2007-10-24 13:43:56 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, as long as both of you understand, before you every do anything, that it is just for the sex and not emotional. I am a woman, and I have had several friends with benefits, and I had no problems, but it is very important before you do anything that its strictly a booty call. I think there is a huge potential for problems if you 2 have been good friends a long time, without having sex, in that case I would avoid it because there is a very good chance one of you will have romantic feeling afterward, but if it's just an acquaintance and you both understand it's just sex, then you should be fine, at least I never had a problem.
2007-10-27 15:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by chocolate4vanilla76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's "benefits" and it depends on the personalities of the people. If both can keep the situation in perspective and understand that it's recreational sex with someone you are comfortable with, it's all good.
If either goes into it with 'feelings' or begins to develop feelings for the other person, they may well end up setting themselves up to be hurt.
FWBs can be great when you're not in a relationship but desire some intimacy with someone, but are kewl going home alone and not hearing from this person all the time or actually dating them. Some people can keep emotion at bay and just appreciate the situation for what it is, some cannot.
I've not regretted any of the friends with benefits I've ever had, even the one I did develop feelings for (he didn't feel the same).
2007-10-24 13:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overall, and from personal experience, I would say yes, it is bad. However, if both of you recognize the relationship as 'friends with benefits' and are accepting of it and what it may mean, then I suppose it could work. You have to remember that there is not commitment in such a relationship, you have to make sure that you are not attached emotionally at all, and your partner is not either, because when feelings become involved, it'll turn into a mess.
2007-10-24 13:49:16 · answer #3 · answered by Aileen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a touchy subject. FWB is not really a bad thing as long as you can ACTUALLY have intercourse with someone and seriously not develop any feelings. If this person is truly a good friend to you, you shudn't do it b/c it WILL ultmatley ruin your friendship.
2007-10-24 13:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by askandilltell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the friends and wether they are capable of handling something like that. In and of itself, it's not necessarily a bad thing. However, if one gets more attached than the other, problems can quickly arise.
2007-10-24 13:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by cmoskitty_99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because in this way you have a good reason to get close to a person and have another love hidden behind their back. Its not a fair excuse for both people, cause its ok to cheat this way.
2007-10-24 13:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by T Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG r u still asking ofcourse the are u like them tell them ur secrets they take what they want then move out of ur life leaving u with a broken heart
2007-10-24 15:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no ethical problem with them I don't believe, and although I don't have any personal experience with them, I have heard more negative stories than positive. In general I would say be wary.
2007-10-24 16:12:27 · answer #8 · answered by E-Rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Bad. Very Bad. Don't go there - you'll ruin a good friendship.
2007-10-24 13:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really, though it may vary on what your intentions are. It may be safe that you are the one bearing the benefits because you have something to offer.
2007-10-24 13:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by leslie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋