My boyfriend and I have a 4 month old baby together . We are 20 and 21. About a year ago we moved into a place together, but about a month ago he moved out because he didn't have a job and he was going out too much at night, and because he wasn't being responsible enough.
Since then he has gotten a 9-5 job, tucks the baby in at night and helps give her a bath.
I propose that if my boyfriend gets to go out twice a week that I should get two free nights as well. What are other ways we can make sure responsibility over the baby is shared equally? What have you done with your partner to make things equal?
2007-10-24 18:04:34 · 4 answers · asked by O new moon 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like you both have a lot of growing up to do.
Why don't you arrange a "date night" together and have someone babysit?
You two need to get on the same page.
2007-10-24 18:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each couple has to work out their issues for themselves. Whatever you 2 decide would be fine, but there should be a time that each of you has to be home by, like say, 9 or 10 at the latest, and carry your cell phones in case the other needs you. My husband and I both worked full-time after the kids were in school. He didn't go out at night but did spend weekends and evenings hunting, he's an archer. He spent nearly every evning until dark and every weekend and then took a 10-day trip once a year. I did nothing even close to this, spending this much time away from home. I did, however, start spending the weekend at the coast with my friends when it wasn't hunting season, and sometimes did go out after work. So you just work it out between you so that both of you and the baby are happy, healthy, and safe.
2007-10-24 18:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should also have some free time to yourself. You should also be able to go out. We don't exactly make sure it is completely equal but the both of us get to do things. He does more than I do because he hunts also but that is alright. You need to lay the ground rules early on. If you stay home and he always goes out it is hard to change it later. Figure it out now. Tell him that things need to be fair. He would not like it if you were the one going out and he was the one at home with the baby. Good luck dear.
2007-10-24 18:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are not suppose to be going out at all much less twice a week! If you go out at all get a sitter and go out together. 20 and 21 are not baby ages, time to grow up.
Don't you feel funny calling him a boyfriend and a partner when neither is correct?
2007-10-24 18:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋