Ok, I have tryed talking to my friends about this but, they are all to self absobed to care................. then when I try talking to some other people about it they say this"you get what ever you ask for in life stop talking like that'!Every one has the problems rich or poor but, any ways.....
First, I will be sitting there talking to my mom in are Tv room and he will walk in and just not talk to me or say anything(to me)....
Next, He keeps telling me I need to start play polo or golf like him but, I DONT WANT TO!One day I said to myself " Im going to try this when I do he screams @ me about how I cant do it.....
Last,Ok what should I do just pay no mind to hem like I have been doing for the past week or what I cant talk to hem I would make hem feel bad and I unlike hem cear how people feel.
2007-10-24 12:57:36 · 8 answers · asked by Bill Gates's Bigesst Fan! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You don't mention your age. I'll assume you are in high school.
Your dad may be one of those guys that doesn't express emotions or sentiment very well. Maybe he is under a lot of stress at work.
He is right that one should have some kind of exercise and it does look good on your curriculum vitae (transcript) to show that you are a more rounded person. Golf and polo are very upper-crust type sports. Maybe you would prefer something that moves a bit differently like racquetball or tennis, or even soccer.
The good thing is that your mom is talking to you.
When your dad comes in and doesn't acknowledge you, just pipe up and say "Good evening, dad! Can I get you a beer?" or something like that. He would have to respond to an offer.
2007-10-24 13:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making a huge assumption that he hates you. I"ve seen this "type" of question here a lot lately. The issue of hate, I mean. Hate is just a word people tend to use, but it's not usually accurate to describe the actual emotional feeling. He may be an ***, he may be low class, he may be non-demonstrative, he may have all kinds of issues, but none of what you typed or explained shows that he hates you. In fact I'm pretty secure in telling you that HE DOES NOT HATE YOU. Move on, let him be himself, you be yourself, realizing he doesn't hate you and try to discover his real mindset.
2007-10-24 13:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if you can talk to him, then tell him you feel like he doesn't love you ans see where the talk goes from there. What does your Mom say about this? And for the record I don't think for a minute that he hates you, if he is in his 40's he has issues of his own, hang in there.
2007-10-24 13:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad expects you to like the things that he does.Maybe you could try plaing golf with him one weekend.Or try finding an activity that you would both enjoy.Make a compromise to do something together.Men are not good communicating.
2007-10-24 13:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is resentful of the fact ( as you stated ) that you "do not want to" do things that he does. Most typical dads expect their sons to be like they are. Given that you do not seem to be, he may be experiencing emotional stress over this. Perhaps being involved in things your dad enjoys is his way of trying to feel closer to you.
If you expect your dad to be aware of, understand, and respect your feelings, then perhaps you should be equally prepared to do the same for his feelings.
Find a common interest with your dad, it sounds to me like he just feels distance between you, and maybe that hurts His feelings.
2007-10-24 13:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by Shinji 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should talk to your mom about it.... or try approaching your dad and tell him your not interested in his sports, and that when you do partake in them he cuts you down....that this hurts your feelings and you really wanna have a nice relationship with him...ask him whats on his mind . most likely he means no harm, some people are naturally grumpy, dont take it personal...he could even be a lil envious of you who knows,mayb he sees something in you he misses. in the end if he still acting this way.....just ignore him,its his lost, not yours!
2007-10-24 13:12:38 · answer #6 · answered by yasinena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that may no longer your genuine father. Our Lord Jesus is. i'm very sorry you have a recommend father and boy whilst he meets the Lord whilst he dies he extra constructive look out. God would have him pay the outcomes. you are able to talk on your mom and on your college counselor approximately it. you won't be in a position to handle this on my own. i'd even call Social amenities in case you are able to. call teen Hotlines. they'd handbook you.
2016-12-18 16:34:20 · answer #7 · answered by tedesco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i have always had dad problems but i tried to do things he liked and he did thingi like i played golf (i completely sucked, but he was bad too and he felt good cause he had finally beat someone) and then we played soccer ( i rocked his sox he was good) and now we play soccer al the time, and just talk to him, he should answer he's you dad if that doesn't work talk to your mom!
2007-10-24 13:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by crazierachie22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋