. I thought she would hate me forever, but she didn't. Families get over things like that. She was actually excited and started telling all of her friends and family.

But before you say anything I would see your doctor to find out for sure. No reason making a big deal out of something that isn't there. Good luck!

Answer 8

Once you know for certain that you are pregnant, you and your boyfriend should sit down with your parents and tell them. If you don't think you can handle that, then you alone tell your mother for a start.

You've asked for feedback from young mothers. I was a young mother. I was also the mother of two young girls, both of whom fell in love when they were about your age. Their dad and I were there for them, even though we didn't always approve of what they were doing. We loved them. And your parents love you.

Get yourself a home-pregnancy test. Then take it from there. Your parents might surprise you. Please trust me on this.

Take care ... and try not to worry too much.

Answer 9

Hey, I know how you fill. I was 18 when I got pregnant for the first time two but my dad did not like the guy I was with and I did not trust him. I was so scared to tale m y dad. I almost had a anxiety attack trying to get up the nerve to tale him. Me and my boyfriend decided to invite him to his house for dinner and set him down and talk to him. My boyfriend when to buy some beer for them two. He came over and after dinner we seed dad we have something to talk to you about. We told him and gave him a little bit for it to sink in and then my boyfriend and him went out side with the beers and talked. It went pretty good, he was a little upset but that is to be expected. I can say that it never gets easier. When I had my other child with my husband I was still scared to tale him but he was not upset that time. All I can tale you is, to take the test, but make shore you go get the Dr. to do one to. It is best to get a Dr. to do one so you know foreshore before you go down that road. The home tests can be wrong. If you end up being pregnet, just don't keep puting it off. It would be best for you and your boyfriend to set down with them and tale them. I would do it at home. Ware if they need some time to let it sinck in they can. I would give them there space if they need it. The best thing for yall to do is work out what yall plan to do with yalls lifes and how they child is going to fitt in that plan. Let them know yall will be able to do this and yall plan an taking care of this child on your own. Do yall plan on geting marred? If so talk to them about your plans on that to. That is all I can give ya and hoipe it helps. Good luck, and good luck with the child to, if you are. I gave you some support groups but you can also look in your twon for soom to help young moms to be.

http://www.helpmoms.org/
http://www.myspace.com/teenmotherssupport
http://www.cafemom.com/
http://www.ivillage.com/

Answer 10

If you are prego then come to them as an adult and tell them. This should be an exciting moment in the both of your lives so be happy and take care your bizz by your baby and your parents wont have a problem